The Graduates of TTC after pregnancy loss thread #6 - 🐧 The Penguin Huddle 🐧

[KnitKitty]

This is a safe space and supportive thread for anyone who is pregnant following a loss. We all understand the worry and anxiety that can come from being pregnant again following miscarriage/stillbirth.

Please feel free to join, even if you were not on the original TTC thread.

Starting the roll call copied from the last thread. Not everyone is on there, so please add to it/update/edit.
Also, thought it might be fun if we add Girl/Boy/Surprise on there too, so we can see who's expecting what

@Amanda81, 38, EDD 27/12/19
@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue, 37, EDD 03/01/20
@Laney79, 40, EDD 06/01/20
@Bluebelltulip, 29, EDD 09/01/20
@KnitKitty, 32, EDD 29/01/20 - Girl
@UnicornsandRainsbows1, 29, EDD 29/01/2020
@Newbie21, 38, EDD 06/02/20
@InDreamland, 39, EDD 18/02/20
@Tina363,29, EDD 26/02/20
@Frillyfarmer, 29, EDD 28/02/20
@Strawberry, 28, EDD 08/03/20
@Ginmonkey84, 34, EDD 16/03/20
@DuvetCaterpillar, 34, EDD 27/03/2020
@ChikiTIKI , 29, EDD 04/04/2020
@Navy123, 29, EDD 10/04/20
@Catconfusion, 40, EDD 12/04/20
@Janey15, 34, EDD 13/04/20
@TinyPaws, 33, EDD 18/04/20
@Flyfisherlady, 37, Edd 24/04/20
@Dimblebimble, 29, EDD 29/4/20
@FirstTimeMama91, 28, EDD 06/05/2020
@SunshineCrocodile, 37, EDD 4/6/2020
@TwittleBee , 25, EDD 25/06/20

And a shout-out to the Mamas who have already had their beautiful babas!
@Boboelephant, @Yukka, @Melpops36, @Beaglemum93 and a special mention for our hero mum @Squiff70 who we continue to keep in our thoughts and prayers.

Congratulations @InDreamland you finally have your baby in your arms! I know you thought this day would never come. The worry continues now she's here but try to relax and enjoy every minute!! So so happy for you 🌈💕

So we found out yesterday we are having a boy!! I am actually starting to believe this is happening now 💙 Hoping to start enjoying the pregnancy now.

We drove 3 hours in Friday traffic last night to visit the MIL to tell her the baby's sex. What was supposed to be a nice weekend turned out rather eventful. I got woken up at 3am by an almighty crash and saw out the window that someone had crashed into our car and the impact moved it down the road! MIL heard the noise too so we all ran down the stairs without putting the light on... MIL fell down the stairs, DH stayed with her and I went to check on the driver. I realised he was drunk and tried to take the keys off him - thinking back now I shouldn't have put myself in danger 🙈 I backed down when he wouldn't give me them. He got back in the car and tried to move it so I took photos of him behind the wheel. My DH called the police and the neighbours came out who were off duty police officers! He was drunk and on drugs. Both cars have been taken away. Very stressful, been awake since 3 and my heart is still racing. My feet hurt from running out with no shoes on! Silly me. Really hard to destress!!

Congratulations @InDreamland, she is gorgeous! Hope you recover quickly.

@RedRobin7 That does sound stressful, how is MIL?

Excellent news, clearly you were ready for a baby. Sounds like the induction went pretty well, apart from the tear. She's gorgeous, congratulations.

That sounds ridiculous, brain not working. Clearly you were ready to give birth! 😂

Anyone else ridiculously tired? My partner woke me up by trying to cuddle me at 5.55am this morning, today is my only lie in all week as I'm working tomorrow. Had I been awake it would have been lovely and very sweet but I am so desperate for sleep I could have killed her. I was extremely clear last night that I wanted to be left alone to sleep this morning. So tired I could cry.

@TinyPaws do you have a pregnancy pillow? That'll stop any impromptu cuddling. My boyfriend can't get near me. 😂

Gosh @RedRobin7 how dramatic!! Hope you are all OK! Is you MIL alright?

@InDreamland massive congratulations!! She is so beautiful! I’m sorry the labour was so traumatic, but good news that she is safe and sound now. Hope you are resting and adjusting well!

@TinyPaws @ChikiTIKI MIL is okay thank you, just a little bruised. I'm so glad it wasn't me who fell down the stairs!

@TinyPaws @Rubyroost My DH doesn't come anywhere near me now I have a giant pregnancy pillow lol!

Congratulations @InDreamland she is adorable! 🥰 So happy for you! X

Glad you're all OK @RedRobin7!!

@RedRobin7 congratulations on finding out you have a blue bump! Did you have a gut feel either way? Sorry to hear about the stressful evening yesterday, I think adrenaline kicks in and you don't think about baby or feet until afterwards. I hope you are chilling out a bit this evening. Being without a car can be a total pain, I hope your insurance company are being good at getting you a replacement. Glad MIL is mainly ok and just. A little bruised.
@TinyPaws I am with you on the tired front. With me it's our 2 dogs that are impacting my sleep - one is getting us up during the night and then they are up at 530 for feeding and the little one comes out of his crate. He bombs up the stairs like a hurricane and launches on the bed for cuddles. Very very adorable - not good for lie ins. I don't think our partners really understand the whole growing a human process. Not sure how far along you are, but my bump spends ages resettling every time I roll over in bed or go out for a bathroom break so even 'sleep time' is not sacred anymore

I've taken the plunge today and ordered my pram and car seat today, will be available to collect from start of April but will only be collecting car seat and base, they will hold onto pram until baby arrives. Feels scary as it's the first big purchase and I'm still not sure if it's too early, so far purchases have all been small.

@RedRobin7 what an absolute fright! It gets your so pumped full of adrenaline and anxiety it is hard to switch of when something like that happens. Glad you're all ok, if somewhat a bit bruised.

Hi ladies.

Sorry to crash this group. I posted this on the graduate grads thread as I know it’s super hard to find time when you have a new baby and may be juggling an older child too. However, we’ve all been on such a journey together that I feel it would be a real shame to loose touch. So I wondered if there may be an easier way of us all keeping in contact? That is if people even want to! Something that might be easier to update without needing to type long replies? What about a closed/private Facebook group? Would anyone be interested?

I understand that those who are pregnant and anxious may not want to do this. I certainly wouldn’t have but may be for when babies are here?

Aside from that I really hope you and the bumps are all doing well!

Little Brother is seven weeks old today, lots of smiles and feels like he has been part of our family for ages 😍

@InDreamland huge huge congratulations on your little girl and I hope you're busy in that magical newborn bubble soaking it all in 🥰

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue glad to hear little brother is doing well, I can't believe he's seven weeks already! I'm keen to be on a private/secret FB page, it would be nice to keep in touch with you and this thread is largely the only reason I'm on MN!

38+3 today and it's just a waiting game now! My DS was induced early due to GD so this is just complete unknown territory for me. I'm very large and uncomfortable and sleep is very difficult - the last weeks really hit you like a train don't they?! Soft play today with an over excited toddler and it's half term. Wish me luck!

@MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue I'd definitely be up for a Facebook group - I am useless at keeping up with a thread like this and find a group much easier! Totally understand if others aren't sure though.

32+5 today, starting to hit home that things will happen soon! Not prepared in the slightest, need home renovations to be completed first which they should be by the end of next week, then I can start getting things together!

I'm up for a Facebook group too @MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue. It's much easier to keep up with and I agree about not wanting to lose touch.

@frillyfarmer not long to go now! Good luck with soft play!

@Navy123 we almost got all the decorating we wanted done before DS arrived but he arrived a bit early (37+6) and we didn't quite manage it. Hope you're more successful than we were!

I would be up for a Facebook group - I too am quite useless at keeping up with threads and would probably do much better on a fb group (and probably feel a bit more comfortable too!)

Whooping cough jab today then spending the rest of half term at the in laws (takes about 6/7 hours to get there with stops - toddler and dogs!) this is probably the last time we'll be visiting for a while as the next chance to do so is over Easter and I will be 8 months and don't think I'll be up for this journey at all. We didn't make the trip with dd until she was over a year old - had the in laws drive to us instead. But just before her first birthday FIL was diagnosed with motor neurone disease and we had to get used to making the trip ourselves. Her first birthday was the last time they came over (she'll be 3 in a few weeks). I am already dreading having to make the trip with a little baby on top of everything else but one thing at a time...

And then my GTT test on the Monday when we get back! Dreading that too. Have already asked dh to set me up a McDonald's breakfast to have as soon as I am done 😝 I don't do hunger

I agree too @MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue it would be lovely to see how everyone is doing!

You are brave @frillyfarmer going soft play! good luck!

good luck at getting the decorating done @Navy123 - we are trying to do ours still!

I've set up a Facebook group so if you direct message me your email addresses I'll add you :)

Have done @Beaglemum93!

This is so exciting!

Hi everyone,

I've been following the thread but haven't posted for a while as life has been hectic and I've been feeling a bit overwhelmed tbh.

I'm 30 weeks this week, feel like the time has flown! I still can't really envision a baby in there! Maybe because I have an anterior placenta and can't feel the kicks that strongly? It still feels surreal.

Baby seems to really like my right side, does anyone else have this? She seems to always be really far to the right and it can feel really tight. I get some kicks in the middle but rarely on my left side.

I'm lecturing for 5 hours on Fridays at the moment and have really bad back pain and sore feet afterwards 🙈 I just come home and lie on the sofa on Friday nights. Only two more Fridays to go til I'm done with lecturing, and back to my usual desk work...

So another scan today. Apparently my fluid levels are 25 at 35 weeks. Fluid levels were (according to scans) 20 cm at 32 week hospital scan, 31cm at 33 weeks hospital scan and then 25cm at today's 35 week scan. Don't know which ones are accurate, guess I just need to believe the scans and be positive that fluid levels appear to have gone down, rather than question everything. Baby is apparently 7lb 8 which is coming back down to the 97th percentile, so no more accelerated growth and growing back at a normal rate. So another scan next week to check afi levels and hopefully decide when c section will be. The risks are cord prolapse and because baby is breech and transverse the head doesn't block the placenta coming down, so even higher risk for me. So if waters break early or I go into labour (which can happen because my uterus is now so big) I have to get on my hands and feet with bum in air and get to hospital quickly. Fingers crossed he hangs on til c section and waters go down a bit

Sorry rather selfish post. I'll respond to others soon x

@rubyroost I don't know much about fluid levels but that all sounds very stressful! Xx