Gender confusion? Pics included.

[essexanon]

Hey all.

So yesterday I had a private gender scan (16+5) and they said Boy.
But both nub experts and nub techs said girl.
We have had our heart set on a girl and to be honest, I left the scan a little disappointed (please don’t judge)

But I’ve read girls parts can be swollen?
Has anyone been told ‘boy’ and it’s really a ‘girl’?
Maybe I’m just looking for hope that at my 20wk NHS scan, they are going to tell me girl. I know it sounds silly.

Xx

Highly likely to be a boy. Come to terms with this fact rather than clinging on to the hope they got it wrong. Little boys are wonderful. I couldn't be without mine, he brings me joy and makes me laugh every day. He's so affectionate, loving and cuddly. Once your boy's here and developing in to his own little person you'll love him more than you can imagine.

But both nub experts and nub techs said girl.

Can you explain this?

@essexanon

Have you thought about doing sneak peak DNA gender test? You'll get a pack and prick your own finger for blood, send away?

Poor baby indeed! Not even born and already a disappointment to its mother.

These threads make me so sad. Babies are wonderful, regardless of what biological sex they are. Surely you got pregnant knowing that there was a 50/50 chance either way? You should have made your peace with having a boy OR a girl before you got pregnant IMO. You don't get to choose.

It's not an accessory FFS, it's a person.

I opened the thread wondering how an unborn baby could have “gender confusion”.

If you’d had your “heart set on a girl” you maybe shouldn’t have bothered having a baby at all where it’s 50/50 what you get.

That's definitely a boy op this is my girl and been confirmed at every scan since .

Thanks for all the helpful and not so helpful comments.

Obviously We’re happy the baby is healthy, but we kinda just got used to the idea it was a girl so yea I was a but disappointed that it’s not.
But will I love it any different? Nope.
I already have a 17yr old boy who I love to bits, and my family is full of them, I don’t not love any of them because they are male.

We just need to re-adjust to a boy and start looking at boys names etc now.

Thanks x

but we kinda just got used to the idea it was a girl

But you got ‘the idea’ from where exactly? Why were you getting used to an idea that wasn’t actually medically proven?!

Imagine going into a 20 week scan and all you were worrying about was what sex your baby was going to be.

There’s no need to keep bashing the OP folks.

Nub experts haven’t got any of mine right. That is definitely a boy.

No one made the OP post.

Definitely looks boy to me.

essexanon I get what you're saying if youd had the idea put in your head but just trying to say this sort of thing is potentially triggering for those who have had losses or have struggled when it reads that you're disappointed in the gender even though you have a healthy baby. I'm sure you'll get used to the idea soon enough and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

Aren't 'nub experts' just a group of randoms on a FB page? My aunt is an experienced obstetrics researcher and professor who studies ultrasounds every day, and she couldn't tell from our scan at 11 weeks whether DD was a boy or girl, so I doubt Karen from Basingstoke is going to be able to either.

@DesLynamsMoustache Karen from Basingstoke 😆

Gosh people really are up on their high horses today. OP I understand what you mean. Of course you are grateful for a healthy baby and will love him dearly, but I have a different relationship with with dd to my ds and we do different activities etc. I love them both equally and both are wonderful individuals, but it is different. I think this is what the OP is getting at.

Obviously We’re happy the baby is healthy, but we kinda just got used to the idea it was a girl

I can completely understand that someone might want a girl and be disappointed it’s a boy.

What I can’t understand is that being told by a nub expert/hanging wedding ring over your bump/horoscope/medium that you’re having a girl and thinking that’s anything other than guesswork?! Why would you use that information to get ‘used to’ the sex being a girl?!

All pics suggest boy to me.

stoplickingthetelly strange though considering its 50/50 odds...so when you get pregnant youd be prepared that there is a half chance that you're going to be disappointed. noone on their high horse...if anything trying to show the OP that there are people out there who cant have kids so be grateful for a healthy baby. dont think there is anything wrong with people saying this. you post on this site to get peoples opinions, cant blame people for finding this gender disappointment stuff a bit 'meh'

I have a different relationship with with dd to my ds and we do different activities etc.

This is bizarre. Why would you have a different relationship with your children because one’s a boy and one’s a girl? What does that even mean?

I'm a sonographer and agree that looks like male genitalia.

This is exactly why we do not sex a baby on a scan before the 20 week anomaly scan, to avoid any confusion or disappointment.
The nub theory is exactly that, just a theory with a 50/50 chance of being right.

@FamilyOfAliens @stoplickingthetelly

I totally get having a different relationship with sons and daughters.
Nothing bizarre about it.
Boys and girls are physically, mentally and emotionally different....they're just as wonderful and you can be close to both and love them both equally but they're not the same!

@sel2223 that’s exactly what I meant.