Due August 2020 Thread 2

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Hello ladies new thread here for all of us been chatting on thread 1 due in August with our babies!

@heroineinahalfshell that actually made me gasp out loud that your OH said that to you. That's a normal weight gain if I remember correctly!! You have baby, placenta, amniotic fluid and in addition you end up with 1.5 times the volume of blood plus obviously any extra fluid retention. And we're meant to put down fat whilst pregnant as that is used to whilst breastfeeding. Honestly for my first, I had lost a stone overnight giving birth to her!

I do talk to my bump but more to say Oy! Stop contorting near my ribs etc. My daughter talks to bump more, even practices her reading to it but I do think that helps her to bond with her brother/sister. I am a chatterbox though so I'm often found talking to myself at least with bump I have an excuse

@Flutterbunny I'm all about the naps. If I sit on the sofa after my lunch that's it. I'm so sleepy. But naps are soo good.

@sel2223 yay for your gorgeous scan!!

@MamaFirst sorry I'm 31 weeks tomorrow due 15th August.

@sel2223 that is a gorgeous baby you have there.
No taking to bump here, my 3 year old talks with him but I wouldn’t know where to start!

@sel2223 great pics, love it ❤️

@squashie34 hope you are feeling better today 🥰

@mamafirst i'm also 31 weeks tomorrow due 15th Aug! Woohoo.

@heroineinahalfshell i certainly feel your pain, mine said that too so i told him where to shove the food 👀 i'm not sure about yours but mine has an unusual urge to accidentally make me feel like shit! The other day he told me 'well you should consider yourself lucky i still find you attractive' how do you take that? I don't think he meant it how it sounded.. but then again i'm not sure what he meant. My OH is unfortunately in the immature stage 😭 sorry to hear you felt upset about it!

Ah gorgeous photo @sel2223, so lovely to see. I am really hoping to get to see our baby's little face but not holding much hope after them being stubborn and refusing to turn their face last time.

We talk to my bump all the time, just silly thing and singing made up songs (its just what we are like anyway!) - it's probably fed up of me already 😂. It probably hears me saying "what are you doing" the most as they seem to be constantly pushing out limbs at the moment and everytime I ask them what they are up to without even thinking 😂.

They seem very responsive to sound, we've been watching a film with lots of music and everytime the music come on they started wiggling! I think they're going to like dancing!

Gorgeous pics @sel2223, must be nice to send to OH as well.

Hope your scan goes well tomorrow @heroineinahalfshell.

@MamaFirst -FTM 30 wks tomorrow due 22 August.

Has anyone seen an actual hand or foot yet pressing, not sure when that happens if at all! I see a lot of shuffling around in there!

Thank you so much everyone!

@2020Aug fingers crossed your little one cooperates just enough like ours did!

@WorriedButterfly we got pics and moving clips as well which OH absolutely loved. It's great to keep him involved.

So lovely @sel2223 😍😍

Me and OH we're playing with baby tonight. Her limbs were poking out and OH was gently tickling my stomach and she kept moving and then doing it again. it was almost like she was doing it on purpose until OH tickled her again. Was so lovely to see him bonding with baby as he hasn't really bothered too much as it "freaked him out" with her movements lol! She was moving about so much that she ended up with hiccups xx

Absolutely heartbroken 💔

Went for my 2 week growth scan yesterday, as I’ve been placed on high risk due to my reduced movement the past few weeks, but baby has been perfect wriggling around loads and loads. I was 33 weeks yesterday.

After the scan she told me everything was fine and he was weighing 5lbs which is very big for 33 weeks! She told me to sit in the corridor and do a urine sample so I sat right outside the sonography room. I could then hear her talking on the phone to somebody, and she then got up and closed the door and I could hear her saying my name how many weeks etc so started to freak out a little bit I thought maybe it’s just routine because everything is reflect so they might not need to scan me again?!

The midwife came to me and asked me to ‘pop inside for a little chat’ in which she told me that she has found a large fluid filled sac inside the babies abdomen :(
This could be a huge warning sign for a genetic disease called Hydrops Fetalis, which could explain the reduced movement and the rapid weight gain as the excess fluid could be accountable for the extra weight.

The worst part, she told me she isn’t qualified in that sort of thing so I have to be referred to the Fetal Medciene Leader for the hospital, who cannot see me until Tuesday, and she said as this is an exception I am allowed to bring my partner with me but also bring my hospital bag with me in case I need to have an emergency c-section next week which tells me straight away it’s bad news 💔

I’m now having to wait until Tuesday to find out what’s going to happen Or to be honest find out anything at all but when reading about it on google, (which I know I shouldn’t but the lack of information From the midwife has got me going insane!!!) it says that hydrops fetalis is a life threatening condition and at my gestation, my poor little blue soldier has a very low chance of survival if delivered now because he is so small so the draining of the fluid will most likely be so strange to him his little body won’t be able to handle it which the midwife did confirm yesterday.

I’m only 20 my boyfriend is 21 and we are so so gutted and terrified. You know these things happen but you literally never think anything like this is going to happen to you 💔💔💔💔

Oh @Firstmummytobe I cannot even imagine what you are going through right now. I'm so sorry.

I can't advise you or even start to give you reassurance as I dont know anything about this but I would say, please, for your own sake, step away from Google. You and your partner just be there for each other and talk to each other and help each other with the wait till Tuesday then go in with an open mind. The sonographer said themselves they are not an expert in this so hopefully Tuesday is going to give you a lot more answers.

Sending you love, hugs and positive thoughts. Stay strong for your little soldier 💙

I'm so sorry you've got that news. It will be a long wait until Tuesday. Be gentle with yourselves over the next few days x sorry no words

@Firstmummytobe
I am so sorry to hear this. I can’t even begin to imagine how you are feeling right now.
I also have no experience in this, but I do know that the doctors and nurses at the FMU are amazing and will do everything they possibly can to help you and your little blue man.

Like others have said, try to steer clear of google, I think what you see on there is always the worst case scenario. Every baby is different, there is no one-size-fits-all prognosis for these things. The professionals at the FMU know best.

Try and be strong and distract yourself from thinking about it too much if you can this weekend - maybe go for a walk somewhere that makes you feel content. Just be kind to yourself.

Sending lots of love to you xx

@Firstmummytobe so sorry you have this anxious wait. Sending lots of love. Be kind to yourself and definitely step away from google until Tuesday. Will be thinking of you all x

@firstmummytobe I am so so sorry you've been given this news. Sorry I can't be of any help, just know we will all be thinking of you and sending you all the positive, love filled thoughts for Tuesday. You got this, babies are little fighters. Try to stay strong, keep off Google and keep yourself as distracted as possible until Tuesday. Sending you lots of hugs and will be thinking of you and your wee man! 💛

@Firstmummytobe I'm so sorry to hear this lovely- but I do agree with PP on here, please try to not google over this weekend as it can suck you into a horrible hole of negative stories and things. Try and take time this weekend to spend together and keep busy, also knowing that there's another 3 days he is growing and getting stronger inside you.

Sending all the love and strength ❤️

@Firstmummytobe I'm so, so sorry to hear your news and that you have an anxious wait for more info. I can't begin to imagine how scary it is. Agree with all the other ladies here, Google will be full of worst-case scenarios so try to step away and do all you can to support and distract each other until Tuesday.

Oh @firstmummytobe that is not what anyone wants to hear - I really feel for you doll. Try and stay strong and definitely don't google it like the other girls said, too many variables so you just need to wait until Tuesday.

Just remember that every minute inside you is a minute closer to a positive outcome and as it's such a niche condition you'll be getting the very best care next week by the top specialists. Why don't you try and focus on something practical like getting your bag ready so that you have something to do over the weekend? We're all here for you if you need to talk hun xx

@Firstmummytobe I’m so sorry to hear you & baby are going through this. Like PP I have no words of wisdom to give you but I am sending you positive vibes & love 💞

@Firstmummytobe so sorry to hear that you are all going through this and the wait that's so tough! Yes please remember that we're all here for you.

@Firstmummytobe devastated for you, sorry to hear that. Stay positive and sending best wishes and love to you all ❤️

@Firstmummytobe I'm so sorry to hear your news!! I can't imagine what you must be going through. We all have you in our thoughts and I'm staying positive for you for Tuesday ❤️

@Firstmummytobe so sorry to hear this, cannot imagine what you are going through. Keeping everything crossed for you for Tuesday xx

@firstmummytobe oh lovely, I'm so sorry to hear your scary news. Keeping everything crossed for you and sending you all the luck and love in the world, you and your little man will be in my thoughts x

Thank you so much to everybody, your kind words really do mean so much to me ❤️

My family had planned a surprise social distance baby shower for me tomorrow, but obviously have had to tell me today Incas I didn’t feel up to it. I think it’s best to have it and have a good time and celebrate even just my pregnancy!

Exited to see a few of my close family and friends that I haven’t seen a while to be honest, I don’t feel I should miss out because of this horrible news because it’s a day to celebrate my little boy at the end of the day no matter what happens!

I will keep you all updated lots of love❤️

@Firstmummytobe I totally agree, have the baby shower! ❤️ I think it will be lovely for you! X