July Bus Graduates ❤️

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Okay I'm still super nervous but time to take the plunge and started a Grad bus for the recent BFPs from the main thread. According to NHS calculator I'm due 18th March and it's #1 for me 😬

@Cocoblue22
@LittleRa
@Dipsy77
@Noble89
@Skip86

Hi ladies

I've been lurking for a while.

Just to share I had an early reassurance scan yesterday at what I thought was 7 weeks turns out I'm 6 weeks+2/3 days.

We both got to see the baby and the heartbeat and it was the best £50 I have spent in 15 mins.

Highly reccomend xx

Hi @serialplanner Was it an internal scan? Please you found it a good experience x

Hi @serialplanner so glad that you've said 👋 think it's normal for dates to change at scan as they base it on size which I guess changes based on implantation and so glad that you were both able to see the little bean. How are you doing? xx

@Noble89 sounds like a busy but fun day for you, you sound like you have the same mindset as me, stay positive until there is a reason not to x

@Cocoblue22 ahh I hope you feel better for your Sunday lunch, it's the worst when you can't enjoy food 😔

@LittleRa it was external just had to drink a litre of water before (which made me pee on an insane level the whole day)

@SmileyT thanks lovely. All good so far. Lack of sleep and tired but no sickness. How's it going for you?

@serialplanner aww that's great news! What type of scan was it? Internal or tummy? X

@SmileyT I'm enjoying food a bit too much....it's the time in between food where I feel 🤢 I need to keep eating haha x

@SmileyT @Noble89 Thank you both for the warm welcome! Since I'm a bit of a worrier, I'm thinking about hypnobirthing. Is anyone else here thinking about going down that route? I know it's very early days but I've heard great things about it.

@FairyLights2 Yes, I did natal hypnotherapy with my first DD 😊

@Cocoblue22 oh thank you that's really nice to hear that we can hear the heartbeat at a MW appointment, I didn't know that x

@SmileyT well there was a miscommunication!! long story short the receptionist read my EPU miscarriage notes from the hosp last cycle about beta testing for future pregnancies asap and assumed it was the docs notes. I have a telephone appt tomo with doc who will be able to book me in for my beta tests!

i had a nice chat with the nurse and she advised/ encouraged me to be vocal with my gp about my worries and said it's better if I can ask for them to just refer me to epu anyway as they can do a scan as well as a blood test 48hours apart

my gp are only running blood services every week/every other week so unless they have dates for bloods she didn't think it would be as beneficial as epu- I'm just scared of Internal scans as hate them/not sure I would be eligible for epu unless I had spotting as reassurance scans aren't necessary atm!

Sounds like you have it all planned out! And yes agree a cute bump for a holiday!

@FairyLights2 congratulations! Haven't heard of this but once I have more confidence in the pregnancy I think it sounds good to look into hun x

@Noble89 I'm not testing with ICs anymore! I might do a CB next week to make sure it remains at 3+ (I bought four 🙄)

After speaking to docs il self refer tomo as it's not my closest hospital so want to make sure they take me. Il also see if they recommend epu and then il think about a private scan! On a positive note: the boob pain is back and I feel very slight nausea again (I'm thinking all my symptoms are psychological now!? )

@LittleRa thankyou- I'm generally quite anxious so doesn't help..it's weird I was relaxed about getting pregnant but the minute I do it goes downhill😩 ! I think I would want a water birth if possible and the hosp selected has:

A completely separate building for maternity but only 2 pools in the birthing suite and then a few more in the labour ward x

@FairyLights2 yeah hypnobirthing sounds like a great idea, practising staying relaxed during a stressful situation can never be a bad idea in my mind x

@Mococo1 ahh that's a pain about the miscommunication, I've got to say that my experience of GPs in the pregnancy journey is that they are a little underwhelming at best, because they are just not set up to be part of the journey at all. Hopefully they just refer you across and then you can deal with EPU and the way I tried to think about the internal scan is that throughout pregnancy and birth I'm sure there will be much more uncomfortable things I go through so an internal scan is just part of the journey and pretty much the same as a smear, not great but maybe necessary. It's strange as a lot of trusts are doing reassurance scans from what I've seen but some seem to have basically shut down, it's a postcode lottery 😤 let us know how you get on with GP today and if you are self-referring then you surely you don't even need to wait until you speak to Dr 🤔 x

Anyway I should get out of bed and ready for work... hope you all have a good day ☺️

Morning all - sorry I disappeared we had two family birthdays this weekend that have kept me busy. I'm still wiped out today.

I wasn't drinking and I think my mum is beginning to have suspicions. A letter was sent to her home address from the hospital (from when I self referred) and she waved it at me with wide eyes. I've never updated my address so I could stay with the same GP! I just dismissed it. She then asked why I'm not drinking. So I'll have to tell her soon 😂

Welcome to everyone who got their BFP! @Mococo1 I hope you're having a better time of it, I know it's nerve wracking as hell but all the signs are looking good.

I've got a private scan booked for the second week of August which just feels like forever away when it's exactly two weeks.

Been very tired, emotional, nauseous. My nipples are like burgers, I can smell everything.

A little disappointed as my DH seems quite nervous and doesn't want me to tell anyone yet until the early scan. But then doesn't really talk about it with me either. I said about names, even though I know it's stupidly early and he just said no, not going there yet.

With our previous DDs he had told people within 24 hours. Just feel like I can't celebrate it yet. Even if the worst were to happen I would still tell my family and friends for support. So yeah feeling a little deflated.

@zippityzip ahh I'm sorry you are feeling a little deflated, I think this pregnancy thing can be an emotional rollercoaster for both us and our partners. Do you know why OH is feeling more nervous this time then the previous pregnancies? I'm probably the same as him with telling people even though as you say if it went wrong I'd still tell my closest friends so not sure what the logic is 🙈 and me and DP don't really talk about it at all so don't feel alone in that (although he seems obsessed with private schools 🤯). Also I didn't think about address and GP with self-referring I just used new address for hospital form but my GP is registered to my parents address, hope they don't kick me out 😂

@Mococo1 yeah they use the Doppler to listen to it which is nice....sometimes takes a while to pick it up depending on position of placenta and baby I remember her warning me saying if it takes me a while to find it don't panic because it was really early on too but she got it straight away and it was so nice hearing it I think that was at some point after my 12 week scan but before my 16week private gender scan. At the gender scan we bought a heartbeat bear with ds heartbeat recorded in it which meant we could press it and listen to it over and over which we did a lot! Glad you're feeling more positive and feeling symptoms again but remember they can come and go x

@FairyLights2 I tried a hypnobirthing cd but it didn't work for me but some women swear by it maybe there's better ones than I had or actual classes? X

@Mococo1 I feel nervous about having an internal scan (I've had one before years ago) but they don't hurt at all so I don't know why I'm nervous! Like @SmileyT says there's lots more times people will be looking and poking around up there over the next 9 months! I had a sweep at home and that was the most bizarre thing I think during the whole process!! X

@zippityzip I can understand you feeling deflated how come he's behaving so differently this time around? X

So 6+6 today hope everyone is good feel like I could sleep for a week x

@SmileyT When I referred they said that they are doing everything via email "do you consent to email" bla bla so I thought I was covered. Nope!! The hospital I want has actually refused my referral so now I'm stuck. They said that due to COVID they are limiting out of borough patients, and that includes me. So my only other option is to give birth again where i nearly died. And they dismissed me as neurotic when things were wrong. I can't give birth there 😰 so now I'm a bit stuck.

@Cocoblue22 Honestly I don't know, as this is our final baby I wanted it to be really special. Had it all planned out how to announce to parents etc. I think he's still absorbing the fact I am pregnant, I guess they don't really feel it until they see it. I think he's also feeling the pressure financially when I'm on Mat leave, although that's covered already 🙄 we did have one loss previously, after our second baby years ago. Maybe that's bothering him. Although if my mum guesses beforehand it'll take away the surprise when we announce it.

He did finally ask me how I was feeling yesterday! I was like oh finally - I've been holding back vomit for the last week and NOW you ask. The dick even had a nap yesterday and left me to the kids - he's not useless and he's not a dick - I just feel a bit bla at the moment.

@FairyLights2 @LittleRa Where did you learn about hypnobirthing?

Just been catching up, I think I’ve got it the other way, my other half seems more excited about it than me and is talking about lots of things to do with baby. I’m super excited but also super nervous, I had lots of bleeding in my first pregnancy so I’m very cautious for now. I have told a couple of closest friends and the due in group for my daughter as all 60 of us are pretty close. But that’s more because they knew we were trying anyway, I’ve hardly kept that quiet haha.

I want to look into hypnobirthing, I never did it with my daughter, I wanted too but never got round to it.

Hope you’re all doing okay.

Morning all,

Feeling a lot better after my wobble with the tests yesterday. I went out and bought some
More of boots own pregnancy tests as I had been using those early on when I got my BFP and still have those tests so thought they'd be good for me to see a comparison with same tests and the lines are still nice and strong on those tests. Test today with FMU looked stronger than the previous ones too.

I'm still in two minds whether to bother with a CBD weeks test again, I think the problem has been that cause I'm weeing so much my urine isn't very concentrated and I think that's why I've only been getting 1-2 weeks. So I am tempted to try again in a few days with FMU as I know seeing 2-3 weeks will give me such reassurance but seeing 1-2 weeks again will probably send me over the edge! Also I'm not a billionaire and those tests are so expensive haha!

I was so tired yesterday which I loved because the worse I feel the better I feel about the pregnancy haha

Hope everybody is well!

@Bl0ndi3 I feel the same. My ICs have shown good progression this week - but if I took a CB digital and it didn't say 3+ I would probably have an absolute meltdown.

Plus I'm so damn thirsty and weeing every hour I don't know if I would trust it!

@zippityzip I think I'm going to avoid after the way I felt yesterday because of those tests! I've got a nice strong line on tests and a fair few symptoms, no bleeding etc so that's good enough for me I think! I had a wee about every hour yesterday and i hadn't even drank that much haha.

It's seeing everybody else get their progression on the weeks test that makes me want to do it!

@Bl0ndi3 Haha I know, it's almost like you feel "less pregnant" because you haven't had those clear words.

I may buy two and do one this week and one next week. Purely to pass the time before my early scan.

Think it's sunk in for DH at last, he's text a few times this morning asking how I am and what do I fancy for dinner later! Dinner is always my domain, but everything is making me feel sick!

@zippityzip aww bless ya men can be weird sometimes! Try not to let it bother you x

@Bl0ndi3 glad you're feeling better and got a strong line 😀 deffo don't do it if it will make you feel bad! You are 100% PG and all is going fine so don't do tests if it will make you doubt that x

Plus even after the 3+ the urge to check again is still there I have one test left and I'm even contemplating using it just to check again 🙄 x

About to sort out my wardrobe as things are already getting tight and uncomfortable so time to start packing some stuff away I think my linen trousers yesterday were so uncomfortable! Trying to convince DH to get us a kfc today too 🤣 x

@Cocoblue22 I've already been looking at mat clothes online! Currently living in leggings and had to buy new bras. DH is like but it's about the size of a dot how are you getting bigger already?!
Tbf I didn't have an answer!

@zippityzip @Cocoblue22 haha same I'm obsessed with looking at maternity clothes dreaming of the day I have a proper bump!

I actually wore jeans the other day for the first time in like 3 months and they fit me fine but being skinny jeans I felt very concscious or the bloat!

Rest of the time I'm in comfies - leggings, gym leggings, joggers

I'm probably gonna look on eBay for maternity stuff when the time comes and get a few good bits from the shops. Only going to wear it whilst pregnant so not planning on spending a fortune x

@Bl0ndi3 EBay is your friend!!

@SmileyT just had my gp appt and she's just referred me to EPU straightaway as they can't do the tests at my surgery so il just see what they say, not sure they will see me for reassurance purposes though.

That internal scan is so bloody uncomfortable for me (but I'm assuming it was because when I had them before I was dealing with painful mc cramping so bound to hurt)

I can self refer to hospital but I'm too scared I think il wait and see what epu say now

@zippityzip give it some time (I bet he's secretly excited inside but doesn't want to jinx things either) has anyone around him/you spoken too soon and then the worst happened? Only thing I can think of!?

I'm the same @SmileyT I don't tell anyone then tell them after I mc and then think I should have just told them before lol

@zippityzip Also I'm so sorry with regards to the hospital that's just silly!? I would go to your gp and say u have anxiety with the hospital and see if anything can be done? Surely they make special exceptions??

@Cocoblue22 same 😂 gna test next week to see 3+ lol