March 2021 #4

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Thread for anyone due in March 2021 💜 including those due end of February and early April 😊

I'm waiting until 30th @MrsJ89! I can't make up my mind whether or not to find out. On the one hand I am pretty convinced the baby is a boy so why should I pay for a private scan to confirm that or ask the sonographer to tell me?! On the other I am really struggling with boys' names and it would make me focus more if I knew... I think we would find it easy to name a girl too - I'm pretty sure her name would be Clara (although there are a few others on our short list)! I found it easier to bond with my bump in my last pregnancy after I knew it was a boy. Baby will be wearing its brother's old things regardless of sex while it can... I'm not big into blue for boys and pink for girls. As their birthdays are at opposite ends of the year the clothes won't work for the seasons after a while and will need to be replaced even if it's another son so I might as well get the use out of what we've already got for the first 6 months.

@MrsJ89 my 20 wk scan is on 26th too but our trust won't tell you the sex. Its been a longstanding rule there. Plus every week is so different with covid right now that I would much rather have a private one booked just in case my wife isn't allowed in by the time our 20 wk comes around.

@Sussexbysea I'm keeping a close eye as I'd definitely want to have a private scan if they change the rules at my hospital. Doesn't feel right finding out with him.

@aureliacecilia we haven't looked at names yet waiting to find out whether we have a boy or girl. Then we dont have to consider both. TBH..I think I'd be more interested in seeing whether the baby is OK than the gender at the moment. Being in the imbetween stage of symptoms disappearing and not quite feeling them yet is hard!

@MrsAndMrs this is what makes me want one as I wouldn't want to find out before. I've been debating whether to have an early gender scan or a HD scan later on. I'm so indecisive!

Good luck to all of us finally getting our 12 week scans today!! Hoping it makes it all feel more real :) got hopefully my last bout of morning sickness this morning!

I'm in Scotland and looks like new lockdown measures coming this afternoon. Got a text from my Trust to say to check if partners can come to antenatal clinics but that partners can still come to 12 and 20 week scans so I'm glad it's today.

Made the switch from Pregnacare Original (which was hard enough on my stomach) to Pregnacare Max, and what the frick are those beasty tablets?!! My stomach feels ruined!

@emmafou1807 we have the same due date :)

goodluck for the scans today!

We've booked a private gender scan for 10/10, I can't wait! Even though I'm 99% sure its a boy it'll just be good to see baby again and get it confirmed.

So on top of the tonsillitis, chest infection and head cold, I now have a uti!! So a third antibiotic 🤣🤣 Honestly if I didn’t laugh I’d cry!

@TheFoz oh goodness, you’ve been through it!! How you feeling?

@TheFoz what a shame. I hope you are on the mend quickly. Things come in 3s so hopefully that's yours done know.

Good luck for the scans today. Looking forward to seeing the pictures xx

Is anyone else suffering with heart palpitations? The past few weeks it has gotten worse. When I'm relaxed sometimes when I breathe it my heart does like a triple beat and is really prominent. The hard beat startles me sometimes im just guessing its to do with the extra blood volume??

When a teen I had fast irregular heart palpitations resulting in me having a 7 day monitor, ECGs and an echocardiogram. The only thing they found was a minor heart murmur which I believe has fixed itself.

I'm not sure what to do, was going to wait on my 20 week scan to find out the gender but they've put it on the 11th of November and I'll be 22 weeks by then which seems ages away and I don't see OH getting in with me so going to have to bite the bullet and book a private one!

@DSP21 they are monster tablets 😂

@TheFoz oh God you've had an awful time of it lately, hope they all clear up quick!

@Phie04 I get that but I have an overactive thyroid.

My trust will only say gender /sex verbally and partners are not allowed (it's 7 weeks away, but I don't see that changing). I don't want to know but hubby does, so I win by default!

Good luck with scans today! The nurse/sonographer said to me that it's easier to reduce the size of bladder than fill, so don't be scared of drinking too much.

@thack im the opposite, I want to know the gender but I don't want my husband to know! That's awful I know but he has not supported me at all in this pregnancy, he didn't bother coming to either scans even though he is permitted. Not once asked how I am feeling, told his mum when I specifically told him not to ( because she tells everyone everything and all his side of the family know and her work mates, without me having told my close family members ) then when i broke my wrist, and was clearly suffering from exhaustion and sickness, insisted I do all the housework and running around after our kids because "he's been working all day".
I just think it would be nice to have this information for myself first. But he knows 20weeks scans is when you can find out and insists on being there.

@Aurora124 I’m sorry he’s not being supportive. Will he be allowed at 20 week scan? Partners are not allowed where I am.

@Aurora124 perhaps you could tell your husband that guidance has changed and unfortunately the trust is not allowing partners into scans any more. I'm so sorry you're not feeling supported. Are your children an age they understand and can help out a little?

@Aurora124 did you speak to him about how you were feeling. It sounds like he is getting worse 😢

@Tomatoandbasil yes partners have always been allowed in where we are, i'm not sure if it's because we are in Scotland and there are different policies, saying that my sister's wasn't permitted to but that was in June.
@LottieX i was considering just saying that but it feels a bit mean. My kids are trying their best not to ask for too much and get things themselves, they are actually quite good.

@Babafarmer i tried to speak to him he argued back that I always did everything before he had a chance to do it. Its never his fault of course! I did point out he never offered any help and moaned when I asked him for it. He try to make an effort after that, which lasted a day!

I think I will just see how I feel nearer the time.

Thanks for the well wishes ladies, I actually feel ok, though a bit tired.

@Aurora124 I’m sorry your husband is still being useless. It’s very unfair on you. I can’t believe that he told his mum when you had told him not to, what was his excuse for that? My ex told his friend, who told lots of other people resulting in my mum finding out from a neighbour. Ex denied telling anyone 🙄
Does he know that you want to find out the gender? Could you tell him you don’t want to know and then go off and get a private scan done by yourself? Sneaky I know but if you want to find out yourself first.

I don't want to find out but my bf does. He got mad when I said I think it's inappropriate for him to know and me not knowing. I understand its his baby too but I think it's a bit off because I will want to know but only because he does. He isn't allowed to the 20 week scan so I'm hoping they don't write it down because I don't think I could resist looking and I don't think it's fair.

@TheFoz i can't believe that!!!! Poor you and your mum! News like this spreads fast in the wrong hands.

He was trying to win an argument, i told him he wasn't helping at all and should be making more of an effort. His mum just happened to appear while we were arguing she was telling him to help out more and his response was "you know she's pregnant, she has been a nightmare she has never stopped moaning at me for not doing things" 🙄.

He doesn't know I want to find out because we have never previously, i just feel that if he is not making the effort to help me through the difficult times in pregnancy, he doesn't deserve the highlights. However, it's his baby too, it would maybe be a bit selfish of me.

Well since things are getting worse maybe he won't be allowed in anyway.

@KatyCherry23 no offence to you or anyone else, but the beauty of being female and able to carry a child, with them growing inside of you means you are a lone parent until birth! Whatever needs to happen to baby solely needs your consent and no one else's, unless a medical performance is needed later in the pregnancy. I don't want any of you ladies to feel like you have to do something that involves YOUR body. If you do not want to know the gender, you don't have to, again that is the beauty of being a mother to be

@Phie04 this is what I wish my partner understood. I include him in as much as possible because it's so important for the father to be connected to he baby and involved. But he just doesn't respect my wishes that I didn't want to find out and thought his wishes trumped mine because it was his right to know!! I did remind him that the scan is to check the health not the bits!

@KatyCherry23 yes exactly. Of course we want the fathers to be involved as much as possible but at the end of it if you can't make a decision together you just go with what you think is best ❤️