Any positive pregnancy over 40 success stories?

[Liissaa]

After a mmc with my first pregnancy at 40 earlier this year, I would love to hear any success stories of any over 40s who have achieved a successful pregnancy! Xx

@Liissaa@FleurDeLotus

Hi Ladies thought I'd check in and see how you are :-)

And for all the ladies on here im 44 had two miscarriages in a row then now here i am 14 weeks pregnant all in the space of 12 months so dont give up.hope! xxx

Spent 6 long years trying for DS, he arrived when I was 38 after IVF and first part of pregnancy was a worry. DD was a natural surprise when I was 41 and breezed through pregnancy. Hit menopause relatively early with no major issues meaning all out the way so I can deal with the teenage years without a clash of hormones 😄

Hello all,

I am 44 and am six weeks pregnant. Have 22, 15 and 12 year olds. We were not even trying to have a baby although admittedly i wasn't on any contraception as had managed to fool myself that the stats were against me including adenomyosis. Fingers crossed all goes well. Only slight niggle being having the worst back pain I've ever experienced, reducing me to tears.

Hi, thanks for this thread, this has been very helpful for me. I'm nearly 42, I have 2 lovely girls aged 17 and 11. My husband and I have always actively discouraged getting pregnant (2nd was a happy surprise) and it has become such habit but we don't use contraception, we just actively avoid pregnancy. In August the avoidance was somewhat mis-timed, I didn't think, we have had that happen once before and I immediately took myself down the chemist for emergency contraception, bit peeved at paying out for a silly mistake. The next period was very strange and I thought maybe the contraception hadn't worked and took a test. Negative, I put it aside and carried on. 2 weeks later I got a real period but the thing that really had happened was my hormones had been thrown all out of whack. My normal cycle is perfect even in my 40s, regular, easy to time. So when my period was due to start in October it came as normal but super heavy, after 36 hours of so much blood loss, I went to A&E and the next day after trying to figure out what was wrong they confirmed it was a mc. I was surprised, so was the doctor as they'd ruled it put with a negative pee test on arrival but the blood test showed it up. They got the bleeding under control and packed me off home after a couple of days but out of all that it made my husband and I take stock and realise that we have a chance to go one...dare I say 2...more. absolutely crazy couple of months. Quite excited at the prospect now I've wrapped my head around the concept and thanks to positive conversations like here so thanks for that. Still a bit nervous about how I'm going to physically manage pregnancy after all these years and concerned that there might be more miscarriages.

Lost 1.5 ovaries to twisted ovarian cysts in my early 30s. Other problems too.

Then conceived naturally at 44 & 5 months when not trying.

Ds born naturally 40+6, 8lb He's twelve now, happy, healthy, the best thing that has ever happened to me

Good luck op

Thanks for all of the amazing stories on here!
@Oldmamabear43 it’s so good to hear you are doing well!!
@Naturebelle cm I think refers to cervical mucus. Xx

Hey everyone, I fell pregnant on my honeymoon at 39 by accident. It was sadly a mmc lost at10 weeks. I had an ERPC then got pregnant three weeks later. This was a chemical likely as my body was still recovering.

I then had 4 months of feeling pretty depressed and hormonal. We decided to try again just after my 40th birthday and I got pregnant. I currently have an 8 month old baby boy sleeping on me. I’m now 41 and we’re planning to ttc baby number 2 after Christmas I’m a little nervous but I’m hopeful it’ll be straightforward.

I know so many people who’ve had multiple miscarriages much younger. It’s quite normal for younger couples to take a year or two to conceive but when it happens to older couples it’s put down to bad eggs. I don’t think it’s always age related at our age, ttc can just be really hard.

My DH and I had loads of tests after our losses and no evidence any age related issues so likely just bad luck before our son. We’ve fallen pregnant the only three times it’s been possible so my doctor thinks our fertility is good. The statistics are daunting though and I think nhs advice should be less damning for older mums. Xx

@Catconfusion thanks so much for taking the time to share your sensible words. They are much needed right now! Much appreciated xx

Hi Ladies

Im having a girl xxx

I got pregnant at 46 naturally with my fourth. Wasn’t trying at all, have 3 teenagers. She is 26 months now and wouldn’t be without her.

@liissaa you're more than welcome. Going through a mmc as your first experience of pregnancy is horrendous. I really feel for you but don't give up hope. I felt so broken I didn't get my life very well in order before having my son. My advice would be assume it is going to happen and be as prepared as you can. Having a baby is so full on. The last year is a blur. Totally worth it though.

@Oldmamabear43 that's amazing news. How are you feeling? I feel really inspired by you. I'm hoping to be in your position very soon.

I was just wondering how other people are managing weight loss if needed. My bmi is 29 and I don't know whether to try and get down to a more normal weight before I ttc or just go for it. Google isn't kind about being overweight and trying for a baby. Obviously being obese is the biggest worry. It does seem over 27 can increase risks. I put on a stone with my two losses and then had a very big baby so put on 2 and a half stone on top. I've lost 2 stone of it but not sure whether to try and lose a bit more. It's so difficult because I long to be pregnant but want to do everything I can to avoid any issues. xx

@Catconfusion aww thank you ..I’m really tired this time to be honest but it’s most certainly worth it.
Dont worry about your BMI mine was 32 they say it can increase risk of gestational diabetes but I just watch I eat now, don’t let it put you off ttc the only thing I had was not getting a clear scan scan due to “body habitat” as they put it
Sending sprinkles of baby dust your way xxx

@Catconfusion that’s exactly it. I feel so broken but I’m not giving up. On the weight loss wagon too. When I conceived my bmi was higher than it could be and it still is now. I’m concentrating on eating a Mediterranean diet to improve my egg health. Xx
@fluffy71 wow that is incredible!! What an inspiration xx

@Oldmamabear43 its the worst kind of tiredness isn't it!? Hard to function when feeling like that but like you say totally worth it.

I do worry a bit about my weight. I could kick myself for not trying harder to lose it. It's so hard with the lack of sleep to eat well. My baby boy was big at 9 pounds 5. I had an elective at 39 weeks. I was tested a few times for GD but all tests were negative. I will definitely watch it next time. I just worry a bit about egg quality and how weight affects it. Some studies suggest it does. Just not sure whether to wait a bit longer. I guess the losses were so devastating I just want to do anything to avoid it. Maybe there's not much I can do. Thank you so much, I really hope we conceive soon. I hope your pregnancy is uneventful and goes quickly so you can meet your beautiful girl! xx

@Liissaa its just so painful, even when you realise how common it is. I had no idea until it happened to me. I now know way too much about what can go wrong. It just spoils etc and pregnancy. So glad you're not giving up. Honestly I nearly did and then was pregnant within a week of that. It can happens so quickly and then your whole life changes. You have every chance it will happen.

Our diet is pretty much mediterranean. Although we do have breaks from it. Losing weight is so hard after mc and having a baby. I swear its all the hormones. xx

@Catconfusion I’m sure you are right about hormones. I’m determined to get my weight down. I’m a bit up on what I was when I conceived so in my head I’m aiming for that as a first target because I know my body worked at that weight xx

@Oldmamabear43
Yeah!!!! I'm so happy for you. Hope you are well despite the tiredness xx

@Liissaa it’s so hard to know what a fertile weight is. My doctor said everyone has a weight they are more likely to conceive at. I have to say mine is bmi 25 plus. I was 25, 26 and 27 in bmi with my three pregnancies. The successful one was the higher bmi. My periods were far more irregular when my bmi was under 25 and I don’t think I ovulated regularly. I always had a bmi well within the healthy range until I met my husband at 38 years old (he loves his food). I’m beginning to think my body functions better being a bit overweight. I’ve lost a couple more pounds this week so feeling a bit better.

I’ve also now got my second period after stopping breastfeeding. I’ve had two normal length cycles for the first time in my life. I’m hoping this bodes well for ttc. If this cycle follows suit I’ll be fertile on Christmas Day. We’re so tempted to try then. I have a couple more weeks to get my weight down a bit and obviously can continue during the two week wait. I’m anxious but excited to try again. Xx

@Catconfusion wishing you all the luck in the world!
I’m doing exactly the same. I’m not so worried about my bmi being a bit higher as I conceived so easily despite being 40. Second month off the pill and I was pregnant. Im now 42 though which worries me a bit. I met my partner at 37and we will be married in 17 weeks. Hopefully as I get back down to that weight, just under 12 pounds to go, I can be making sure I’m eating for my eggs and doing some good. That’s my fertile week too, from Christmas Day onwards so I’ve still got 2 weeks to do some good! Trying to stay positive and give myself little goals gets me through!!!

Aww thank you. I really hope this is it for you. I’ve read a lot on bmi and it does seem that over 30 and the obese category (hate that word) increases the risks. However losing weight isn’t a bad idea if overweight. Late pregnancy is tough and harder the heavier you are so it’s good to start off as low as possible.

It’s funny I have good days bad days. Today I woke up thinking maybe we should leave it a bit longer. We probably will try after Christmas but only if I’ve lost a bit more weight and feel ok.

Good to know we’d be cycle buddies. It really helps having someone to talk to when ttc. Xx

Hi, I’m new to this thread. I’m 48 and expecting twins! This is my first pregnancy to go this far. I’m 17 weeks. I have a high bmi too which increased the risk of twins. The craziest thing about this pregnancy is that I was supposedly post menopausal. I haven’t had a period in two years... yet here we are. Miracles do happen.
I’m feeling the babies move now, usually in the evening - which is truly magical.

@Catconfusion it is really good to talk to someone who understands.
@LittleTiger007 wow! Congratulations! That’s amazing. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy! Xx

Oh wow @LittleTiger007 that’s amazing news. What a shock but so lovely. How do you deal with the worry and anxiety each day? I have everything crossed your pregnancy is happy and healthy. Sounds like it’s going well. Feeling movement is the greatest feeling.

I know of someone who after 15 years of trying for a baby gave up at the 45 mark. She went out one night with her husband and they were on the tube coming home when she slumped doubled over in pain. He rushed her to hospital and the doctor came out to tell him he was the daddy to a healthy baby. She was 52 and had no idea she was pregnant.

I think miracles happen and although life can be precarious sometimes it can also be enduring.

@Liissaa I’m here and believe me you’ve got this. There is every chance you will have your precious baby. Xx

Thank you @Catconfusion and @Liissaa all is going well so far. I am trying not to give in to the worry and anxiety as this situation is miraculous and I’m just going with it and trying to be calm and take things in my stride (For now!) it’s still quite early days. My midwife currently has two other pregnant ladies who are 48 and one who is 57! So she told me not to worry about my age. I’m overweight but fit, blood pressure, standing pulse etc are all good and I’m not on any medications. I think being at a place of happy contentedness help me finally fall pregnant. I had a miscarriage earlier in the year and they removed a fibroid and some endometriosis... 6 weeks later I was pregnant with twins. I’ve spent 7 months pregnant this year even though I’m only 4 months pregnant! Hopefully it will all be worth it next year.
Good luck ladies, never give up hope.