Advice - scan 2weeks behind date and no heartbeat

[Runnergirl1]

Has anyone else been through this? Positive or negative.
So ladies having a hard time atm. Not sure if I’m still on this journey or not. Yesterday I went for a private scan - I should of been 8+1 but doing the scan I’m only measuring 6 weeks and they couldn’t detect a heartbeat so I’m now in limbo and have to wait another 2weeks to have another scan to see if it’s just wrong dates or a missed miscarriage. I’ve had no symptoms of miscarriage I.e. no severe pains, no bleeding nothing. But my pregnancy symptoms haven’t been massive either tender boobs, bloating and frequent need for the toilet. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do now other than wait. This is going to be the hardest two weeks of my life. If it stopped growing two weeks ago shouldnt my body not have expelled it yet? x

@Becalouise0910 yay! I’m very pleased for you! Good luck for the rest of the pregnancy! I think I know what my outcome will be...as I was also six weeks behind at my dating scan. It is okay I have to make peace with it and just continue and try again and will then have a beautiful healthy baby 🙏🏽

Sad news from me I'm afraid. Had my scan today, no heartbeat now and still measuring very small so I've had a missed miscarriage. Absolutely gutted. I hope you're ok Firevie

Sorry and the other ladies who are going through this awful time

Sorry and the other ladies who are going through this awful time

Sorry and the other ladies who are going through this awful time

@Szalinski - I am so sorry to hear! It is horrible. I have my surgery booked for Tuesday. I hope you’re fine with whichever route you decide on xxx

I had the private scan yesterday and they contacted the hospital for me, who then said the EPU will contact me today. So I assume I'll have to go in for another scan and then discuss how to proceed.

I'm utterly exhausted but I can't sleep. I'm having some awful cramps (which I had put down to pregnancy symptoms over the past week) so clearly my body knows something is up.

This is the second time this has happened to me and last time my stupid body couldn't even miscarry properly so I had ERPC, haemorrhaged and had to have surgery. I will opt for surgery straight away this time.

I don't know if I can face trying again. I just have this feeling that my body can't cope and isn't working as it should. I've got a lot of thinking to do. I'm just so gutted that the past ten weeks and all of the first trimester illness has all been for nothing again.

I had similar and I knew exactly when I'd conceived as we had only done it one time. It ended with a MMC for me sadly. However, I know of others who had similar at an early scan and all turned out OK, their dates were just slightly off. I really hope all turns out OK for you xxxx

@Szalinski - I am so sorry you’re going through this and for the second time! It is not fair!! I’m having the ERPC done on Tuesday and I’m really scared. We will TTC again as we want to have a baby and I hope it will all happen quickly. Give yourself time to think, heal and grief. It is your decision. I have heard that you can also sometimes get counselling? My friend did 6 sessions after her MMC - she said it was just nice to talk to someone externally. I will try it also after Tuesday. Best of luck! I hope it all works out for you xxx

Thank you, it really is awful and I'm sorry you are going through the same hideous process.
I have just finished at EPU, they were absolutely lovely. My surgery has also been arranged for Tuesday. I just hope my body can hold on until then. I can't miscarry at home with my child there.

I'm really not sure what I want to do going forwards. Age is not on my side so I don't feel I can delay ttc if we want to go for it again. Equally I'm not sure I have the strength to roll the dice again. The thought of this happening for a third time is too much to bare. I think I need to be grateful for the one I have.

Best of luck to you for next Tuesday, I hope it goes as well as is possible under the circumstances x

@Szalinski - sending you positive thoughts for Tuesday!!! I’m really pleased you already have a lovely child. We don’t yet so we will have to get back out there. I’m 36 so def need to get a move on! All the best, be strong! You can do it!! Xxx

[quote Firevie]@Becalouise0910 yay! I’m very pleased for you! Good luck for the rest of the pregnancy! I think I know what my outcome will be...as I was also six weeks behind at my dating scan. It is okay I have to make peace with it and just continue and try again and will then have a beautiful healthy baby 🙏🏽[/quote]
Just had an ectopic pregnancy so I've lost both my tubes now :( so gutted. Still in hospital at the moment 👼👼🦋🦋

@Becalouise0910 oh no I am so so sorry to hear!!!! Take care do yourself once you’re out at the hospital. I don’t even know what else to offer in terms of comfort other than take your time, don’t be hard on yourself and be kind to yourself. I’m here if you want to speak at any point. Xxx

[quote Firevie]@Becalouise0910 oh no I am so so sorry to hear!!!! Take care do yourself once you’re out at the hospital. I don’t even know what else to offer in terms of comfort other than take your time, don’t be hard on yourself and be kind to yourself. I’m here if you want to speak at any point. Xxx[/quote]
There hoping I can go home tomorrow. Luckily I have my babies at home and can also do IVF if we really wanted any more. Such a though time. Thank you!! Xxx

So sorry to hear that Becalouise and I hope you're ok Firevie? I had my surgery yesterday, feeling very down today

@Szalinski hello! I’m okay. My surgery was at 6.45pm and I was up from GA at 7.30pm. Left the hospital at 11pm after I had had food and passed urine. I was very very lucky that they let my husband come with me. Don’t know how I would have done it without him. Medium bleeding today but other than that no pain though I’ve been asked to take some paracetamol today. How was your surgery yesterday? I’ve been asked to come back for a follow up in 4weeks. Hope you’re in not too much pain. Sending positive vibes. Keep in touch xxx
@Becalouise0910 how are you feeling hun? Xxx

[quote Firevie]@Szalinski hello! I’m okay. My surgery was at 6.45pm and I was up from GA at 7.30pm. Left the hospital at 11pm after I had had food and passed urine. I was very very lucky that they let my husband come with me. Don’t know how I would have done it without him. Medium bleeding today but other than that no pain though I’ve been asked to take some paracetamol today. How was your surgery yesterday? I’ve been asked to come back for a follow up in 4weeks. Hope you’re in not too much pain. Sending positive vibes. Keep in touch xxx
@Becalouise0910 how are you feeling hun? Xxx[/quote]
I'm ok. Getting back to normal. Having 3 children 3 and under I have to get back to normal quick! There cheering me up though and looking after me! 💜

Glad you're both doing ok. Unfortunately my husband wasn't allowed in with me but the staff were so kind and looked after me. Still a horrible day though.

@Szalinski glad you had great staff! Sorry your hubby couldn’t be there with you but you’re with him now 💖 totally agree / horrible experience! Try and focus on things you enjoy. It won’t take the pain away but we have to find a way to move on. Hopefully your OH will be great support for you. Take care of yourself and keep us posted on how you’re doing. Do you have to go back for a follow up? I’m going back on 6 August.
@Becalouise0910 glad you have your kids to keep you company. Enjoy them 🥰

I’ve got my second scan later this evening to see if I’ve had a miscarriage or not. Can’t lie I’m at work but really not here mentally. Really nervous to see what’s happened. Hoping for a miracle but thinking of the worst. Then have to go through the whole thing of getting surgery or medical if it’s the worst outcome. You ladies seem very strong I hope I am the same. Sending lots of love to you going through this time it’s not the easiest x

@Runnergirl1 try and distract yourself until your scan - I know it’s easy to say but I was actually quite distracted before my ERPC with work etc which was good. All the best for your scan! Think positive and happy thoughts. We are here for you. Let us know how it goes and all well! Sending positive vibes xxx

So missed miscarriage has been diagnosed. Got to wait to hear from epu tomorrow as the scan clinic are going to refer me. It’s not very nice feeling but we just have to go again don’t we and think positive. Not sure whether to have a medical or surgical any thoughts on this? I’m feeling ok atm I guess it wasn’t meant to be this time round. Hope your all recovering well x

@Runnergirl1 oh no hun sorry to hear! It’s heartbreaking and horrible. I just had my ERPC on Tuesday and the procedure was absolutely fine. Cant say anything about medical management but my surgery was fine and my doctor is amazing! Do what is right for you! And yes just keep on going and try to regain your strength again! Lots of hugs xxx

So sorry to hear that sad news Runnergirl

I've had two miscarriages. The last one I had medical management which was not successful and after a month of on/off bleeding I ended up haemorrhaging as had retained products so had surgical to remove it.

Went straight for medical this time around. It's much better imo but I had a very bad experience with medical which you may not have. I do feel that the surgical option is much more straightforward though.