Due end Nov/early Dec - Hello third trimester!

[MummyShark97]

Just making a new thread before we fill the other one up !

@excitednerves that's the same as me! I'm worried about my little boy he's only 1 and has only been away from me for one night when I was in hospital before.

Found this good checklist on Asda https://direct.asda.com/on/demandware.static/-/Library-Sites-ASDAShared/default/dw628333bd/Downloads/NewbornChecklistHospitalChecklistt060819v3.pdf

Officially in the third trimester! and only seven weeks left of work!
I treated myself to this www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/drape-maternity-nursing-cardigan-d5351.html

Also ordered a pack of disposable knickers from jojo too.

I think I’m going to start putting bits aside for hospital bag too. There are loads of threads on this already, found
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/3362561-Hospital-bag-dos-and-donts

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2838408-To-ask-what-you-really-need-in-your-hospital-baby-bag

Quite useful.

@peachypetite congrats on the milestone, stupid question but is the third tri 28 weeks? I have 2 apps, one says 27 and one says 28!

Thank you for those links, I feel like I need to start organising my hospital bag too!

Nursery furniture coming tomorrow so... 🥰 👶🏻

Is anyone else superstitious with having the pram and cot set up in their house before baby is born? I'm not really one for superstitions but a few people have mentioned this to me and now I'm wondering if it's a 'thing' or not!!?

According to the nhs and my flo app it’s 28 weeks!
www.nhs.uk/start4life/pregnancy/week-by-week/3rd-trimester/week-28/

I’m pretty superstitious so majority of stuff is at my mums house.

The partners not being allowed in during early labour & after birth is ridiculous, if these rules were in place with my 1st my husband would have missed the birth.
I was induced at 42 weeks, at 9am, contractions came thick & fast but I was dilating very slowly. At midnight my midwife went home because in her words 'This baby isn't coming anytime soon', I had him 2 hours later! After a whole day in labour & only a few cm progression, things then happened very quickly!

I purchased my 1st hospital bag item yesterday, maternity pads, how I've missed those (not)

@danielasummer I don't mean to sound to harsh (perhaps) about all the superstitious stuff but I was really superstitious about stuff in my first pregnancy (mostly due to older relatives) and my DS still died, so I think no amount of sticking to superstitions or not will have any real impact on the wellbeing of your baby. Do what you feel comfortable with and what is easiest for you, but I wouldn't worry about all of the old wives tales.

Hope everyone is well this week! I've been a bit quiet, my DH & I were in a car crash last week, so it's been a bit traumatic. Thankfully all is well with the baby, who is very well protected in there! But I feel like staying locked up until my section date now😅

@lionsmum firstly oh my God! Are you ok? That sounds awful and terrifying, really not something you want when approaching your third trimester (or ever, really!) Glad to hear baby is all ok but that must've been so scary. Is your DH ok?

With superstitions etc, I know you're definitely right, I think it's just random family and friends telling me all sorts which has sort of scared me. I'm not normally superstitious but I feel like I will wait until baby is here before bringing the pram round and setting up the cot.

@kkr168 this worries me so much. My DH is literally my rock and I know I would be able to do it without him, but I'm terrified of doing so! I know a few people that have laboured quickly with their first so that has sort of scared me, I'd hate for him to be in the car park and miss it because of these stupid rules. I just can't believe there are so many things we can all do now but we still can't have our partners in for labour..utterly ridiculous and totally unfair.

Morning 👋
Totally in agreement about the partners situation. Just seems bonkers to me. There’s no chance my partners got anything I don’t have so what difference does it make?

Not sure on the superstitions. Personally don’t think it matters so I’ve had my cot set up for weeks and pram came a week ago and sat waiting to be used 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hope you’re ok @lionsmum must have been awful and can’t blame you wanting to hibernate til go time. I feel a bit like that anyway without having the fear factor added in.
Hope everyone else is ok?! I’m at the hospital for my glucose today. Just waiting around to have my anti D and whooping in the wait. So so boring. I got married on Friday so that’s good news. All feels like it’s happening really fast now.

Partner situation is a bit shit! If I’m having a vaginal birth I’ll definitely be staying at home for as long as possible anyway though with my home comforts!

Currently our local trust are allowing partners in from triage, through labour and for a few hours postnatally too. Plus being allowed to visit during certain hours after baby is born too. So a big improvement 🙌 😊 Just hope it stays that way until November! Nb. Still no partners at scans or antenatal appointments though

Absolutely stupid about the partner thing I'm staying at home as long as possible when my time comes to have baby there is no way I'd stay up hospital on my own and my partner is already saying he will refuse to leave as its ridiculous that u can go here there everywhere but to the hospital with your probably scared anxious etc partner very sorry to hear about your crash @lionsmum glad u all ok as fr superstitions I am slightly I mean I get the whole if summat gonna happen it will but I just feel personally to keep the stuff out of house until at least a couple of weeks till due date all my stuff is securely packed away in my shed so no bother there but I am getting excited to put things up etc but not to long to go

I feel pretty irritated by the partner rule, my trust rule is no partners on post natal ward and not present until active labour.

We're about 30 minutes from the maternity wing and I just find it to be quite a wind up tbh ... literally a separate building from the rest of the hospital.

What can you do!

Lol I must be the only person not bothered about the partner thing. Last time I was only in the hospital 20 mins. The ghost of Michael Jackson could have been moonwalking in the corner and I wouldn't have noticed. I'll just be grateful to see a midwife

I'm with you @chubbyhotchoc if he's there great but if I'm in for a while before active labour getting induced or whatever I'm not really bothered if he's there or not as long as the midwives are there

@lionsmum so sorry to hear about your crash, I'm glad your baby is okay and hope that you and your partner are recovering ok. That must have been really traumatic for you all. Take care and look after yourself x

Ugh ladies!

Such a turn of events, I went for my 28 week appointment and was sent to the hospital straight after for heartbeat monitoring as she thought she heard a deceleration in the heartbeat.

On the monitor at the moment but he's okay so far thankfully.

She also thought he may be a little small so I'm having a scan after this as well.

What a day! Definitely has reinforced how I felt about my husband being able to be with me... gah!!

@MummyShark97 oh bless you I bet you weren't expecting that!! I'm glad his heartbeat is fine though but do let us know how the scan goes. Thinking of you!

@MummyShark97 oh no that must have been so stressful! Hope you and baby are ok

My hospital has been allowing partners at all scans for over 7 weeks now so think I must be one of the lucky ones..

The rules for labour etc are about as clear as mud on their website, but not really looking too closely as it could all change before Dec. Just hoping they are as forward thinking as they were with the scans. As a FTM I'm pretty nervous at the thought of being without my partner. I've also been studying hypnobirthing and he is such a crucial part of it.

For anyone interested the book by Siobhan Miller on Practical Ways to Make Your Birth Better is a REALLY good read. It's based in the science and fact, and not at all hippy dippy, I'm a totally convert!

@lionsmum so sorry to hear about your accident, how scary but glad everything is ok

@MummyShark97 thank goodness all is ok, and good they offered the monitoring, always better to be safe.

Hey everyone!

Thanks for the messages!

Turns out everything is fine I am so relieved!

Just looking at it as a nice thing to have seen my baby again, what a day! I'm going to have a nice relax now !

@MummyShark97 so glad everything is okay what a stressful day you must have had! Definitely try and relax now x

Glad all was well @MummyShark97 x

That must have been so worrying @MummyShark97 glad all is well though.

I had my 28 weeks appointment today, she had trouble getting bloods, my body was not cooperating. She tried twice in each arm with no luck, at that point you'd usually be sent to hospital to have them try, but due to covid she wasn't sure if that's possible currently. She gave it one last try but in my hand instead & got the samples perfectly from there.
She weighed me today & apparently I've only gained 1kg since my 12 week check up, my scales show more but I'm more then happy to go by what theirs say!
She also said my checkups will continue as if it's my 1st child, due to my other pregnancy being 17 years ago, so I will see her every 3-4 weeks

@kkr168 they always have trouble with my bloods. I've told them so many times they won't get it but they don't listen and insist on trying multiple times because I always see different midwives for some reason. Last time two different midwives tried both arms and both wrists before packing me off to the hospital where the phlebotomist couldn't get it either. I had to wait for the senior phlebotomist to come in the end. It's a bloody nightmare. You need to ask them to mark your notes because they'll have the same trouble with canulars when you go into labour. When I went into labour with dd nobody realised I was 10 cm because they were too busy stabbing me in the hands trying to get one in. I had hands like boxing gloves for weeks.