December 2020 babies thread #2

[Beccarans89]

Hi all!
Starting a new thread as the other one was full! Hope everyone has had a good Easter! :)

@Ch31sey I'm in the EXACT same boat I'm 7 weeks today and I'm so tired and nauseous.... hoping it eases after the first trimester xx

I've found that I've been a bit up and down with my symptoms. Last weekend was a real down but during the week not so bad- maybe WFH has taken my mind off feeling sick.

Hope everyone who is feeling poorly gets plenty of rest and TLC from those around them.

Just wondering who has told people? I had to tell work as I am a Teacher so had to be taken off the rota based on union guidance. Haven't told anyone else though. My best friend knows but doesn't know if that makes sense.

@Ch31sey I am the same - no energy and I am 6 weeks today. The only silver lining from having to work from home is that I can lie down if I need to!

I've told my parents, best friend and my manager (I'm a nurse so it was pretty necessary).
My sickness only seems to come in late afternoon/early evening, it's bizarre! X

Hi! I am new to this thread (also due December) but wanted to reply to you. I’m a teacher too and so far have managed to avoid telling my head. Our schools are set us as hubs, with one hub covering the pupils from several schools and each school taking a a turn for a week at a time to staff it. It’s my schools turn again next week but I have my initial midwife appointment and my gp also wants to catch up with me again due to underlying long term health (I have rheumatoid arthritis and so he is wanting to keep a close eye on me). So I told my head I had a couple of medical appointments booked in and just let her assume they were to do with my RA. By the time we are on rota again assuming this continues a few weeks more I will be happier to tell her being closer to 12 week scan.

We haven’t told anyone yet. We want to wait until after our first appointment and blood tests but I’m struggling a bit. FaceTimed with my mum and sister earlier and kept getting teary then my sister asked if I was feeling ok and I burst into tears. I’ve pretty much been crying all day. Wish I could just tell them so I could talk openly about how I’m feeling but I really want to tell them in person (which we’re hoping we might be able to do by the time we’ve had blood test results, in a couple of weeks).

Hey ladies, had our early scan today. Measuring 8 weeks today, saw the heartbeat 😀 the sonographer said we can relax now. I'd definitely recommend if you're feeling anxious xx

@lc86 aww that's great!! Have you done it privately? And was your partner allowed in the room?

@ElsaCC thank you, yes paid privately, was £50. My partner was allowed in 😊

Hi everyone :) not sure if it's been mentioned in a while, but we've got a great Dec 2020 Babies group going on Facebook with about 50 or so mums to be so far.

If anybody is interested in joining then send me a DM and we can get you added in. It's a completely private group so can't be searched publicly and it won't show up on your timeline for anybody else when you join either 😊

@lc86 how lovely.
This just made my day.

I may look for a private scan.

I am around 8weeks and 3 days. I have been feeling really down.
I am such a bubbly person usually and wanted a baby for as long as I can remember.
I am suffering with the worst nausea and I keep being snappy with my husband and then I feel bad afterwards.

I’ve been anxious about attending a scan without him as it’s our first baby.

So today he ordered a home baby checker. It’s a ultrasound just like in the hospital that you can rent for 3 days. To see the baby and get pics.
I still feel I would rather have the expert advice.

I am so glad to have found a forum and other women in the same situation as me. I have felt so sorry for my self and alone. Congratulations everybody expecting xx

If anybody had any advise for depression during the first trimester please share.

I am hoping I will enjoy the pregnancy soon xx

@kpm7 I was exactly the same when I had my nausea it make me feel really shitty and exhausted didn't wanna do anything and I was over emotional and crying for it to stop it started from about 5weeks til 8+5 weeks but now it's really gotten better and I feel a lot better in my self but currently having terrible skin break outs a constant bad taste in my mouth and still very fatigue at 9+3 but without the nausea I still feel 10x better than before certain smells can trigger it for me at times but not as severe and constant as before I'm now 9+3 x

@jtc19 thanks for the feedback. I have hopes it will end. I am on meds proscribed by the doctors but they don’t seem to help. I even have the sickness wrist bands. I feel they are also useless.

The outbreaks have started for me too.

This May seems like a really stupid question to everybody but I am new to this and feel very blind.

I have had no appointments yet with doctors or midwifes, due to coronavirus I am having a telephone appointment with the midwife tomorrow.
Is this normal? I am saying I am 8 weeks and 4 days. Based on an app which I put my last period in. Is that the same for everyone? Or has your dates been confirmed? Xx

My sister said I should have at least had my bloods done by now but maybe due to coronavirus they are doing things differently. Xx

@CooperLooper I’ve sent you a PM 😊 x

@PBailey20 I have told my sister. She is like a mum to me. She guessed before I knew as I started having afternoon naps it was very unlike me.
She also had a baby boy December just gone so it’s nice to share some recent experiences. My husband didn’t know I had told her because I think he was hoping we can share the news together once we have had the scan.
It’s hard to hold it in when you speak to people everyday and they notice a change in you.

He now knows she knows, I also said he can share the news with someone if he wishes as I don’t want him to feel alone.

I would love to share the joy with my family and friends but it’s early days and read lots of pros and cons stories online.
I suppose it is your preference, there is no right or wrong.
I am not so close to my mum. I told my grandad as I was isolating with him. L
He’s been like my dad growing up and I didn’t want him worrying why I was ill and moody.

I have also secretly told 2 of my friends who are also mums.
They do not know each other so they have no contact with each other, I just felt comfortable to tell them 2 only.

They have shared some of there experiences with me which made me feel better.

(My husband doesn’t know they know)

He has told one of his friends today because I encouraged him too.
He was emotional seeing me so erratic and ill that I said it would be nice for you to also speak to someone who has been through it.

Sadly we don’t have supportive parents I know my mum will be delighted but she also has mental health problems and doesn’t understand the importance of keeping secrets. She loves Facebook so the world would know before I pass my first trimester.

My dad I see occasionally but he will just be like merrrr happy but not really show much support.
So I feel it would not benefit me telling him anyway.

I really want to tell my brother as I speak to him daily but I am his baby sister. (Even though I am 30) I still feel shy.
I have bought scratch cards from eBay to share with people. When we spill.

We keep saying we are going to tell my in-laws but then backing out. I think we will wait till we have had our scan. I am worried about there reaction. (My anxiety getting the best of me)

I think my hubby feels like people in my family know so his family should too. (Men) lol I am totally fine with that if he wishes to tell them even though it’s out of my comfort zone I want to keep him happy and don’t see a harm in them knowing.

I am just thinking I don’t want to see there reaction so I would rather text them.
Even thought we bought nice scratch cards to give.
He wants to say it on FaceTime or to there face but I feel if they are not happy for us then it will upset me. I am maybe being selfish trying to protect my feelings?

Xxx

@Kpm7 I had my midwife call earlier this week and she told me that my bloods will be done at the 12 week scan 😊 this seems to be quite common with everything going on at the moment x

Hi, I'm new to the thread can I join too?
By my dates due 20th Dec, we already have dd and I've lost 2 previously and one chemical after

I had HG with dd and the severe day and night sickness started about 2-3 weeks ago, on meds and have sea bands but nothing is helping much. Its lousy and I am so exhausted by constant wretching and vomiting I can barely function :(

Got my booking in phone appointment on Tuesday and scan at the start of June. So worried but as we don't drive we aren't doing a private scan, just sitting tight and hoping for the best!

Congratulations to everyone else :)

@Jasminex1 thank you that is good to hear. Xx

@Sb131216
How exciting congratulations to you and your little family.

It’s nice you have a scan date to look forward too.
Hopefully by June things will be more relaxed.
What a crazy world we are living in right now. I can’t wait to tell my baby when they are older all the abnormal things we went through being pregnant with them. They will never understand. Hahah.
Xx

Hi, also due Dec.
2nd Baby, had HG with first and looks like it’s going to be the same again. I felt sick all day every day from week 6 to the day he was born.
Spent so much of today laying down as being upright makes me sick. So much harder with toddler around though!

On anti sickness from Dr, taking ginger tablets, wearing wristbands and drinking ginger tea and it’s not touching it!

I’m a teacher so have told work as needed to be taken off the rota, best friend knows too but that’s it. Planning on keeping it that way until after scan.

Have booking in phone appt in a couple of weeks and assume scan date will come after that.

Had C section last time and hoping to do the same again, but worried about Covid Stopping me.

Thank you Kpm :)

Oh it is! I'm considered high risk due to a couple of health conditions and medications so I'm concerned already at lack of consultant care (scan isn't at a hospital, midwife isn't face to face nor is gp) and I've not had any blood tests which should have been done by now for medication reasons.
I'm hoping my consultants will be sorted out as we had a rough time and worry with dd but obviously with what is going on I do understand, it just adds to the worry doesn't it

Mumwithacamera, I feel your pain re. HG and the terrible nausea and sickness. I can't move my head or use my laptop and just crying all the time with how bad it is :( hope your meds start helping soon

@kpm7 Yeah I had the same at 8weeks just a phone appointment they said due to corna virus the earliest face to face is the 12week for the scan and there going do do blood test and everything which is very frustrating cause I would have liked to have a check up by now to see everything's okay I'm also new to pregnancy this is my first child and I'm only 19 so don't really know a lot and I'm doing my dates based of my last period as you can't go to the doctors or see a midwife til 12weeks Xx

@jtc19 sounds like we are all in the same boat. I am sure we will be fine but as we have nothing better to do at the moment we sit at home and over think.

We have ordered a scan monitor which we can use at home. We will hire it for 3 days.
It sounds mad my husband just randomly ordered it. I was like wow not sure how I feel about this. Maybe it will just easy the anxiety
A little n seem more real.

@Sb131216
I can imagine you will be worried having other conditions. Try to stay positive I know it’s hard when we have nothing better to do than sit at home and think.
I am going to look for some pregnancy workouts on YouTube. I feel like I have been piling on the pounds. I’ve been craving fish and chips with curry sauce from the chippy and Had it 2 days in a row.
My sickness wouldn’t stomach anything but that.

I usually eat healthy but my body just wants bad Foods.

@MumWithACamera the sickness is tough. I have also tried the things they say peppermint tea ginger tea and I am also on Phenergran 25mg.
They told me to take half in the morning and half at night. I just really want to enjoy my pregnancy

I have found sucking polos has eased it through the day a little.
Xxx

@kpm7

I fee you on the bad food, would love to do some workouts too, but feel so sick all the time.
My first pregnancy I had such good intentions regarding good food and exercise but being so sick put stop to anything like that.

I have hypothryoidism so likely to be consultant care, I am worried I won’t get bloods done until 12 week scan date, as often need more thryoxine in pregnancy.

Kpm7 honestly twice won't harm, especially if that's what you rely are craving and can stomach. You have the rest of your pregnancy to eat more healthily anyway :)

Pregnancy work out sounds good, I'm waiting until I have a bit more energy/not constantly being sick to start, as all the pains from being sick and coughing are pretty bad but let us know if you find something you get on well with! I only really walked with dd so hoping I can get a work out to do this time