Due August 2020 Thread 2

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Hello ladies new thread here for all of us been chatting on thread 1 due in August with our babies!

I would love to see her again too, OH isn't fussed. He wasn't upset by not going to the 20 week scan as "it's just a fuzzy black and white image and I can't tell what I'm looking at"

@superscientist men are so funny. Mine was gutted he couldn't get into the 20 week scan though. It's a bit shit for him though cause I don't drive so he's basically my driver to all appointments and just has to chill in the car till I come back out.

I’m 29 weeks today & a FTM due my baby boy on 28/8. I’m dying to get a 4D scan but no where close to me open at the moment for them, but there are talks of a few ones starting to take bookings in the next few weeks so hopefully get one sorted 🤞🏼

I'm 30 weeks tomorrow and due on the 22nd so very close to some of you.

My husband was exactly the same about 3d/4d scans. He really couldn't care less 🤣 With my first we had one at 27/28 weeks but only because I found a deal on groupon. We were going to wait for a surprise with him but on the way to the 3d scan we decided that we would ask them. So glad I did though as it helped me bond with him, and to be honest we both felt like we were having a girl for some reason so was good to get our heads around that! We won't have one of those scans this time as we definitely want a surprise.

Yay, lots of people due the same week as me! I'm 30+1, due on 20/8. Although I'm based in France, where they count 41 weeks so they think I'm due on the 28th (and not the 27th...)

Went to maternity A&E on Tuesday night as I felt like I needed to have diarrhoea and had bad period pains. Didn't think it was early labour, I rang them to ask if I should take a paracetamol but they just said to come in and be checked out anyway. I've only had phone consultations since 21 weeks because of Covid and this was the first time the hospital had actually seen me for this pregnancy, so it wasn't a bad idea. Everything's fine, we had a scan (DH was thrilled as he missed the last one!) and they're happy with everything. I had an ELCS last time so not sure what real contractions are going to feel like. The midwife (or strictly speaking, the midhusband) told me to expect things to be earlier and more painful this time round though... great.

My Queen Rose pillow has arrived and I LOVE it, although I'm still getting sore hips. Probably because we have a rock hard mattress. I have to sleep on top of it with its 'legs' pushed in together. So comfy though!

Feeling very big now, I've put on 10kg and the slightest bit of physical effort is exhausting me. Unfortunately I have a dissertation to write but all I want to do is go baby shopping!

How is everyone else feeling?

I’m glad it’s not just my OH that is that way, I was starting to worry that he was coping so well but I think it’s just the way he is.
I’ve brought him a ‘Heartbeat Bear’ which I am going to put a recording of our little ones heartbeat in and give to him on Fathers Day which I think he will ‘appreciate’ but I am sure it will end up being a permanent feature on my side of the bed

I’m feeling REALLY tired this week, it seems to have really hit me with a bang the last couple of days. I’ve even started napping during the day which isn’t something I’ve ever done before. I’m also aching a lot, my back, my bump, my boobs!
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@jmill13 Yes! We did!

@mamansnet second you on the pillow.. isn't it the best thing EVER! 😍 although I do now also sleep on top of another pillow on my bump as it hurts when I lay on my side for some reason.

It's hot me this week (32 weeks) I feel tired and like I'm shuffling round the house, groaning when I get up and constantly dying for a pee but when I go it's a drop 😅 get off the loo and then I'm bursting again!

Is anyone glowing?? I need your secrets 😆

I've felt exhausted all week this week - doesn't help that work has been very full on.

Has anyone else had a big jump in percentile? At 28w appt she was measuring 50th, went in today for my 31w appt and she's measuring 97th .

The midwife said if she's still measuring big at 34w she'll need to refer me as it could be GD - although I've no other symptoms and my GD test was clear. Feeling a bit shit about it, like I've done something wrong - doesn't help that DH has been on work calls since I got back from the midwife so I've not been able to talk to him about it....

I have been brighter and had more energy the last few weeks than any other time in my pregnancy. The low mood I have had over 6 months has lifted at last which has made the difference.

In every other way my oh is being attentive and talks to her more than I do and pretends to tell her off when she's in an uncomfortable position or making me nauseous.

How much do you guys talk to your little one? I keep getting asked by professionals if I'm talking to her when trying to gauge how I'm bonding to her. I do a bit but mostly in my head rather than outloud. I'm not sure it counts and I'm paranoid I'm not doing it right and she won't know my voice when she's born and we won't bond properly.

@heroineinahalfshell I just had a 28 wk scan and was told she's measuring on the 50th centile... Which I am highly dubious about as I typically don't have small or average sized babies. Growth scans can be totally innacurate, it's hard to say! They will probably just scan you again, then they could encourage you to be induced at term (38-39 maybe) rather than letting you go over?

@superscientist I have never had conversations with my baby belly lol, that feels weird to me. My dh talks to my belly though and it's lovely. I rock and rub my belly plenty though. Baby will know your heartbeat, and be sure to have a nice long skin to skin when they're born.

Such a lovely experience today. Went for a private growth scan and baby is weighing 4lbs at 31+1 and measuring around the 50th centile for everything.
Got a sneaky peak in 4D as part of the package and burst out crying! I was just so overwhelmed. I have an anterior placenta and her hands were covering her face for a lot of it but we still got some lovely images and video clips.
Worth every penny!

@superscientist I'm dreading the midwives asking me as i honestly don't speak to bump much at all. I'll say hi when it kicks me first thing or something but that's really about it. Oh doesn't talk either. He'll kiss bump or put his hands on it every day but neither of have said more than a couple of words to it here and there. Is that awful? I just feel really awkward and weird about it. We talk a lot to each other and I'm on and off the phone all day every day for work so I'm assuming baby will hear plenty of my voice anyway.

@sel2223 ah amazing! She looks so comfy in there!

I'm so relieved you guys don't talk much to bump either, i never do! I'll say "oh hi" if she starts kicking me but that's about it! DH never talks to her either but as @JMill13 says, we're both chatting to each other and on the phone all day so I'm sure she'll know our voices. I don't think it should be taken as an indication of your bond, i feel bery bonded but can't get over the weirdness of talking to my belly out loud!

Exactly @heroineinahalfshell it feels awkward and weird especially because realistically we can't contort ourselves to actually talk to bump, so without doing that we actually just look like we're talking to ourselves, and I'm just not about that life.

Well I spoke to DH about the increase in her size, and he hasn't made me feel better. Basically said I'm obviously eating too much and he's going to police what I eat from now on. I want to cry.

We have a private scan booked tomorrow so I'm hoping they can give us an indication of her size and fluid levels and hopefully that will help.

@heroineinahalfshell what!! No way!! Tell him to pipe down and show you his medical degree 🙄🤦‍♀️

@heroineinahalfshell men can be infuriating sometimes! What an unhelpful comment.....ignore him!!
Apparently measuring the bump is just a guide and isn't the most accurate, you should hopefully get a much better indication at the scan tomorrow.

I don't really talk to the bump either. I have tried a few times and will sometimes give it a rub and passing comment but it all just feels a bit weird lol.
I figure she's hearing me droning on all day so will be well used to my voice by the time she's born.
I do play music but that's more just me listening to it rather than specifically playing songs for the bump.

@heroineinahalfshell I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. If my OH said that to me he's be in trouble. There's so many other factors that play into baby measurements than what the mum eats. My friend said today both times she's been pregnant baby measured small, her first she was scanned every week right up to birth they were worried because of how small she was measuring... Baby was born over 8lb, baby number 2 was the same but my friend said sure you Said that the first time it'll be fine so they didn't keep scanning but baby number 2 was born over 9lb so as long as you're being monitored and looked after you'll be fine. Some babies are just big.

I'm glad it's not just me, that doesn't really talk to their bump, it is a bit weird!

My oh would be in trouble if he suggested that @heroineinahalfshell I hope the scan tomorrow will put your mind at rest. A colleague was told she was going to have a big baby but she ended up a smidge under 7lbs!

@sel2223 wow what gorgeous photos, look at that nose 😍 I'm so glad you loved it, isn't it just the most gorgeous experience!

@JMill13 I don't talk to my bump either particularly, I'm like you and say good morning when she first kicks or tell her off in a joking way is she's lodged herself under my ribs (happened about an hour ago 😂) but I don't have conversations with it as I do feel a little bit stupid 🙈 does that make us bad? Surely they can hear our voices from day to day conversations with parents?

@JMill13 she definitely looked comfy. No amount of movement could coax her out of her chosen position lol.

@squashie34 thank you, it was amazing! That's daddy's nose right there....hope she grows into it 🤣

@squashie34 that's what I presume. They couldn't possibly hear our voices any clearer as we can't get physically closer to bump, can't imagine they know the difference between us talking to it and talking to the real world either. I had my first experience of having baby lodged in my ribs the other day, I politely told him/her to shift it 😂