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Told wrong gender at ultrasound??

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mecabag · 13/05/2020 14:07

Has anyone ever been told boy and it turned out to be a girl? Or the other way around?

My 16 week ultrasound at window to the womb looks like a girl in some images but I was told boy. I know they are probably correct but feel like I can’t buy anything yet as it doesn’t look very ‘boyish’.

Has this ever happened to anyone?

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ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 14/05/2020 11:36

This is so strange. Do people know there are more colours than just pink and blue?? Grin you can have a baby of either sex and never dress it in either of those colours!

bee222 · 14/05/2020 11:37

what woman has never wanted a little girl in florals and dresses!?

After multiple mmc I just want an actual baby. Could not give a single shit what sex it is. I’m not even going to find out at the scan.
If I wanted a little girl to put in frilly dresses I would buy a doll. Babies are not toys.

ScarfLadysBag · 14/05/2020 11:59

My DD has never worn a floral dress  I don't wear them and I've no interest in dressing her in them either. She wears mainly leggings and tops, which I buy from both the girls and boys sections of shops. Today she's wearing an octopus top and monster leggings. And yes, she has dinosaur PJs and sleeping bags!

OnlyTheLangoftheTitBerg · 14/05/2020 12:50

Congratulations OP. I'm no good at interpreting scans but I hope s/he is healthy either way.

Regarding the colours / gender neutral thing, you've got it a little bit arse-backwards. It's not 'political correctness' to point out that babies and children can wear any colour, it's actually quite healthy and was the norm until comparatively recently (I went to primary school in bottle green cords one day and a pink flowery dress the next). By defining the gender roles and expectations so rigidly, i.e. boys MUST be in blue and play with dinosaurs, girls MUST be in pink and play with dolls etc, we end up with confused young boys thinking they must really be a girl because they like pink and ballet, and vice versa, rather than understanding that it's absolutely okay to be a boy and like pink and ballet and indeed, anything at all.

No-one is saying there is anything wrong with dressing a boy in blue or a girl in pink. It's when you (generic you) reinforce the message that blue is ONLY for boys/boys must be in blue and pink is ONLY for girls/girls must be in pink that it becomes unnecessarily restrictive and potentially harmful.

Good luck with your 20 week scan and the rest of your pregnancy, OP.

majesticallyawkward · 14/05/2020 13:36

This is so strange. Do people know there are more colours than just pink and blue?? you can have a baby of either sex and never dress it in either of those colours!
Obviously.... pink and blue are used to describe generic boy/girl gender stereotyped items. Walk into any shop and you'll see a blinding array of pink, pastels, glitter, flowers, unicorns and the like with frills and tulle and a tiny section fo blue, grey, green, dinosaurs and diggers. Maybe a handful of neural items.

It's this that is the issue, and what you see more often is women rushing out to buy little girls all the frills and glitter they can get their hands on. The babies never get a choice.

There was a mn post the other day about a mum who wanted to get her son a dolls pram and her dh refused. Because it's ingrained that boys don't play with dolls. Even that the pram was blue fgs

Embracelife · 14/05/2020 13:42

Why would any sex be " wrong" ? Boy or girl are both perfectly acceptable .
Incorrect identitication 16 weeks is a risk but you can wait few more weeks to know for 99.99% certainty

steppemum · 14/05/2020 13:45

It has happened to two people I know. Both times told girl and then it was a boy.

I htink it is less likely to be wrong the other way round!

Starlightstarbright1 · 14/05/2020 13:48

My Ds opened his legs and proudly showed off what he had grown on scans . I had additional scans . You really didn’t need to be a sonographer to know.

Hoggleludo · 14/05/2020 14:34

You're only 16 weeks.....

You could get an amniocentesis. That will tell you.

However. Just wait a few more weeks. It will be more certain

They can also refuse to tell you....they sometimes can't tell. There's quite a few reasons.

JustAddCoffee91 · 14/05/2020 14:47

I've had 2 boys and had early scans with both... definitely a little teabag in picture 1

Laylor · 14/05/2020 15:13

My baby is 11 weeks and we didnt find out. It was super hard but once he arrived we were so glad we waited. Made me push that little bit harder and the joy on my husbands face telling me the sex was one that I will remember for a long time.

My cousin had a miscarriage and is now 30 or so weeks. She paid extra just to find out the sex. Made it clear she wanted a girl and was 'dreading' it if it was a boy. I felt like shaking her I really did.

Think yourself lucky you are pregnant. It really is a miracle

Congrats x

EarlGreyT · 14/05/2020 15:54

because what woman has never wanted a little girl in florals and dresses!?

Me. The baby is an actual human being, not some kind of toy to dress up. I had no idea people think that an advantage of having a little girl is so they can dress it in florals and dresses- how utterly ridiculous.

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/05/2020 15:58

because what woman has never wanted a little girl in florals and dresses!?

You don't add honey to sugar. My DD in dungarees with a spade in her hand? OMG no amount of frills and lace could have made her cuter.

Raaaa · 14/05/2020 16:02

@Laylor exactly same story as yours, my OH was the first to see what the baby was when she was born and will always remember that Smile

Mucklowe · 14/05/2020 16:10

what woman has never wanted a little girl in florals and dresses!?

Plenty, me included. I've already had to turn away frilly floaty things from my mother. My DD will be a person, not a decorative item.

pinkhoozer · 14/05/2020 18:48

“Plenty, me included. I've already had to turn away frilly floaty things from my mother. My DD (darling daughter) will be a person, not a decorative item.”

Heaven forbid a little girl wear a pretty dress! Shock I suppose any women who wears a dress and does her hair and makeup is also using herself as a decorative item? And should be ashamed of herself for doing so?

Would love to see how some of these posters dress themselves Grin I think most who refuse to dress their child in gendered clothing are only pushing their own personal views and tastes on a child anyway.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 14/05/2020 18:53

My DD wore a mixture of dresses and dungarees and leggings and tops. Whatever I though was cute whilst shopping.

Now, I buy her clothes I think she’ll like. She still loves a dress and will choose this for herself when getting dressed. She loves Disney princesses but also loves PJ Masks and Toy Story. I’ve bought her a few ‘boy’ outfits because I know she’ll like them. She’s still, without fail, a girl!

bee222 · 14/05/2020 19:34

I suppose any women who wears a dress and does her hair and makeup is also using herself as a decorative item? And should be ashamed of herself for doing so?
Would love to see how some of these posters dress themselves

I was actually interviewed by the BBC to discuss how women who wear makeup are doing it for themselves and don’t give a flying fuck what anyone else, especially men, thinks of them (I work in this general area - don’t want to out myself). I wear makeup every day and have a pretty large collection of vintage cosmetics. I also dress pretty damn well, thank you very much.

What you are failing to grasp is the concept of self-autonomy.
My child will not be my doll to play with. I probably will put her in a dress, but I’ll also dress her in dungarees with dinosaurs, ducks and spaceships. I will avoid obviously gendered clothing because I simply think it’s tacky and it’s not healthy to impose such rigid gender roles on a child at such a young age. She will wear whatever is comfortable and cute. When she is old enough to pick her own clothes she can wear whatever she wants. If that’s nothing but dresses, just like her mum, she can do that - because that will be her choice.

PrimrosePeace · 14/05/2020 19:37

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user1493400455 · 14/05/2020 19:37

@pinkhoozer I’ve wondered this too! These people are so hell bent on how babies should not be dressed in stereotypical colours because they believe gender stereotypes are formed, however I bet they themselves dress like ‘women’ or support gender stereotypes in other ways. Would they send their sons to school in a skirt? I very much doubt it. Would they encourage their sons to put on a bit of lipstick for their high school prom? I very much doubt it. Would they encourage their sons to have pig tails and bows in their hair? I very much doubt it. All this nonsense about pink and blue - in reality, they are very much supporting gender stereotypes with their children but always have to pipe up about pink and blue clothing!

Laylor · 14/05/2020 19:38

@Raaaa priceless isnt it. I put in my birth plan I wanted husband to tell me the sex. We both secretly wanted a boy. I dont care what anyone says you always have a preference. Yes health and happiness too obviously. My baby was born so fast we were both a bit shocked and I had to say to him oh my god what is it and he was like oh I forgot then looked down and screamed ITS A BOY. Absolutely made up we were. Still trying to get my head around pushing his tinky down to put his nappy on Confused we both have nieces on either side so it's been lovely having what we wanted. Xx

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/05/2020 19:46

These people are so hell bent on how babies should not be dressed in stereotypical colours

This started as a helpful hint that it is possible to dress a baby perfectly well without knowing the sex. It's not 'hellbent' it's practical.

It appears some posters can't fathom a world where you dress children in comfortable, practical, cute clothes that don't signal anything about their sex.

Chan098 · 14/05/2020 20:09

Hi I’m wondering if anyone could help I took a clear blue test in the 26 March and said I was 1-2 week pregnant then one on the 27 March say I was 2-3 could anyone help me on how this works

user1493400455 · 14/05/2020 20:10

@MrsTerryPratchett no I can understand that, it’s very simple. With all due respect I have no opinion on how others dress their children, it’s up to them. I also understand that gender stereotypes are not solely determined on whether a baby is dressed in pink or blue as gender stereotypes are around us, every single day and supported in one way or another by the majority of people as outlined in the examples I gave above. So those who are opposed to dressing babies in pink or blue often seen to contradict themselves and in fact do enforce gender stereotypes

FourPlasticRings · 14/05/2020 20:13

@Chan089

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