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HELP: 18, maybe pregnant, very worried

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absoluteclown · 30/01/2020 07:16

Hi all,

Im in desperate need of some help, advice, comfort, anything tbh. Im an 18 year old student, currently a first year in university in London and am extremely worried i may be pregnant.

My "partner" is not my boyfriend, rather a man that doesnt really like me and definitely has no intentions to go out with me but keeps me around for sex. Last week on Thursday and Friday we had unprotected sex twice and he finished inside both times. Ive been off the pill for a few months now and my cycle has returned completely back to normal, according to my tracker app i was around 2 days before my most fertile day. So already theres an issue here.

i have noticed feeling a bit off - i wouldnt call it like extreme nausea and i havent vomited however i wake up just not feeling right at all and have moments throughout the day where i start to feel a bit sick. Ive noticed a change in my discharge as well.

This is going to be extremely TMI and i have NO scientific basis for this but when i was on the pill and he came inside i feel like it just immediately came out again because of the plug. When i was off and he finished inside i dont remember the semen leaving that quickly out of my body. Well we had sex yesterday and it fell out immediately like there was a plug.

I wont go through the history of our complicated relationship but basically he has said before that if i were to get pregnant he would want me to keep it. he seems very anti-abortion from just how ive heard him speaking. i myself am pro choice however due to personal reasons do not think i could go through an abortion. If i am pregnant, i would end up having the child of a man that spends time with me by swiping on tinder and complaining about me to his friends.

Any advice or experiences on the first few weeks of pregnancy, any stats on how likely it is im pregnant (i have no fertility issues and have always had a regular period), or any words of comfort would be extremely extremely welcome. thank you

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PurpleDaisies · 30/01/2020 07:19

I don’t understand this. You don’t want to be pregnant but you were having unprotected sex at your most fertile time. You could have taken the morning after pill or had an emergency coil put in the next day but chose not to.

No one can tell you if you’re pregnant. You need to wait until your period is due and take a test. If you’re not, you need to start using contraception.

vampirethriller · 30/01/2020 07:22

It would be too soon for any symptoms yet if you only had sex a week ago.
But please don't waste any more of your time on a man who doesn't like you, your life is far too precious for that.

peachypetite · 30/01/2020 07:26

Why did you have unprotected sex twice? Didn’t you consider morning after pill?

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absoluteclown · 30/01/2020 07:27

sorry i forgot to explain in the post; i was extremely drunk at the time and forgot that sex leads to babies. i only remembered we slept together at all around maybe 4 days later when it was already too late for emergency contraception. we've always been very wary of getting pregnant however this was a genuine stupid mistake. also i wasnt aware i was at my most fertile time until i remembered a few days later and checked my app.

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absoluteclown · 30/01/2020 07:28

long story short, was very drunk at the time and only remembered we had sex at all when it was already too late for emergency contraception.

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summeryet · 30/01/2020 07:29

Get a coil immediately. Might help ward of pregnancy now, and would certainly help in the longer run.

cuckooken · 30/01/2020 07:29

was extremely drunk at the time and forgot that sex leads to babies.

Sure you did.

i only remembered we slept together at all around maybe 4 days later when it was already too late for emergency contraception.

Yet you managed to remember the tiny detail of the sperm leaving your body Hmm

PurpleDaisies · 30/01/2020 07:31

A stupid mistake that happened two days I n a row? You didn’t remember but now you remember all the details about the semen? Ok.

You can take emergency contraception or use an emergency coil up to five days after unprotected sex.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/emergency-contraception/

Seeline · 30/01/2020 07:31

Go and have a talk to your uni's student support services. They will be able to put you in contact with all the right people.

PurpleDaisies · 30/01/2020 07:32

only remembered we had sex at all when it was already too late for emergency contraception.

This is not true.

Snoopy28x · 30/01/2020 07:33

It does sound like maybe you wanted to be pregnant? Unfortunately there is a very high chance that you will be pregnant, due to no birth control, fertile period and some of the symptoms youve said. The only way to know if to test. You could use a FRER that can test 6 days earlier than your period.

How would you feel if you were pregnant? Would you stay with him or raise the baby alone? Would you be able to support the baby?

No judgement Just some questions you should maybe ask yourself. Speaking as a mum of 2 and another on the way, babies are hard work, expensive and all consuming. Saying that they are worth every moment. As you are so young you need to make sure your making the right choice for yourself x

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Patchworksack · 30/01/2020 07:34

It's too early for pregnancy symptoms so I suspect you are just anxious that having had unprotected sex at your fertile time you might be pregnant. Wait until your period is due and do a test. If you are pregnant think very, very carefully about having a child with a man that doesn't like or respect you and tieing yourself to him for the long term. He does not get to dictate whether you continue with a pregnancy, if you think it would make your decision harder then don't tell him. In fact please ditch him and find someone that treats you much better.

overnightangel · 30/01/2020 07:38

Hoe w did you get into uni? Confused

LaMarschallin · 30/01/2020 07:38

This is going to be extremely TMI and i have NO scientific basis for this but when i was on the pill and he came inside i feel like it just immediately came out again because of the plug

Just a by the by, but presumably you know that the pill isn't a plug; you're supposed to take it by mouth.

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absoluteclown · 30/01/2020 07:38

i dont know what to say to all of you saying this has holes or that im making it up. im an 18 year old kid going through some serious shit at my first year of university and im fucking shit scared that i might be pregnant with the kid of a guy that couldnt give less of a shit about me. what ive said is true, if youd like to message me in private to know more of the grisly details then sure ask away but i really thought this would be a place of acceptance rather than judgment. thanks everyone.

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PurpleDaisies · 30/01/2020 07:40

Look at that link I posted. You can use emergency contraception up to five days after unprotected sex.

You’re a student. You can use google. You must have known this too but chosen not to.

anothernamejeeves · 30/01/2020 07:41

Coil
Counselling for self esteem
In that order

doublebarrellednurse · 30/01/2020 07:41

You've got quite a poor understanding of contraception and your body, I suggest you do some reading or watch some you tube videos.

It's very very early for pregnancy symptoms, you're more likely just very anxious about it.

Go to a sexual health Center and get yourself seen, you have a number of options at this stage much more useful than a forum post.

Remember people track their cycles and take years to conceive you won't automatically be pregnant because of when you had sex but you're at higher risk.

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absoluteclown · 30/01/2020 07:41

i tried to condense this story down into a post rather than a fuckin book but whatever. i know the pill is oral HOWEVER IT CREATES A MUCUS PLUG AT THE BASE OF UR UTERUS AS IF UR PREGNANT that is what im referring to. we had sex on thursday and friday meaning it was 11pm on thursday and then about 2am on friday. like 3 hours apart but different days. im not stupid i just made a stupid mistake, i didnt realise i was gonna end up with a hord of middle aged women tryna cyber bully me, this is ridiculous.

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cuckooken · 30/01/2020 07:42

im an 18 year old kid

No, you are not.

cuckooken · 30/01/2020 07:43

i didnt realise i was gonna end up with a hord of middle aged women tryna cyber bully me, this is ridiculous

Nobody is bullying you.

cuckooken · 30/01/2020 07:44

we had sex on thursday and friday meaning it was 11pm on thursday and then about 2am on friday.

So you didn't remember for days but when you did remember you managed to not only remember the sex, but the details of the speed drip and the time you had sex at?

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absoluteclown · 30/01/2020 07:44

hi yes i did use google! and yes it did tell me you can use emergency contraception for up to five days. however it stated that the efficiency of it drops steeply after 3 days. the pill that works up to 5 days also would have costed me £40 which i am aware of because i did indeed attempt to purchase it before realising i didnt have enough money to. asking my family for money is out of the question due to our financial status. anything else you want to criticise while youre here?

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Wolfiefan · 30/01/2020 07:45

Trying to.
Not tryna
Getting drunk doesn’t make you forget sex makes babies.
Drink less in future. Especially if you really “forgot” you had sex. Blacked out?
Don’t have unprotected sex if you don’t want a baby. Especially not with a man who isn’t even your partner.
Statistics can’t help.
You need to wait and then do a pg test. And STI screening.

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