Due October 2019 - 14 weeks to go 💙💖

[HJWT]

If anyone knows of a thread already up and being used please link it below 😁

Wanted to start a thread for all the October mums to be if not as no one to talk to in the real world 🤞🏻

I am due 19th with a little boy and already have a DD(3)

Cant believe its only 12 weeks until October 😬

Not long and ill have to make a second thread 😁

@newbabyyy2019 how did your scan go today?x

Thanks everyone, please try tag me if there is a new thread I'll try and find you all after it's all flames tomorrow if not

@2018isanewyear best of luck, I hope everything goes well! 💐

@Cantthinkofanameeee
I'm being induced on Sunday 🤭 feels so long away but it'll go so quick! Feeling nervous now! X

@2018isanewyear good luck try keep us updated

Wow @newbabyyy2019 not long...did they say how much more growth you've had & what to expect after the babys born...You've made it this far now!I'm praying I make it as far as you & the baby is allowed to stay inside and grow more.Ive had a really bad day today worrying.Googling.And dreading them telling me tomorrow she hasnt grown X

@newbabyyy2019 wow - how are you feeling about it?

Wondering if you guys can tell me if I’m being unreasonable about something? Didn’t want to post on AIBU but wanted some advice before I speak to my husband. I’m having a csection; if I wasn’t, I would probably want my mum on hand/present in the birth (only allowed one person in c section and want husband!). I’m keen for us to have a bit of time as a three, but I would really like my mum and dad to come meet the baby (even just briefly) soon after I’m out of surgery.

Originally husband & I had thought to get both sets of parents in at the same time, but the closer to the date we get the more I feel I want to see my parents (particularly my mum) soon afterwards. Or even want my mum on standby in the hospital? I don’t want to exclude his parents at all but would really value my parents coming a bit earlier and having a bit of time with them.

I think particularly as this is their first grandchild whereas it’s my in-laws 3rd. I also know they went to see my SIL’s babies before the dads parents did so would hope they feel this is par for the course,
Is this reasonable or am I being unfair to my husband? I would still have in laws visit that day just slightly later on. Also thought maybe less overwhelming having them visit separately?

Would appreciate your thoughts.

@SRK16 @Cantthinkofanameeee
She's put on a bit of weight, estimated to be 4lb 7oz today at 37 weeks. Her abdomen has grown a bit but her femur bone hasn't grown.
I'm quite glad I finally have a date but i actually wish it was sooner. Sunday is the earliest they could fit me in. I'll be 38weeks+ when I have her I'd of thought because they said it could take upto 3 to 4 days in total to actually give birth when induced.. I've already had steroid injections so I'm hoping she won't need help breathing and she's classed as full term now so I'm not worried about her needing support but then again I won't know until she's here.. Just a waiting game now until Sunday but I'm very excited to meet her.

SRK16 I dont think your being unfair, what does your DH say about it? I would hope they would understand unless they are hardcore by the book fanatics who believe the paternal grandparents get dibs on the first meeting. Do you have a good relationship with them? Could you perhaps talk to them about it. Btw good idea not posting on AIBU as people can be really nasty on there.

I have been in hospital since 10am waiting for my induction and they still haven't got round to me yet, labour ward is apparently full!

@newbabyyy2019 that's a really good weight.And great that you've had the steroid injections.I hope everything goes well.And as you say your full term now.Which is amazing.Hoping the same for myself.Il update after my scan tomorrow.x

@SRK16 Your mum should be allowed to stay in your room whilst you go for c-section, not sure if you would be allowed 2 extra people there until visiting times? At my hospital I was allowed visitors on delivery suite but only because I wasn't allowed down to the ward until evening due to a haemorrhage (she was born 4AM)

I think your being fair, your vulnerable at that stage and may not feel comfortable seeing in laws until your on the ward, I know I would of rather jumped out the window than have seen MIL after DD was born 🥴 xx

@Chista I'd hate waiting around that long! Have they not given you anything at all?

@Cantthinkofanameeee
I'm sure everything will be fine! At least your appointment is tomorrow and you'll hopefully know more so you can stop worrying! X

Cantthinkofanameee fingers crossed for u but remember the scan weight is only ever an estimate.

Newbabyy nothing, just sitting around waiting. They cant do any inducement while the labour ward is full, it puts us at risk

@newbabyyy2019 that sounds like a good weight at this point and great that you have made it to full term and they are able to get the injections in just in case.

@Chista the waiting around can't be fun. Must be frustrating as if you spontaneously went into labour surely they have to find space for you.

@srk16 I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. You could be in quite a fragile state, it's an emotional event which can leave you feeling quite exposed. You want your mum to be there shortly afterwards, she knows you best and understands what you are going through.
I doubt your PIL will mind that much.

My PIL will be the first to meet this one again. They live 20 mins away, my family all live at least 3 hours away.
Luckily I get on really well with them and although I think we called my parents first last time and I'd like to this time, it will be different as PIL will have dd and I'd like her to be the first to be told (as long as its a sociable hour) so they'll obviously know at that point.

Cleaners were good in the end and managed everything but the living room. I quickly cleaned the TV and stand of dust, the fireplace and hoovered (including under the sofas) so the house is no basically ready

Quickly popping in to ask if anyone else is having hot flushes? The past few days I’ve had a few moments of getting really hot & uncomfortable. It’s not like anything i’ve Ever really experienced before.
A quick google seems to indicate that they are another joyous pregnancy symptom. But I was wondering if any one else has them and any tips on how to calm them?

@cattaxi Yes, honest to god I told DH if this is anything like menopause then kill me! Because I could not deal with this for the rest of my life 😂 I still have a fan on at night because I get so hot xx

Ha @HJWT2! I said exactly the same thing to my husband about the menopause! My sister freaked me out the other day saying that, as I’m almost 40, she thinks I’ll go straight from breastfeeding this one into the perimenopause as she started hers at 41/42. Thanks sis!

I keep getting hot flushes too.
Latest update on Fridays scan. After having to call this morning, still hadn’t heard anything at 12.30 so text my midwife and asked what to do.
She chased them and they promised her they would call me this afternoon. Guess what? They still hadn’t called at 4pm, so I called them again.
So they have now decided I’m fine to go until my appointment next week, but basically because the doctor I need to see is away and they don’t have space with anyone else.
I wish that they would all talk to each other and tell me the same thing, getting fed up with one lot saying one thing and the next something different.
So now we are keeping our scan for Monday next week and day assessment appointment. Then on the Tuesday will see the consultant, which I doubt will him, but another different registrar who will tell me something completely different again.
Not sure they realise the stress etc they are causing, really have had enough.
Sorry having a bit of a rant.

I feel everyone that is suffering the heat!! I also said to my DP the other day if this is anything like menopause it's going to be terrible! I slept with the fan blasting on yesterday and moved to the couch (we have a very comfy couch) so I could give my poor DP a break. I'm now officially on maternity leave so can make up for any lost time with Nala. Today we have quite a busy day at the hospital as we're having a tour of the delivering rooms with the prenatal course and then have our 35 week scan, looking forward to that! Already feeling a bit tired as I woke up at 4am and couldn't get back to sleep, oh the joy of the third trimester!

Yay for me I woke every hour, but went back to sleep each time. Well until just before 6, but feel so much better for not being awake the whole.
Going for lunch with PIL, it DH birthday tomorrow. They want to buy us plants for the garden for his birthday, which if we didn’t have a naughty 9 month old Labrador puppy would be great. She will just dig them up and eat them. Have said if we do plants going with hanging baskets, as even she can’t reach them.

Honestly @Em39ma it's just wrong isn't it how unorganised they can be! I have consultant on Thursday but its not the same one I saw last time! I am hoping this one is a bit nicer and more understanding towards how I feel!

@Em39ma that all sounds so unorganised. Can't be helpful at all at this stage adding to your worries.
I saw a consultant twice for my tear and both were different, neither the one that I was booked to see either. Thankfully the second one was much nicer than the first, who didn't actually speak to me and spoke through the midwife instead.

@secretlyhermione yay for maternity leave. Hope you have a nice day doing the tours etc.

I'm going to hoover the sofa today. Get all the crumbs out of all the crevices. And wash up and make tea. And that's all I have planned. Trying to think of other things to do as I'm going to be really bored otherwise.

@HJWT they have all been lovely, but just want a constant answer. I a pretty laid back person, but I’m now starting to cross over it all. My DM and DH know that when I blow, the whole place will know it. Trying so hard not to, because having those kind of stress levels can’t be good for me or the baby. Will really push my point on Tuesday next week when I see the consultant.

I’m glad I’m not the only one getting the hot flushes! But not glad others are suffering, obviously.
Had a better sleep last night. Lots of wee wake ups, but I was more comfortable in between.
It’s a sunny and breezy day here today and i’ve got a washing line full of baby sheets and blankets. Going to spend this afternoon sorting out the spare room - getting the baby’s clothes and bedding organised in the drawers, making the bed up in case my mum needs to come to stay and sorting my hospital bag. Hopefully I’ll feel more organised then. 36 weeks this week & having a slight panic as my sister had her second at this point!

That all sounds very frustrating @Em39ma. Continuity of care is so important.

Hope your scan and the hospital tour goes well @secretlyhermione.

@cattaxi I know how you feel! I have planned a big shop with my DM on Thursday whilst DD is at nursery in a couple of days and then going to get the house sorted this weekend!! I think baby is engaged now 😯 his bum seems to have moved down and I can breathe easier! Iv also slept through for 2 nights so something is definitely different! I just hope he lets me get my hair done next week 😂