December 2020 babies

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Hi all,

I'm jumping the gun a little with this as I'm pregnant and found out earlier than a missed period (it's 3 days away)

I had a miscarriage at the start of February so I'm terrified, but trying to be optimistic all will be okay. My lines are getting darker, which they didn't do last time.

Anyone else due in December?

Hi girls!!
Congrats to all the new people in the chat, such wonderful news.

I'm only 4+6 and not having many symptoms except needing to wee a bit more and massive boobs that don't fit into my bras ahhh! it's like when you're just about to come on your period and your bra is a bit tight! Managed to get some bralettes from Tesco but god they look so saggy and big. can't wait to get fitted with a nice M&S lady.

Still considering the early scan but not sure whether we need it, such sad news that OH can't join the 12 week scan, hope that changes.

Has anyone thought more about how they'll tell their fam? I'm thinking of standing outside the windows of families house with a nice banner and posting the scan through the door, buttt that obvs goes against essential travel?!

is anyone literally staying in the house and not leaving?

Another question, which I'm sure is going to divide a lot of us...is anyone drinking? Friends said they had a small glass of wine a week with their pregnancies. Obvs I know you shouldn't but last week all I wanted to do was have a WINNEEE!
Haven't wanted one this week though, although it's only Wednesday!

last question, has anyone got endometriosis and have you got any concerns with the pregnancy?

Hope everyone having a nice day.

xxxx

@Mimba1 ahhh good point. I was thinking i could drop down to 4 days a week but makes so much sense to save it until next year when my wage drops, I think they pay 4.5 months full then 1.5 half then none at all except standard stat maternity pay xx

@GreenerGreen I told my mum face to face (at least 2M apart though!) because she had managed to grab nappies for our older DD as I hadn’t managed to find any in her size when I did my shopping so I was already due to go and grab them from her doorstep. I had to FaceTime my Dad though as he is still working so wasn’t there to tell. It’ll probably be the same for the rest of the family with a FaceTime if things don’t calm down soon.

Hope everyone is doing okay today!!

@GreenerGreen I am also 4 + 6! Haven't really felt anything up until today when I nearly vommed putting a wash load on (usually I want to sniff lenor all day long!)

I was also thinking about going into people's gardens and putting a sign up to tell them 😂 but yeah I'm not sure it will count as essential travel!! I haven't left the house other than for walks since the lockdown!

Hey I'm 19 and recently found out I'm expecting and will be due in December, can I join as this is my first pregnancy and would love to hear other people's experiences and advice on controlling the anxiety of it all:)

@GreenerGreen I sympathise Re the wine! My plan is to avoid for first 3 months as foetus is most sensitive to drugs etc and don’t want to cause any issues with brain development etc. After that I might have the occasional small glass of wine say 1 every fortnight if I want it. There’s no safe level of alcohol in pregnancy but i think having a glass every few weeks if unlikely to do much harm! My mum had a half of Guinness a week when she was pregnant with me!! Apparently doctors orders for the iron - how times have changed

@GreenerGreen I'm going to have to tell my Mum on the phone as she's so far away. I don't know what I'm waiting for - she was my rock when I had my MC and it was so much easier that she knew I was PG first. I think I just don't want to jinx it and it was so hard for both of us last time and it wasn't that long ago (I nearly lost both of my parents in the last couple of years to cancer and heart attack and they really wasn't grandchildren so were devastated it didn't work out) I know I'm going to get emotional!

As for going out - I'm still going on walks but my husband is doing the shopping now. I'm lucky I don't have to so why risk it?

Wine? Haven't had any for about a year! When we were referred the fertility nurse said it would be better to cut it out so we did - I stopped missing it after a while. And TBH the smell of wine and coffee is making me sick these days anyway! DH started back on the beers as soon as we got the +ve test!

@greenergreen yeh I’m going to tell family on FaceTime, my plan is to get the scan I have booked at 7+4 and then FaceTime them and just hold the pic up! So be a nice surprise for them! It will be my parents first grandchild. My partners brother is having a baby July so be his parents second by time this one arrives but will do same for them probably. Wine I don’t like and rarely drink so I don’t really know on that. I would prob say avoid for 12 weeks at least though.
Going out I have been furloughed from work and my partner is doing the shopping so I am going out once a day to walk the dogs and that’s it! It’s hard but it could be a lot worse so am grateful for now. Dreading going back to work but I am a nanny so will be back as soon as this lockdown is over.

@jtc19 welcome and congratulations! It’s my first pregnancy too and is super scary and an anxious time. Although I am 34 so a bit older. But we are all in the same position so I’m sure feel the same way about lots of things.

I'm only leaving the house for a walk once a day too. Am wfh and my husband is doing any shopping that we need (he would even if I wasnt pregnant, I spend too much!)
I miss wine a lot, but you shouldnt drink anything at all in the first trimester. Have a look at nhs advice if in doubt (in fact that goes for any questions!)

hi @Mimba1 sorry I didn't see your earlier post about you feeling anxious and so I must sound v rude. How are you feeling now? It's such a weird time I can't even imagine how you're feeling considering your MC so recently. Sounds like you've had a really rough couple of years, I'm really hoping everything works out okay.

Thanks for everyone's thoughts on the booze!

hi @jtc19 congrats, hope you're feeling okay xx

@greenergreen not at all! I'm actually feeling pretty positive now. I know I'm incredibly lucky in so many ways. I had a chat to DH and have started to let myself slow down a bit which is easier at home anyway. Last time I treated it like an illness I had to push through which I'm sure didn't help!

@jtc19 hey congratulations! Welcome 💜

Hey thank you all!! I'm so new to this so not sure how to reply to everyone individually but really appreciate all the congratulations! I'm doing well just trying to wrap my head round it all.
@AnnieCa34 I know i am extremely scared and I can imagine most first time mums feel how we do and congratulations to you too.
Also does anyone else have extreme anxiety about possible miscarriage?? Cause that seems to be the main worry on my mind since I found out not sure why or if it's normal?
So happy I have other people to share and help me with this experience:)

@jtc19 congrats!

I think we're all really worried about MC. Its always on my mind but i'm trying not to let it stress me too much as that isn't good!

Welcome to the new joiners! :)

@jtc19I totally sympathise. I'm 26 and none of my friends have kids yet so I'm totally overwhelmed by how new all this is. And yeah, about mc, I just decided to ignore it. There is no point worrying about it right? I also try to think of it as a positive thing (I know, hard enough!) but it's nature's way of telling you that baby wasn't going to be healthy so it did what was best for the baby. Sorry if that is a bit insensitive, it's just what helps me keep my anxiety under wraps.

My symptoms at 5+5 are e x h a u s t i o o o n and random bouts of nausea. I'm also a bit cranky which is really annoying lol

@jtc19 yeh I worry about miscarriage too but I am trying not to think about it. The first week it’s all I thought about. I am now trying to think I cannot change anything and worrying will only make me stress so trying to just concentrate on the fact hopefully it will go ok!

@jtc19I totally with you on the worry. I had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks this time last year so its hard not to think it's going to happen again. I'm 4+ 5 and was sick for the first time today. Weirdly was quite glad as had no symptoms last time. I'm super emotional and cry at everything! x

Hi all, please can I join this thread? I'm 4+5 due 4th Dec and this is my 1st pregnancy after months of trying. No symptoms for me really, just constantly hungry! Lol! Big congrats to all of you x

@trufflepigglet Thank you!! And congratulations to you also yeah I am trying not to let it.

@marlibs3 Congratulations!! I feel exactly the same as I'm the first out of my friends to be expecting, it is extremely overwhelming but I'm also grateful for the gift I've been given. I completely understand what you're saying as I do believe everything happens for a reason but yeah from now I'm just going to think positive and try not to overthink about things I can't control. I'm 4 + 6 my symptoms have been nausea, insomnia & loss of appetite, I also had implantation bleeding which made me realise I was pregnant.

@AnnieCa34 I completely agree thank you for sharing, I have only known for 5days so hopefully my anxiety will lessen as time goes on, I'm just gonna turn my positive mindset on:)

@aitch07 I'm sorry to hear about your loss, and congratulations I hope everything goes well for you, I've heard being sick is a good sign I've not been sick though I've just had nausea and I'm also quite emotional and my moods change frequently which unfortunately my bf has to deal with lol x

@Salliejt Congratulations!❤️

That's hugely insensitive @marlibs3 and an awful thing to say.

Can I join? Found out yesterday, due early December. No symptoms yet apart from a bit of an ache round my back and hips but that could be from carrying a toddler round. Been crying a lot but not sure if that's hormones or Coronavirus stress! Was properly exhausted and sick from about 6 weeks with DS so fingers crossed it's not as bad this time.

@AnnieCa34 that's so exciting, do you think you'll find out what you're having? Yes our second, we lost our first DS back in August (mentioned previously sorry if you saw it), so this has been an extremely anxious but special time for us, just trying to embrace every day of it, trying to balance grief and happiness is hard though x

@marlibs3 I'm there with you about the exhaustion lol and the irritability... it only seems to hit sometimes but I don't think isolation is making it any easier!

Hi @Colouringinbook! Welcome and congrats ☺️

I cried at Lady and the tramp last night and had to turn it off 😂 I'll try and watch the rest of it tonight!! So yes.. I'm very emotional too!!

You're right though.. the coronavirus stress does not help either!

@lionsmum oh no I am so sorry to hear that, I can’t imagine how hard that is. We are gonna have a surprise, I have always wanted to not find out as I figure if I am on pain pushing a baby out if it’s a surprise it might make me push better as I will then be very impatient to know if it’s a girl or a boy 😂. Are you going to find out?
Welcome @Colouringinbook congratulations!