Two boys...other people's reaction

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Am currently pregnant with DS2, DS1 is just over 2. I am getting so sick of people's reaction when I tell them no2 is also a boy...lots of people implying I should be somehow disappointed, or that 2 boys will be a huge handful, I'll be properly outnumbered etc. Some are joking, others not.

Has anyone else had this? Is it specifically a 2 boys thing, or do people with two girls get the same? I feel like I'm being made to feel DS2 is somehow a consolation prize. I've loved having DS1, he is utterly amazing, why would DS2 be any different?! Surely a healthy baby is what matters?

I have 4 boys I have had this a lot.

I’ve got two boys. It’s great. I did get some comments about having a girl, but I really wasn’t bothered about having a girl, and am more than happy to have two two boys.

I've 3 boys ( men now ) and they are wonderful. If I could go back and do it all over again for the enjoyment I would. I've had 26 years of loveliness with them.

Aw that’s rubbish - this is my first pregnancy and I’m having a boy and we’re SO excited! I don’t know why people get so hung up on sex and are so rude about it??

Thanks all, you're calming me down. I am completely happy with two boys, DS1 is amazing, I've just found others reactions to be a bit of a shock - perhaps I was oblivious before, but it seems like somehow the society ideal is one of each and i honestly never realised this before now?!

I guess the main thing is that I am happy...I think I need to develop a thicker skin to other people's comments!

I have two boys, I didn't find out the sex whilst pregnant so not many comments. A few speculative comments from people who thought I would want a girl. I am very happy to have boys.

2 boys are amazing.. mine are best mates, thick as thieves the bond boys have is very special. They do fall out but forgive very quickly, mine aren't overly crazy and they have their lovely cuddly sides.

If I knew you in person I'd be super excited for what you have in store!! Enjoy

I have 2 boys. No one made negative comments when I was pregnant with DS2 but now he is here I get a lot of, "so you'll be trying for a girl next?"which irritates me because you try for a baby, not a particular sex, and also if I ever do have a third I feel like everyone will assume I'm not happy with my 2 boys, which I very much am!

No I’ve only ever seen that with someone who has another girl. The tutting and feeling sorry the person doesn’t have a bit. It’s so ridiculous

I am pregnant with my fourth boy and have chosen not to tell people the sex of this baby until he arrives because I know if I say it’s another boy I will get lots of negative comments.

I’m currently expecting our third girl - we are constantly getting the sympathetic looks when we tell them 🙄 Drives me mad. We are thrilled to be having a third girl.

I’m always a little jealous of mothers with several sons. Not when they’re young, because toddlers are toddlers. It’s seeing a mum with two or three gangly, spotty teenage boys. I find myself melting at the sight for some reason. I only have one son (yes, a bit gangly and spotty). And yes, I know I’m being a little bit unreasonable.

Doesn’t help you now, but this was one of the big reasons I didn’t find out sex during pregnancy.

I have two boys, I still get comments about trying for a girl. People are weird, like one of each is the holy grail of baby making. Two boys is great, either smile and nod, roll your eyes, or say something cutting and abrupt, but dont let them get to you!

@MaidenMotherCrone I could have written your post, word for exact word

OP, yes I had those comments a lot, especially after I had DS3.

I’d rather have 2 of the same sex thank one of each

I'm pregnant with first at the moment and don't know what I'm having and genuinely have no preference. The other day I was absent minded thinking about what I would like the sex of a theoretical second baby to be and I thought "I'd either like one of each, for the experience, or two of the same for their friendship" and then I was SO happy because I realised that there are no other options so it's win-win-won!
No point to this other than other people are stupid and of course you are going to be delighted with a second boy! Enjoy 😊

There's a youtuber who is a mum of three boys and I always think it seems like a lot of fun.

Just give them a weird look like they've suddenly launched into another language. Then say, 'Why on Earth would you think/say that?'

People usually find it hard to justify their prejudices.

I got this when pregnant the third time. Had two girls. People had a lot to say when I found out i was having a boy. I truely think they believed I only wanted another baby to have a boy. Absolutely not the case.

It's weird and assumes all sorts of very negative things. I have a boy and a girl and people were very strange saying things like, "oh, you've completed your family" I would have a complete family with two boys because I wasn't going to have another.
People are weird and your boys will be very different people with the same sex.

Yeah. All the time.

3 boys here. When pregnant my MW said 'nevermind, the main thing is he's healthy' when I told her it was a boy. Everyone assumed that we were trying for a girl with number 3 but I am and have always been delighted with my boys.

I got so sick if hearing it that when people ask me what children I have i straight away jump in with a joke before they can. It did both me when pregnant that anyone could think a son was second best but now they are all here I find I'm less sensitive about other people's opinions.

I don't get societies obsession with having daughters. All children are equally lovely and awful in so many different ways.

I've got two girls. Currently pregnant. People keep saying 'oh hope it's a boy for you'. I just hope it's healthy and sleeps 🤭

When I was pregnant with DS2, people were so flat in their response. It was almost like I had disappointed them somehow. One colleague actually gave me her condolences and said maybe next time I’d have more luck

I have 3 boys and I get a lot of “you’ve got your hands full there”. There are lots of gender stereotypical views and I would say all people are different regardless of gender. Mine are all 2 years apart and they get on great they are like best friends. They are all very different. They like boy stereotyped things Lego, cars but they also love girl stereotypical things pink purple nail varnish unicorns. My friend has two girls and she gets a lot of “are you not going to try for a boy” 🤷🏽‍♀️ Congratulations and enjoy your boys.