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Did anyone find out the sex at the 20 week scan..

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hotpotmama · 11/09/2007 10:19

and regret it afterwards ie. wished you'd had the suprise when your baby was born?

Very early days for me still but am undecided, didn't find out with my first two, but think I would like to this time.

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LadySanders · 14/09/2007 10:32

In response to question about finding out at 12 weeks - i was told at nuchal scan at 13 weeks it's a boy, she said not to buy anything blue until i'd had it double checked at 20 weeks, but she said sometimes its pretty clear. Apparently easier to accurately spot a boy at 13 weeks than a girl. Just had my 20 week scan and confirmed is a boy (in fact she said "ding DONG! its a boy!" in an austin powers type voice, which we particularly enjoyed...)

dkay · 14/09/2007 10:44

That's interesting LandySanders. On my scan photo I am sure I can see 'boys bits' it's just popping up and way to short to be the cord. Just have to wait and see!

gatleygirl · 14/09/2007 13:04

i had a nuchal translucency scan for no 3 and was told its "probably" a boy - no surprises there as i had two boys already, so saved the clothes, etc and had everyone telling me what life would be like in a house of boys. Total surprise then when after having my section the doctor said here's your new girl!! Just goes to show you can't take as gospel everything the doctors tell you....

LadySanders · 14/09/2007 13:11

ha, my mother would be pleased as she seems to have taken it as a personal affront that i am having another boy rather than a girl for whom she can make pink velvet dresses..., she's doing that looking-a-bit -tearful thing every time i mention him, just slightly irritating, though she is lovely in many other ways!

orangehead · 14/09/2007 13:33

i found out with both my ds and didnt regret it. i previously had 3 miscarriages and although i never got to that point i knew i didnt want to find out the sex but when i got preg with my son and found myself alot further along than i ever expected i found that i hadnt bonded with him as i had been convinced i was going to lose him so finding out the sex helped me bond and the preg seem more real.

good luck with what u decide

MrsTittleMouse · 14/09/2007 16:24

We found out and never regretted it. I was surprised that a lot of people didn't approve and told us that we were "spoiling the surprise" as though having a child wasn't special enough! In fact, it would have be less special if we'd have waited until the birth, as DD was a very difficult delivery and we were both exhausted. I doubt we'd have been allowed to find out for ourselves too, as she was in distress and was whisked away, so it would just have been a doctor shouting from across the room.
DD was a bit of an exhibitionist and it was very obvious when she had her scan that she was a girl as she was mooning the ultrasound probe, and when they measured the femurs we could clearly see two lines and not two circles. So it was probably just as well that we were happy to find out!

hana · 14/09/2007 16:29

didn't find out for first 2 ( both girls) but did with the third - another girl
wanted to chuck things out adn get some boy things , but I was saved the bother!
no regrets

dkay · 14/09/2007 16:47

Hi Mrstittlemouse, this might be a stupid question, but what r the two cirles? Wouldn't you see a penis/testicle (if it was a boy of course)?

MrsTittleMouse · 14/09/2007 18:21

Two lines = labia
Two circles = testicles
I don't know of anyone who has seen the penis on the scan, but the testicles stand out (so to speak) from the scans I've seen of boys.

anniealan · 14/09/2007 22:51

we didn't find out with our lil one. we both 1/2 wanted to know but the sonographer said that she couldn't tell. it was a gr8 surprise when my son came along i was really happy but from my scan picture it was very obvious that i was having a boy but i did't mind.
although i do have to say we were hoping for a girl as hubbys side is all boys but when our son was born we really didn't care. i guess i knew deep down as at 1st all i wanted to look at were boys clothes but had convinced myself it was a girl. i did feel a tiny bit disapointed but as soon as i saw him it didn't matter he is the most wonderful son in the world and he makes me so proud. :D and now i'm not so bothered what our next one will be. :D

Scampynoodle · 15/09/2007 17:07

We found out the sex of our little un 2 weeks ago. So far the worst of that has been:

not announcing it to the world
making sure that we call her 'it' in front of those who we don't want to know yet
being asked, by those who do know, about the names we have picked

We don't regret it though. It'd lovely to know the sex because this is our first baby and it makes it all that much more real. I found it so hard to feel her moving about yet not know if she was a boy or a girl. Since finding out the sex I really do think that I've started to bond with her. Oh, and it's meant that we can be a little more prepared for her arrival.

dkay · 15/09/2007 20:54

Girls, just wondering if anyone who knows the sex did the ring and thread test (circle=girl, straight line=boy) and how did ye get on....just for curiousity sake and a bit of fun too!!

doublethelovedoublethekisses · 15/09/2007 20:57

I did! Said I would have a boy then a girl... I had both at the same time! And in answer to the question yes i did find out at 20 weeks

Miggins · 16/09/2007 20:51

With my first we found out we were having a girl only to have a boy! So with second we decided not to find out and had a girl. Personally, having tried both, I would much rather wait until the birth to find out the sex. It makes the whole moment even more special. If I had a third I would definitely not find out the sex in advance.

sarajka · 18/09/2007 14:23

Did find out at a scan, doctor said it was a boy, and just for a split second thought "Oh I wish it was a girl!" but then looked at my hubby's face and he looked like he was in heaven, and started feeling happy. Went for a 3D scan later in the pregnancy, and got some fantatistic pictures of the baby, and the bits. One advice - even if you do find out what it is and not want to tell people that you know, just tell everyone that you don't know, because, we were hassled by everyone who wanted to know the sex, the name..etc, and we just wanted everything to be ok.

Sarahjct · 18/09/2007 15:16

Baby bond scan at 21 weeks confirmed what we had been told at anomaly scan (we didn't tell the BB woman what we had been told).

Personally, the curiosity would have eaten me alive and this pregnancy feels so long and that I have so little real input (I'm only 24wks!) that it's made me feel a lot more involved by being able to name her and make plans for an actual person.

We weren't fussed what we had so if she does turn out to be a boy I'll just have to dress him in pink for a few days while DH gets a chance to go to Mothercare! We had a name sorted for either.

I've never bought the argument that it takes away an element of the birth if you already know. I would have thought xx hours sheer agony followed by being rpesented with your own, brand new human being.

Sarahjct · 18/09/2007 15:17

was exciting enough...

(must remember not to talk to boss and type on m-net!)

nickigreen · 18/09/2007 15:20

yes i did so i could get ready go out and buy little boys clothes it was great.everyone always asks you and i think its nice to know

MrsTittleMouse · 18/09/2007 16:50

DH did the ring test, and it was right. He now tells everyone that he has a 100% success rate.

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