I'm bleeding

[MrsC2018]

I'm devastated. 5+3 with a much longed for IVF pregnancy and tonight I have lots of period cramps and I've got bright red fresh blood when I wipe. EPU have told me to take paracetamol and come in next Saturday night if this is still going on. My IVF viability scan isn't until April 20th, what am I going to do until then 😢. This is so cruel, I've waited over 4 years to see those lines and I just know in my heart of hearts that this part of my journey is over.

Please tell me I'll be ok 💔

You can have an early pregnancy bleed and everything be ok ❤️ take the paracetamol & keep in touch with EPU/your IVF clinic - next Saturday is a long time away and I'd think they would want to see you before that (I was seen within a day in a previous pregnancy)

Sorry not much help, didn't want to read and run x

I had a heavy bleed that I mistook for my period at 4 1/2 weeks pregnant! I'm now 14+2 🙂 Try not to worry, rest up and take care of yourself xx

Thank you for the encouragement ladies, it's very much appreciated ❤️

It's only brown blood now and the cramping has eased off but my clinic is closed so can't speak to them. It just feels like a nightmare. I was nauseous until Thursday and realised last night that I've not felt sick since then either. I wish I could just know, the progesterone pessaries will prob stop a full bleed anyway so just that it's stopped so far doesn't provide me with much reassurance.

Hi op sorry to hear.
Bleeding can happen during pregnancy. Just rest yourself and don't over do things. Wait for your appointment. Keep us updated x

My daughter bled lots throughout her first pregnancy and everything was fine he's now two years old x she's now pregnant again and has had lots of bleeds with this one too but baby is fine and growing well .
Fingers crossed for you too x

Thank you for taking the time to post. I've just stayed in bed today, I couldn't face getting up I just feel so sad. Brown blood on wiping still and still period cramps on and off. It's just torture not knowing, I'm really hoping my IVF clinic at least has admin in tomorrow so I can beg to have the viability scan earlier cause I don't know how to cope with this for 2 more weeks.

I need to ring in sick tomorrow too, I'm a nurse so I'll be letting people down but how can I go in in this state 💔

I will pull myself together, I've had 4 failed IVF transfers before this one so I know I can do this. I'm just not sure I want to right now.

Thanks to you all for normalising bleeding too, I appreciate that. Such a shock to see it and the period cramps are driving me mad too cause when I'm not cramping I can slightly make myself believe that all might be ok in there. I'm trying to find peace and be calm, it's just so overwhelming right now but I'm going to carry on trying xx

Hi, I feel you - my first Fresh was a complete failure, my first frozen a CP, my third transfer took. But I bled with all of them. Are you on progesterone pessary? I had fragile cells on my cervix and the Pessary irritated them. Cleared up after I stopped them ~12 weeks, then a random bleed at 19 weeks

There was no different between my CP and my successful pregnancy, other than the CP got heavier and I passed a 1 inch gestational sac (cramping that had me crawling on the floor to the toilet).

I hope I haven’t given you false hope, unfortunately it could go either way, but I really really hope this is the one for you

OP I really feel for you. My 3rd IVF transfer/pregnancy I bled at 5+5, mostly dark red/brown, I was totally heartbroken and thought it was all over (my previous 2 IVF transfers ended in mmc, only discovered at scans, no bleeding). I had a scan at the epu the following day and there was heartbeat. I really hope it works out for you.

Hi. I'm the same I had a bright red bleed at 5w mine was also an ivf transfer.
The following day the clinic had me in, took my blood to check my hcg levels
They also told me to do An early morning pregnancy test to see the strength of the line.
I'd call your clinic again as mine were amazing and had me straight in.
I had brown bleed for 48 hours after the bright red one
Also my pregnancy symptoms started up again once the brown bleed had finished I found that strange.
The clinic told me it was just a bleed near my cervix
Do stay as positive as possible, I know this is easier said than done
Xx

Thanks guys you're so kind 😢 it's so hard to not feel alone but you're really helping ❤️

Part of the problem is that the EPU and the clinic won't have me in because of the virus. so I won't know if there is anything to worry about, all of the policies have changed to 'watch and wait' at home.

I might try and book a private scan for 6 weeks on Wednesday as they'll see me from then. Unless the IVF clinic are open tomorrow and will bring the viability scan forward 🤞

These were my tests this morning but I thought the HGC would take a while to reduce. Should I do another test tomorrow?

I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with this, OP.

This isn’t pleasant so I apologise in advance but unless a miscarriage is ‘complete’ and you have passed everything (which would probably include some clots) then you will continue to get positive results on a pregnancy test. They can’t shed any light on your current situation.

Thanks @EstebanTheMagnificent I think I knew that, it's hard to think clearly when you're panicking all the time.

@Blondiecub0109 @LillyLeaf @MrsJaneyp thanks for the IVF advice too, it adds another layer of misery as I know that we can't just start trying when we're ready if this pregnancy has ended. I've just got to accept what's happening and move on when I can.

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I know something of what you’re experiencing. I have had several episodes of bleeding (I’m on my third go of IVF). The first was at 8 weeks and I remember that awful sinking feeling. It turned out to be a small subchorionic bleed, which they picked up on a scan and reassured me was nothing to worry about (easier said than done). I then bled on and off for another few weeks. Sometimes it was brown or pink, other times bright red. I had another scan at 14 weeks after more red blood and a small clot - this turned out to be due to a polyp on my cervix, so again nothing to worry about. I’m now at 20 weeks and all my scans have been totally fine. I know how scared you must be - I remember only too well the hours and hours I spent googling looking for answers - but hopefully this will help reassure you that bleeding can be benign and, as I was told by the various nurses I saw, fairly common. Friends of mine said they bled on and off through their whole pregnancy. As for the disappearing nausea - my symptoms constantly came and went (actually, I didn’t have that many symptoms and remember being desperate to have them!), so try not to worry about that if you can. I really really hope that everything works out for you and that you get some answers soon. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞

Keep hoping and try and stay calm, easier said then done I'm sure
My friend had a baby via IVF and had loads of bleeding up until 8-9 weeks, she was sure she'd lost it but now she has a gorgeous 6 month old little girl.
I don't know much about IVF but surely a 3+on a pregnancy test is good, levels have risen well.
Best of luck, I hope tomorrow goes ok 🤞 xx

My SIL had similar recently, also an IVF pregnancy. She's very much still pregnant. I've heard of people losing a twin and this happening. I hope there's a happy ending for you x

Not to give you false hope, but my friend had a missed miscarriage on her first IVF pregnancy, and the second time she called me at around 6/7 weeks to say she was bleeding fresh red blood, cramps etc and knew it was over, she had a scan later that week and all was fine, her DD is now 18 months old. Fingers crossed that all works out ok for you

Thanks @KBay2808 @morningworld @isurvived3under2 @annlee3817 you are all so kind to take time out to try and calm me down. I can't tell you how much i means. I know it won't change any outcome that will be, but given that I'm in this limbo for potentially a few weeks I'll take any relief from the misery I can ❤️

So sorry to read this :( keeping my fingers crossed for you.

My first pregnancy I had some brown blood and cramping... everyone told me not to wory unless it turned bright red and filled 2 pads an hour... anyway i had a spontaneous miscarriage where EVERYTHING came out in one huge gush. Was horrendous.

Fast forward a year and I was pregnant again but this time started bleeding fresh red blood at 5/6 weeks... was told to.prepare.for the worst and i now have a fabulous 2.5 year old. I bleed fresh red up untill about 17 weeks with him.

Im now 22 week pregnant again and have had several brown, sludgy bleeds between 6-8weeks and everything is fine.

For some people its totally normal to bleed.

There is really nothing that anyone can say that will stop you worying yourself sick, but please hang on in there and take every day as it comes xxxx

Op I don't want to give you false hope or anything but I have had 4 CP/ v early miscarriages and the pregnancy tests were very quick to fade/go negative. I had a MMC at 9 weeks that took weeks to go negative even after an ERPC. So if you continue to take tests a few days apart and see what they do until you can get in for a scan. Hold tight, it's an awful place to be

I also had lots of bleeding. Very scary each time, I have a cervical erosion which was the cause but it wasn't discovered until I was 28 weeks.
Hold tight, awful wait ahead..fingers crossed for you x

Oh @Charis1503 @Thumbellini @Patterjack your experiences are terrifying. I'm so sorry, but grateful you've shared your positive experiences too.

I'm going to try and get hold of my IVF clinic and the local midwife team to see if either can help me. If not I'll book a scan for Wednesday, but I'm nervous that this won't give me answers as 6 weeks might be too early for a heartbeat anyway so will just prolong the agony. But what can I do, by the looks of things this isn't uncommon and in fact a reality that a lot of women face

Thanks for the thoughts, experiences and advice, you're all helping me get through ❤️

Also if on cyclogest pop it up the back passage to see if it's irritating your cervix and causing the bleeding. Works just as well and much less messy!

I bled 10 times in my IVF pregnancy from week 6 to week 13 and once enough to soak PJ bottoms in red blood (last bleed) to point had to chuck them out and she's now 14. I was certain I had lost her. I didn't have cramps though but definitely red blood happens in a lot of pregnancies and it can be fine. They should really warn you in advance, remember being distraught. After the IVF baby I got pregnant naturally and didn't find out until 11 weeks as thought I was having light periods so must just be a bleeder.

Hope things are fine for you.

Once you see fresh red bleeding you have a 50% chance of losing your pregnancy. If it progresses to psi bff l clamps and lots of clots then that normally isn’t very good news but in the absence of that everything is as likely to be OK as it is not.

My first pregnancy I remember very clearly chatting excitedly to my husband about names, whilst I was stripping off for the shower. Something caught my eye and I looked down and my knickers were full of bright red blood. I’ve never felt the wind knocked out of me like it. It was incredibly heavy and fresh and I my heart pounded all night until I got in for a scan first thing the next morning (helps if you work there). Anyway, he’s asleep upstairs now (but his twin didn’t make it). Second and third pregnancies the same story but they were miscarriages. 4th pregnancy I went for a bike ride about 6 weeks pregnant and got off the bike and it was a bloodbath. He’s now 4.

There are so many reasons you may bleed in pregnancy and miscarriage is only one.

There is still hope x and plenty of it.