Hi, I’m currently 9 weeks pregnant. It’s my first pregnancy so everything is completely new. I got my BFP just 6 days before lockdown was announced and although I’ve been able to talk to a midwife on the phone it’s just not the same. The community midwife based at my GP sounded really friendly but the midwife where I have my scan booked sounded quite formal, not horrible or anything, just too formal for me. I never feel at ease if I find someone formal and being just on the phone didn’t help.
I have my 12-week scan booked in for 15th May. I’ve been told I have to go on my own. I really, really, really don’t want to go on my own. I understand why but I just can’t bare the thought of it.
Like I said, this is my first pregnancy and I really don’t want to do the first scan without my husband there. It’s a massive deal to me, seeing our baby for the first time isn’t something we can have a second chance at.
I do understand why but it feels so unfair, especially as we’ve both been able to stay at home for the last month. I don’t feel like having both of us from the same household that hasn’t been anywhere is going to add any risk.
Anyway, what I wanted to ask to those of you who have been through pregnancy before is ... **how important is the 12 week scan? I don’t want to do it by myself if I don’t have to.
If I didn’t go would it make a difference? As far as I’m aware of the baby is healthy then it’s healthy and if it’s not then it’s not and there’s nothing a scan can do to change that.
I’m looking into getting a private scan to see if there’s somewhere I can go where my husband can go to. If I can just have a scan with him there then I’ll feel better but if not then I’d rather just wait, providing delaying having a scan means I’m not putting myself or the baby at risk. I have no medical history or anything like that that puts me at obvious risk so if I can avoid the distress of a solo scan then I’d like to hold out for the coronavirus pandemic to simmer down, even if it means waiting until the 20 week scan.