January 2021 mums to be

[Onekidnoclue]

Other thread was filling up so here’s a new one

@SnookyPook I get the results tomorrow afternoon, I expect it should be ok as I've got no risk factors but you never know...

As for the test itself, it wasn't pleasant - also kind of horrifying to see 75g of pure glucose powder being dissolved in a glass of water. After about half an hour I felt really sick and uncomfortable... really grim, but by the end of the second hour I start feeling ok again. My husband had eggs on toast waiting for me

Anyone else got a little wriggler inside them? My baby's movements have really gotten strong over the past week or 2 and now every day my bump is wobbling all over the place!

Had a little trip to hospital last night! Baby seemed quiet all day having been quite active for the last couple of weeks, then in bed when I normally feel her a lot I was getting nothing. I'm just 26 weeks and know you are only supposed to get worried if there's a change in pattern after 28 weeks, but I saw conflicting things online and ended up giving the Maternity ward a call to see what they thought. They asked me in, so at 11.30 I had to wake up my poor DH and get him to drive me over!

Luckily it was really quiet at that time and I got seen really quickly. There was no issue finding baby's heartbeat and it was going at the right pace. I guess she just moved lower than she has been recently. (I did need a ridiculous number of wees yesterday so I guess that would make sense.) I felt a bit stupid but the midwife said I did the right thing and shouldn't hesitate to do it again. I imagine I'll be back a few times between now and B-day, being an anxious FTM!

One thing I am a bit worried about now is DH. He was very supportive but I hadn't appreciated how hard he finds hospitals. He has always hated them (having had a lot of sickness in his immediate family) but it's been made worse as he's also very very paranoid about Covid. He was pretty obsessed with wiping every single thing either of us touched after leaving the hospital (folder, keys, phones, bag...) and was obviously really stressed out by it. I'm now a little worried how he's going to cope during labour. 😕 I don't want him to be super stressed out about hygiene etc when he should be concentrating on other things. That would spoil it for me apart from anything else. I'm almost tempted to suggest a home birth so he doesn't have to put himself through it, or maybe even have my mum as my birth partner if it's really going to stress him out. Hmmm.

Yikes @MissHoney85 that sounds horribly stressful. The hospital thing is a tough one. Normally I’d say he sounds perfect for having CBT but you don’t have much time! I think he needs to do some work on himself and focus on the fact you two will be in a private room in a bubble together. Everything will be sterilised just for you. It’s not as if you go on a tour of the hospital while in labour. You’ll be settled in one place for a while. I do think he needs to do some work on himself though. He’s there to support you, not stress you out!

@Onekidnoclue yes hopefully when we're in our own little room he will be able to relax more. I think I just need to talk to him about it, it's hard though as he thinks he's being perfectly sensible. He's very well informed and good at arguing his case so it's difficult to have that conversation! Hopefully we'll be able to find a happy medium and when the time comes he'll be distracted enough to forget about it.

@MissHoney85 men like this drive me mad. I can say this as my husband is the same. He almost passed me it once in an office room in the hospital. There literally wasn't a thing of medical equipment in there. Just us a midwife.

Then another time I was having a Canula put in he was hyperventilating. I told him to grow up and leave the room, as I'm pretty sure I'm in a worse position than him and he's not helping. A bit of tough love worked a treat and he pulled himself together.

All a bit quiet here! How’s everyone doing? 😊

Hi @SnookyPook all good my end. Getting that fat/uncomfortable feeling though.

How are you?

How are people doing for names? We’re struggling badly, think we’d be ok with a girl or if we wanted something unusual but we want a solid traditional boys name and the pickings are thin 🥴

@MissHoney85 - Your husband sounds like me! And you are perhaps more like my partner. I'm incredibly stressed about giving birth during Covid. And also, I think my reasoning is perfectly rational, like your husband ;)

My partner and I never argued before Covid - it's a real bummer. He thinks I'm overly cautious. It's not that I think we are definitely going to get it if we don't wipe our groceries - it's just that I want to do all I can to avoid it! I drive him mad, but at least I have the excuse: I'm pregnant.

Pandemics can bring this out in some of us who are more prone to anxiety; and there's no 'right' way - especially for an invisible enemy! :D I do understand the frustration. I drive myself mad too ;)

@Mimiwish It's hard isn't it! I'm pretty worried about it too but DH is a bit extreme sometimes. He can always back it up with bloody facts and logic though so I can't really argue with him! I'm hoping we can relax a bit when the baby is here - his main worry is it affecting the baby's development in the womb. There's not a lot of data out there about it and won't be for a long time, but I suppose it makes sense to be cautious.

@SnookyPook I'm doing OK, it feels like it's dragging a bit now! It feels like I've been pregnant forever and there's still ages to go. We're starting to buy stuff now which makes it feel more real. We're getting as much second hand as we can - love FB Marketplace now! We're going to see a pram tomorrow.

@Onekidnoclue We're pretty much sorted for a first name - DH only liked one of my suggestions and has not been very forthcoming with suggestions of his own! Middle name still TBC. It's tricky as a teacher because I've taught so many children that most names just feel overused to me, even if the children with that name have all been lovely. But on the other hand I don't want anything too out-there. I have Welsh roots and there are some nice Welsh names so we've kind of gone down that route.

@Onekidnoclue I’m good thanks. Having a few emotional moments still and occasional bouts of exhaustion but other than that, hopefully all good. Starting to get the nursery together now so that is exciting 😊

We’re struggling a bit with names too! I also feel it would have been easier for a girl! Hubby doesn’t like a few of my suggestions but there are a few he seems ok with. He’s not being overly forthcoming about coming up with any of his own “we still have loads of time!” so I am leading the discussions! We also like fairly traditional but not over-used names.. currently debating if one of our leading contenders is too ‘old man’-ish... (Arthur). We like the link to Arthurian legend / Old English folklore and also, I lived in Rome for several years and there is a link to a Roman family name too... other contenders at the moment are Jacob, Jasper, Alfred (Alfie) and Luke... it seems weird naming someone we haven’t ‘met’ yet! May have to make the final decision when he’s born!!

A struggle with names here too! We had our girls name all picked out so obviously we were going to have a boy life isn't that straight forward lol.. I wanted a nice Welsh name being Welsh myself but none seem to go with my husbands surname 🙈 We are torn at the moment between Lochlan and James (Jamie).. But this may change again closer to the time of birth haha.

Feels like I have been pregnant forever but still feels like ages to go, probably because Christmas is first and it always feels like a drag until then because of excitement lol

Hi everyone,

I'm a bit late to the January 2021 party.. having actually only just found out I'm pregnant about 2 weeks ago! Apparently I'm 28 weeks +1 today. Big shock to the system, first pregnancy, no idea what I am doing and now I know about it am super paranoid over everything!

Please help keep me calm/sane!

@EmotionalFlamingo welcome! And blimey! Not surprised you’re in a bit of shock! I’m 25+5 and have known since the day after my period was late and I’m only just beginning to believe it and have it sink in! I can’t imagine what it’s like I find out when you’re practically in your 3rd trimester! Although, slightly jealous as you’ve saved yourself lots of worrying and waiting around! Also so guess you’ve not had any bad symptoms! How did you find out in the end? Are you happy to be expecting (surprise aside!) - anyway, we are a friendly bunch and happy to help you adjust! 😊

@PollyOaks those are both nice names! I love James but it’s my hubby’s name and don’t want a ‘James Junior’ ! May have it as the middle name though.

Have my first face to face midwife appointment today at 25+5

And I'm stupidly worried shes going to tell me my bumps too small 🙈 but I'm a really petite girl anyway and my sisters never had a big bump either and I know its totally normal but still thinking more and more about bump size 🙈 someone tell me to get a grip 😂 but nicely. Please.

Also, any questions you wished you asked your midwife but forgot to?

@EmotionalFlamingo welcome! Congratulations! How lovely, well you missed the first trimester panic with us while we all complained about feeling sick then panicked when we didn’t 🤣🤣🤣 think that’s about all you need to catch up on!

@SnookyPook I love jasper but DH isn’t keen. I also love Luke and Arthur! Tbh I think we’ll draw up a short list and wait to meet him. I’d pick Arthur in a heartbeat but we live in the West Country and our surname has lots of R Sounds so it sounds farmer/worzles esque.

@PollyOaks there are some lovely welsh names! But I do like James and Lochlan. It’s tough matching with a surname. Ours is long, foreign and nobody can spell or pronounce it! I want to balance it out with something super easy for a first name!

As my husband is Greek and we live in Greece, we are choosing a name that is compatible both in Greek and English - a name that will be spelt and pronounced correctly when translated into either alphabet.
Also, very importantly to me I want it to be a name that my family can pronounce easily! My mum with any slightly less common names (not even difficult names) is like that scene of Joey in Friends trying to speak French...

So ... we've pretty much narrowed our girl's name down to Christina! We have discussed many but we seem to always come back to this one.

@ttcchapter1 sorry saw this too late to give you a gentle kick up the bum! Hope your appointment went well! Jealous as I don’t get a f2f appointment until 28+3!! Anyway, hope it reassured you about your perfect little bump ☺️

@Onekidnoclue ahaha to farmers/worzles... can see why that would need to be avoided! Hopefully you’ll find a name you both love soon. Frustrating when there’s one you like but Hubby is completely against it. Mine vetoed Theo, Milo and Frederick (Freddie) which were all high contenders for me... but at least it keeps things simple not having too many in the mix I guess!!

@Katerinakaterinaki yes it must be harder having to contend with bilingualism in the mix and wanting to be accessible to all! Christina is really pretty though! Exciting that you’ve pretty much decided! Will you share the name with loved ones before? We won’t announce ours until he’s here to avoid people giving too many opinions! 😁👍🏼

@SnookyPook Definitely not telling my greek in-laws in advance as they have an opinion about everything, also generally don't want any remarks on it from family or friends beforehand! :)

Forgot to update that my GTT last week went fine in the end, so that's an excuse to get a big slice of Victoria sponge in the m&s here, right?

@SnookyPook thanks! She didnt even measure it 😂😂😂 said she would do so at next appointment. Heard the heartbeat though ❤️🥰 hope you're doing well xx

Thanks @SnookyPook and @Onekidnoclue for the welcome!

We weren't actively ttc. We were told we wouldn't be able to conceive naturally and IVF would be our only real option for a birth family. I have pcos, I (apparently!) don't ovulate (least I didnt every time they tested during the time we were actively ttc!), I have extremely irregular cycles and most of the symptoms I had of pregnancy are identical to the symptoms I get when my pcos is playing up a bit... add on to that we recently adopted so pregnancy really was the last thing on our minds!

It's all very exciting! Just a lot to take in!

First midwife appointment tomorrow morning, but I have actually been in hospital a few times in the last couple weeks (some planned visits, two unplanned visits!) but as far as aware everything is okay and going well, so hoping it stays that way...

Really am paranoid about everything now though. Just want to keep this little one safe!!!

@MissHoney85 @PollyOaks it'll be a Welsh name for us too. These are our lists:

Non
Dwynwen
Betsi
Betsan
Siwan
Nerys
Ffion
Wynne

Aneurin
Bleddyn
Ewan/Iwan
Geraint
Gethin
Gruffydd
Heddwyn
Llewelyn
Osian

@EmotionalFlamingo that's an incredible story to get here. You must be full of all sorts of emotions! Congratulations.

@footprintsintheslow I love Osian, that was our boy choice before we found out we're having a girl!

@EmotionalFlamingo wow! Quite the story! How wonderful for you that this has happened when you had given up hopes of it being possible! I’m sure I’ve heard of other stories where couples have conceived shortly after adopting - almost like it somehow resets something! Well baby is already viable so fingers crossed all keeps going well! 💕

@EmotionalFlamingo oh wow! Welcome. What a story!

You missed the aaaargh scary what's happening sick panics and joined at the last stint of the panics!