Advice - scan 2weeks behind date and no heartbeat

[Runnergirl1]

Has anyone else been through this? Positive or negative.
So ladies having a hard time atm. Not sure if I’m still on this journey or not. Yesterday I went for a private scan - I should of been 8+1 but doing the scan I’m only measuring 6 weeks and they couldn’t detect a heartbeat so I’m now in limbo and have to wait another 2weeks to have another scan to see if it’s just wrong dates or a missed miscarriage. I’ve had no symptoms of miscarriage I.e. no severe pains, no bleeding nothing. But my pregnancy symptoms haven’t been massive either tender boobs, bloating and frequent need for the toilet. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do now other than wait. This is going to be the hardest two weeks of my life. If it stopped growing two weeks ago shouldnt my body not have expelled it yet? x

Sorry you are going through this, not much good in advice but wanted you to know someone is listening. it maybe dates are wrong and heartbeat not picked up and everything will be fine.

It's also possible you may miscarry. I found out at 12 week scan that my baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. The body sometimes takes while to deal with it. It doesn't help but it's quite common to miscarry under 12 weeks but no-one talks about it til you're going through it. However you may be fine.

Did they give you any advice at scan? Is the next scan at hospital/ are you under care of midwife? If not I would be in touch with them asap.

Hope for the best for you!

Probably not much in terms of advice but I went in for my 12w Scan earlier this week and they said I was 6w1d so massive difference. I should mention I have very irregular periods and long cycles - up to 54 days! They couldn’t detect a heartbeat but did say that 6w is quite early. I’m in limbo too - they will call me on Tuesday to see how I’m doing and will then maybe get me in for a next scan. I’m a nervous wreck and have been on Mumsnet since trying to look for answers, tips, stories and clinging to every bit of hope that there is but I don’t think there’s anything we can do other than wait! Good luck to you!!! Xxx

@Runnergirl1 depends - do you definitely know the date that you ovulated? Were you using ovulation tests? If so, then it’s not looking good, however if you weren’t then it may just be that you ovulated later then you thought...

In answer to your other question, it’s very possible that your body won’t have expelled the pregnancy even if you have miscarried. It’s called a ‘missed miscarriage’ but often your body will catch up and realise. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks, found out at 12 weeks and my body did nothing for another 2 weeks so I opted for surgical management. It’s actually quite common.

Thank you ladies So sorry you have gone through or going through this, it’s not a very nice side to pregnancy. I spoke to midwife as I should have a booking in appointment next week which she has moved and said to wait until the next scan which is what is adviced so she wasn’t much help tbh.

@Firevie I hope you get some clarity shortly it is awful being in limbo and not knowing which way to turn or who to speak too x

@TwinkleStars15 I was checking my ovulation with clear blue that’s why I’m thinking the worst and got a positive pregnancy test 12dpo so that would mean having a positive test before being pregnant. Unless it’s just small for its size also. I just don’t know x

@Runnergirl1 thank you! Same to you - hope you get your clarity soon! I wish I had been tracking ovulation now. Didn’t track ovulation so all I have to go by is v long cycles and a day I remember we dtd...so I can hope ovulation happened super late for me which would explain why I’m so out on dates but it is all just spinning stories but who knows! Hope you have someone to talk to. My hubby has been my rock these last couple of days xx

@Firevie my partner is not the best when it comes to feelings and emotions so talking to him is very hard work at the moment. He’s obviously struggling to put tries to be the brave, strong man and just goes quiet which isn’t helpful for either of us x

@Runnergirl1 it must be difficult for him too...well you can always talk to us here ...we are in it together! Being on here has def helped me the last couple of days but I know that no one can say anything that will help us. Just the scan will help. Sending you positive vibes! Xxx

@Runnergirl1 sounds like you know for sure when you ovulated and you got a positive test 12 days later - in that case I would really prepare for the worst. I have had 3 miscarriages and scans around this time are pretty accurate in most cases - the foetus has to develop certain things at certain stages so to be 2 weeks behind with no heartbeat is not good. I’m so sorry, but when I was going through it I just wanted some honesty

@TwinkleStars15 I do appreciate the honesty. I already feel that way, I had a good cry yesterday when they said it but my partner really trying to be positive so although I think I’ve lost it I’m trying to stay positive in front of him. I would just want it over with sooner rather than later so we can try again. So sorry for you miscarriages. May I ask do you have any children? I’m so scared

@Firevie thank you I appreciate it a lot. We can do this. No matter what the outcome we have to try and stay positive x

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's such a hard thing to go through, particularly with the waiting.

I had similar in March this year and I sadly went on to miscarry.

However, i do have a toddler and i am now 14 weeks pregnant again. So please try hard not to worry too much about the future, it will all come right if this one is not meant to be.

Fingers crossed for you.

@TwinkleStars15 yes, I have a 3 year who I conceived without any issues, I then had 3 miscarriages (10/11 weeks, 4 weeks, 5 weeks) and am now 31 weeks pregnant. I was on Progesterone for the first 12 weeks as well as baby aspirin; I’ll never know if that helped or not.
I understand you wanting to have an answer asap so you can try again, that’s how I felt too.

Hi OP, so sorry you're going through this and wish there was a way to give you answers sooner but there isn't unfortunately. You really do just have to wait for either the next scan or for things to take their course.

Unfortunately, if you know for sure when you ovulated and you got your BFP before this scan is even suggesting you were pregnant, then I think you know what the most likely outcome is. I'm really sorry.

I am so sorry to read your post. I had a similar scan at 8 weeks - two weeks behind and no heartbeat but I was spotting which is why I had a scan.

Nature tools it course a few days later.

I would prepare for the worst but hope for the best.

Take care of yourself

@TwinkleStars15 @loveacupoftea18 thank you. It’s reassuring to know we can just go again if this doesn’t work out. It’s always positive hearing it’s not all doom and gloom if things do go bad so thank you for that x

@welshladywhois40 @sel2223. Thank you ladies although I want to stay positive I am expecting the worst. Just hope my partner is ok to try again as at the minute he is very distant and doesn’t want to think the worst x

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a mmc (stopped growing around 6 weeks and found out at 12 week scan). Then the following pregnancy I had exactly this, they told me it could go either way and they were the longest, most stressful 2 weeks of my life. My second scan the dates had caught up to what I though I was and there was a heartbeat (I sobbed a lot at the scan) who is now a healthy, adorable toddler. All you can do is keep going, there is hope but prepare yourself in case. I don't think anyone realises how strong they can be until they go through something like this. I hope you get positive news

@PoodleMoth aww so pleased you now have a healthy toddler. Can I ask whether you had irregular periods, long cycles and late ovulation at your first 12w scan? Apologies for asking but I’m in this situation and have all of the above so I’m trying to cling to any hope that there is .... xx

@PoodleMoth oh and I just realised you said you had exactly that at your following pregnancy ie long discrepancy between your dates (12w versus 6w) but that those dates had caught up and have resulted in your toddler 🥰

Hi I had the same as this and sadly miscarried. It was my first pregnancy and I was really worried about future pregnancies. However 6 weeks later was pregnant again and had my first son. I now have 2 lovely boys. Good luck to you stay positive a miscarriage does not mean you won’t go on to have healthy pregnancies afterwards.

Good Morning everyone - well it hasn’t been good for me. When I woke up and went to pee, I wiped and saw I was bleeding. I guess I now know what this means. The EPU said they’d call me on Tuesday to see if I’ve had any bleeding. If yes, they’d ask me to retake pregnancy test in a week or so but don’t they have to give you options for next steps? I’m trying to make sense of this and the only way I can carry on is by focusing on next steps. So, if anyone has any advice that’d be greatly appreciated. Also, do you put a pad into your slip when you’re bleeding? Apologies for the ignorance.

@Firevie so sorry to hear you are now bleeding. It’s awful they just leave us in limbo. I think they try and get you to do it naturally as I believe that’s the best for your body to recover. But a small amount of blood isn’t always the worst case scenario. You have nothing to apologise for either it’s an awful time and you don’t expect to go through this although it is common, it doesn’t make it any easier. Thinking of you x

Many thanks @Runnergirl1 - very sweet of you! I’ve since been to the toilet once more and nothing. I will speak to EPU on Tuesday and let’s see what they say. Will keep you updated! Thank you xx

Ladies I'm so sorry for those of you going through such a difficult time.

I went to EPU a couple of weeks ago as I had some light bleeding and cramping. According to LMP I should have been 6 weeks, 5 days. They scanned me and found Fetal heart activity but it was measuring very small for the dates.

So I either ovulated around a week later than originally thought which is a definite possibility or sadly it's just not growing properly. I'm now 9 weeks and haven't had any further bleeding but I feel completely in limbo and I don't know whether to wait another 3 weeks for the 12 week scan or to get a private scan as I'd rather know sooner rather than later if it's not good news.

Huge hugs to you all, it's such a difficult time

I don’t think this is talked about enough at all. It’s amazing how many of us are going through the same thing and we are just left in limbo.
Hopefully everything will be ok for you and it’s a successful pregnancy x