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pipsqueeke · 30/07/2007 09:14

on the phone now trying to go to the EPU is a watery brown type discharge - small amount in nicks (tmi sorry)

am so worried and paranoid, esp as i'm not 100% on dates. m/w this week said to 'assume I was 8 weeks and if it's differnt from the scan to change it then'

what could it be? had 2 m/c's prior to DS

and DH is ment to be away today all week.

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flamingtoaster · 31/07/2007 16:25

Sorry to hear your sad news.

Bools · 31/07/2007 16:27

Pips,

So sorry for your loss. Whatever you decide, our thoughts are with you.

Wheelybug · 31/07/2007 16:58

Am so sorry pipsqueeke. I was there myself exactly a year ago so feel free to talk (or not if you'd prefer not).

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pipsqueeke · 01/08/2007 08:28

1st baby - yes pretty much still not 100% the placenta has come away yet thou - did have a 'gooey' bit but not sure what it was - or if it was just a clot - was pre the sac and then some more wiht the sac. bleeding's still not particually heavy and still not in any pain - unlike the last time which i'm assuming is a good thing - but also worried that I should be in more pain or soemthing?

nemo - no date I was too upset yesterday to tlak to her and wanted to come away. going to ring today to get the rescan etc sorted out- hoping for next week or the week after.

(((hugs))) bean you've been very supportive so thank you for talking to me and helping me try to stay positive.

as for me now we will start ttc again. not sure when thou. DH keeps askin what's wrong?? and am I ok?? - course i'm bloody not. guess I might as well change my name back now.

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Egg · 01/08/2007 09:18

DH keeps asking what's wrong? But he KNOWS what's wrong doesn't he?

So sorry you have had to go through this Pip.

BandofMothers · 01/08/2007 09:24

Oh no Pip have just seen this.
Sounds like what I had with my m/c
(((((((((((((((((((pip))))))))))))))))))))
So sorry this happened.

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pipsqueeke · 01/08/2007 09:32

how can he not egg i've just lost our baby

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my1stbaby · 01/08/2007 09:56

pip: so sorry about DH. Not what you need right now I'm sure. Perhaps he's trying to find out your deeper emotions and it just came out all wrong. How are you doing atm? x

Egg · 01/08/2007 09:57

Exactly, poor you, it sounds like your DH doesn't know how to handle it. I am sure others will have some advice on how to explain to him how you are feeling, his support is vital for you right now, although obviously he will be upset himself and may just not know what to say. Even if he is lost for words a cuddle goes a long way.

BandofMothers · 01/08/2007 09:58

Perhaps he meant are you ok, or didn't want to say are you ok, as it's a stupid question, but he wants to know if you 6are^ ok, despite everything.
DYKWIM, or am I just gibbering??

JARM · 01/08/2007 10:02

Hope you are ok babe, tell DH to shut up if he is annoying you.

I told you yesterday, its ok to grieve, you need to.

Am here for another half hour or so if you need me - in and out like the hokey cokey today!

belgo · 01/08/2007 10:03

pips - my dh also found it very hard to know what to say to me after my miscarriage. In fact, he barely spoke to me at all. I'm glad that he was out when the miscarriage actually happened, so he didn't have to find the right words (he's not great at communicating at the best of times).

It's now more then a week later, and he is back to his usual loving self.

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pipsqueeke · 01/08/2007 10:24

blego - DH was the same the last time - the first time my then ex accused me of 'killing our baby' to quote him - bastard.

DH isn't v good at expressing his emotions, or saying how he's feeling. he thinks that he has to be the strong one all the time and just soldiers on. I know all he wants to do is make it right but can't.

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BandofMothers · 01/08/2007 10:28

Men always seem to want to "fix" things.

Just kindly tell him he can't fix it but he needs to show you that he is upset by it and that he needs to comfort you in some way.
He is perhaps gasping for you to show him how to make you feel better.

flowerybeanbag · 01/08/2007 10:35

pip sorry to hear not getting great support from DH. He may be struggling with it himself - I had a m/c at 7 weeks a few years ago, DH didn't know how to handle it or me at all.

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pipsqueeke · 01/08/2007 15:31

fb no I don't think he does really tbh - I know last time he said he was hurting as well but couldn't show it so far he's tidyed about etc for me and got DS sorted out. mums back down tomorrow to do the rest of my avon books - DH will collect those left out but won't knock on the doors so it will be nice to see her again. (the pain form this morning has mostly gone but still bleeding heavily). althou DH isn't and wouldn't push the issue i'm quite keen to ttc again properly. have a rescan booked for the 14th when PIL are down - not brill timing but on the other hand DH is away on the 16th over night so it will be good for them to be here then. might well bring me a bit closer to MIL.

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beansprout · 02/08/2007 08:33

How are you today Pipsqueeke? Hope you are ok.

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pipsqueeke · 02/08/2007 12:54

getting there thanks. feeling more positive - had a long chat with DH as well. DS is being a gem - so that's helping - he's learnt a new word (bugger) so with DH fussing and not lettingme do anything copled with everything DS does at the minute i'm finding v funny and amazing we're getting there. bleeding's still heavy, mum & dad are up today so i'm pretty much allowed to MN and sit on the sofa eating chocolate and that's all.

thanks for asking thou - hope your bean is cooking nicely.

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flowerybeanbag · 02/08/2007 16:06

hi pipsqueeke glad you're feeling a bit more positive and have had a good chat with DH. Keep talking to each other when you have ups and downs over this , that's the key.
Good you're getting well looked after as well by mum & dad and DH & DS.

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pipsqueeke · 02/08/2007 16:11

have passed the last today as well. (placenta bit) so think that it's a case of waiting witht he bleeding re testing and then re scanning (set for when PIL are down - and althou DH is going away over night the day after PIL are staying as my folks are abroad) so at least i'll have that support - has in an odd way brought DH &I clsoer to MIL as I understand from DH she has suffered m/c's and a still birth as well so it's nice to talk to someone in RL who know's how i'm feeling as well (as a lady I mean as DH doesn't quite understand) feel surprisingly ok with things now - at peace if you will now it's all final.

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belgo · 02/08/2007 16:13

pipsqueeke - I felt very similar - a calmness when it was all done.

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pipsqueeke · 02/08/2007 16:15

it is really belgo yes. how are you doing?

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flowerybeanbag · 02/08/2007 16:16

I also found that loads of people 'came out of the woodwork' about m/cs they'd had, like your MIL has. We all know how common it is especially early on, but often don't know anyone who has gone through it, particularly older relatives.
I lost a baby at 21 weeks last year and had lots of lovely letters from people telling me about their own experiences which I knew nothing about.

belgo · 02/08/2007 16:18

I'm fine - just tired and finding it hard with the kids, one of whom is ill, so we can't go out and do anything, and it's raining. Dh has just rang to say he's going out tonight so won't be in until late.

I just want to sleep!

milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 02/08/2007 18:42

I've just had light red spotting today, only notice after I wipe Got appointment at EPU tomorrow to find out more, I am 8 weeks pregnant and miscarried 10 weeks ago so can't go through this again so soon.

Very upset and very fed up

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