Advice - scan 2weeks behind date and no heartbeat

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Runnergirl1 · 03/07/2020 16:52

Has anyone else been through this? Positive or negative.
So ladies having a hard time atm. Not sure if I’m still on this journey or not. Yesterday I went for a private scan - I should of been 8+1 but doing the scan I’m only measuring 6 weeks and they couldn’t detect a heartbeat so I’m now in limbo and have to wait another 2weeks to have another scan to see if it’s just wrong dates or a missed miscarriage. I’ve had no symptoms of miscarriage I.e. no severe pains, no bleeding nothing. But my pregnancy symptoms haven’t been massive either tender boobs, bloating and frequent need for the toilet. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do now other than wait. This is going to be the hardest two weeks of my life. If it stopped growing two weeks ago shouldnt my body not have expelled it yet? x

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Szalinski · 16/07/2020 21:33

Sorry I meant I went straight for surgical this time around.....

Firevie · 17/07/2020 13:10

How are you feeling @Szalinski and are you okay @Runnergirl1? Xx

ALew15 · 17/07/2020 14:01

@Runnergirl1 I'm so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage last year which was detected on my 12w scan. I had 2 doses of medical management which failed and I definitely would not recommend. I went for the surgical in the end and that was absolutely fine.
Thinking of you x

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Runnergirl1 · 19/07/2020 17:05

I’m ok. Been back to epu on Friday who did an nhs scan and have to go back in this Friday. I started bleeding yesterday but it’s stopped now but it’s still like old blood (brown and bitty, sorry tmi) so something is happening. I feel ok, ups and downs atm just want this over with now so I can move forward and try again.
How is everyone else feeling/recovering x

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Szalinski · 20/07/2020 20:15

Runner girl what is the reason for them to keep scanning you? If the MMC has been diagnosed then shouldn't they be pressing on with treatment options? I just hate to think they are dragging their heels.

So I'm not doing too well, my head is all over the place wondering what the hell I do now and whether I want to put myself through it again.

I'm Very fortunate to have one wonderful child and I now find myself thinking that I should do myself a favour and stop at 1. I've had two miscarriages and I have lost all faith in our reproductive health. If I had problems for a third time I'm not sure I could cope. Feeling very lost right now

Szalinski · 20/07/2020 20:15

So I'm not doing too well, my head is all over the place wondering what the hell I do now and whether I want to put myself through it again.

Firevie · 20/07/2020 20:53

@Szalinski oh no sorry to hear hun! I would suggest focusing on happy things - your OH, your child and anything that makes you happy. Don’t focus on TTC, let your body and mind heal. I am just taking every day by day. I want to TTC as soon as possible again as we don’t yet have any kids but I also want my body to heal first. Also, I have today booked some acupuncture for next week. Hoping that will help my body get balanced again. Are you still bleeding post ERPC? Day 6 today....

Celibacydidntwork · 20/07/2020 20:55

I’ve just had a 12 wk scan on Friday to be told baby died at 9.5 weeks. They’re not offering surgery as an option so I am booked in to receive medical management tomorrow am at 10. 4 pessaries a pain suppository and codeine then discharged. I’m terrified. I’ve read so many horror stories on medical management but I don’t feel like I have any choice. 🙁

Firevie · 20/07/2020 21:04

@Celibacydidntwork oh no hun! So sorry to hear! This is absolutely horrible and it is awful that you can’t make a decision although making that decision was one of the hardest for me. But don’t worry. I’m sure you will be okay. Medical management can work as well, so try to be positive and I’m sure you will be okay. Sending hugs xx

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Runnergirl1 · 21/07/2020 18:59

@Szalinski. Hi sorry. I had a private scan and the dates didn’t match up so I knew then but they told me to go back in 2weeks as that was the recommendations. I rang midwife after the first scan who said just to wait for other scan. Went again on Thursday and they then referred me to hospital. Hospital then don’t take the word of the private scans so did one Friday and then I have to go back this Friday to check. However on Saturday I started bleeding and currently crampy and bleeding so def going through naturally. Sounds awful but hoping it all removes before my scan on Friday as they said it would still go ahead and they could check if it had all gone.
So sorry your feeling like this but as @Firevie has said look after yourself first and foremost. You don’t have to decide now what to do, take your time and once you have dealt with your emotions then make a decision about what to do. Atm I’m already thinking about trying again as I don’t have any children of my own and desperately want one. Like the nurses have told me. Every single pregnancy is different we just have to remain positive.

@Celibacydidntwork - I hope you are ok after your hospital appointment. It is awful Ive been worrying about what way to go but my body seems to be doing it on its own atm. Hope your well and have the support around you that you need x

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