June 2021 club

[EwwDavid]

I’m very early with this! I found out yesterday I’m pregnant, due 1st June.

Anyone else with me yet?

@SS123456 thinking of you today, sorry for your loss

@SS123456 I'm so sorry for your loss, will be thinking of you. Hope you have someone you can talk to IRL, we all cope differently but I was glad that I had friends who knew about mine and that I could talk to. Sending many many hugs xxx

@SS123456 so sad for you, sending you lots of love. Sadly so many in this group have been through this so if we can offer any support, publicly or privately just reach out. This is a tough time so be kind to yourself.

Thank you so much ladies, your support really means a lot ❤️

I’m doing ok, still emotionally on the edge but that’s to be expected and I’m sure the sudden up and then down of hormones doesn’t help! I’m really bleeding this morning but thankfully no cramping, it is more like a heavy period. My OH had kept busy all day yesterday and was looking after me as well so it all caught up with him in the eve which was hard. We just had a super early night together cuddled up with a cry which I think we needed to do. I’ll be fine though, I think you just have to go through that period of letting it all out and then you just feel so much better don’t you

Hopefully we will be able to try again soon ❤️

@SS123456 So very sorry to hear your sad news. Grieve and be kind to yourself. You sound like you have a wonderful partner, I will pray for blessings to fall your way soon.

@SS123456 so sorry for your loss. Look after yourself.

So so sorry for anyone going through this ❤️❤️❤️ xx Don’t loose the hope & belief

@SS123456 i'm so so sorry to hear that :( i understand about having to let it all out - definitely take time for yourself and let yourself grieve. and yes, you'll definitely be able to try again soon i'm sure of it. sending lots of hugs xx

@SS123456 am so sorry💐

Have booked in to see midwife Friday which has made feel better.

So sorry to hear that so many in this group are having such an awful time!

Have couple of questions....

Is anyone planning on having a private NIPT test to confirm gender? I cant seem to get a clear answer on whether my local hospital's policy is to tell parents gender or not, but I get the impression they prefer not to until like 20+ weeks, whereas NIPT can be done from 10 weeks and I desperately want to know (control freak here!)

Is anyone planning on requesting a c section or got any experience on this when not medically necessary?

@SS123456 so sorry to hear about this, take all the time and support you need.

I have my booking in appointment tomorrow (by phone). Does anyone have any suggestions for questions I should be asking?

@maloney123 all I was going to bring up the flu jab.

For me I have to ask about which hospital. The county I’m in doesn’t have a general hospital and I think due to IVF I would be classed at higher risk.

No idea what else.

curiouscat1987 why would you request a C Section if not medically necessary?

@maloney123 I'm going to ask whether partners are allowed at scan and when I'd get a date for that. And when I can have flu jab or get an exemption certificate for dentist.
I'm also asking whether I need to do anything specifically because I'm O- and DH is A+

@Iknewyouwerewaitingforme

curiouscat1987 why would you request a C Section if not medically necessary?

Because it's what I would prefer for various reasons!

@curiouscat1987 I think you'd struggle to get a c section with no medical reason, and rightly so really, they're still major ops. And re gender, we're not finding out I expect the hospital prefers not to because the margin of error is likely higher the earlier you are.

@curiouscat1987 I've booked nipt but for screening purposes. Will probably find out the gender, might as well

[quote Lovethatjourneyforme]@curiouscat1987 I think you'd struggle to get a c section with no medical reason, and rightly so really, they're still major ops. And re gender, we're not finding out I expect the hospital prefers not to because the margin of error is likely higher the earlier you are.[/quote]
Yes quite possibly, hence wanting to find out if anyone had any experience of it! By medical reasons I mean physical medical reasons though, not sure whether they consider mental/emotional reasons as 'medical' or not, but we'll see I guess ;)

Unless you’ve had a baby before and had significant trauma following a difficult birth - ie, from prior experience of birth- then doubt they’d consider preconceived ideas about birth as being a valid reason to have a C section

[quote SarahTTC2020]@maloney123 I'm going to ask whether partners are allowed at scan and when I'd get a date for that. And when I can have flu jab or get an exemption certificate for dentist.
I'm also asking whether I need to do anything specifically because I'm O- and DH is A+[/quote]
Just make sure you tell your midwife. You will probably need to have anti-d injections due to you being rhesus negative and your partner being rhesus positive but they are fine.

@BlueBlanketMum what happens if you don’t know the blood type of either partner?

@curiouscat1987 you can have them if you've had a previous traumatic birth, and possibly sometimes for mental health reasons but I think the bar is set pretty high. It likely varies per hospital and even per consultant so you won't know until you ask, but I'd be very prepared to be turned down x

@pinkplantcase if mum is rhesus negative you would get anti-D anyway. And they will know that by the time you give birth x

I’ve just seen you started a thread asking people about having sex post birth and what state their vaginas were in. This 100% is not a valid reason to want a C Section.

@curiouscat1987 if you search in mumsnet there’s been threads in the past where people have discussed c sections and I’ve definitely seen people say that the hospital can’t refuse you one, but your consultant may not be willing to in which case they refer you to someone who will.