Pregnancy anxiety support thread

[Kate3150]

Hey,

I thought it would be nice to set up a group for those suffering with anxiety at whatever stage of pregnancy.
I’m approaching 14 weeks and my anxiety has been up and down, particularly as I had a loss last year.
I’m currently having therapy and trying to stay active. Eating and drinking well...

Any tips/thoughts/rants welcome. xx

I am debating finding out this time. I didn't with my first xx

@Kate3150 thanks I will do that and have a look. I have no idea tbh, keep changing my mind but honestly have no preference.
I’m a bit worried today as normally feel pops/twitches once a day but not felt anything today. Should I call the EPU? I feel like it’s too early as I’m only 17 weeks.

@RC1985- If you’re worried then yes give them
a call, it won’t do any harm. They are used to ladies calling with concerns about movement, if calling will make you feel better then do it 💜

If I don’t feel anything by tomorrow I will, at least it will put my mind at rest. God I’m such a worrier. Was thinking of writing a diary of what I feel each day so I can see a pattern and know if something is off l.

@danielasummer firstly don't worry about what your midwife will think, it's not her baby! You need to do what is going to make you feel more at ease and if you're not completely convinced by her attitude then you are well within your rights to get a second opinion. It might out her nose out of joint a little but it certainly won't do any harm and you aren't going to be the first anxious FTM she's come across I'm sure! How are you feeling today? I'm 25 weeks, it's gone so quickly from getting my BFP but I know those first 3 months can seem like an age!

@Kate3150 where abouts in the South are you? Most ladies I talk to on here are in the North!

@RC1985 it's so tough when it's this early especially as baby has so much room to move around in. Definitely keep us posted on how you get on xx

@MummyBear405 thank you. I’m thinking of booking a private well-being scan. Found a clinic not far from where I work that over 500 outstanding reviews. I might do that once a month, I think it’ll give me piece of mind. I have had some feelings down there but not so much popping like before, it feels as if it’s going to pop and then doesn’t mean can’t explain it.

@MummyBear405 This is true. She is just very cold and doesn't make me feel any better whenever I speak to her. I don't want to be molly coddled but I would like her support! I still don't have any symptoms so it's been 8 days since they disappeared overnight.. still worrying me but trying to hold onto hope until my 12 week scan in the first week of November. It is dragging!! How are you feeling? x

Hi everyone, can I join? I'm 23 weeks with my second baby. I've had early miscarriages in the past but the main thing which has triggered my anxiety is that the 20 week scan didn't go well and they thought there might be something wrong with the baby. Thankfully after several more scans and tests it turned out to be a false alarm. I'm so so grateful and relieved but also I'm struggling to relax now and convinced that something will still go wrong. for all of us to get through the next few weeks!

@Switcher33- Welcome to the thread poppet! Sorry to hear about your previous losses, it certainly makes any following pregnancies challenging (I know it has for me). Also for you to have a scare like that at the 20 week scan, it’s completely understandable you feeling the way you do.
I’m approaching 32 weeks now, I think I set up this thread when I was 14ish weeks?! It’s been challenging to say the least but somehow have muddled through. All the fantastic women I’ve met on here has also helped. Knowing others are experiencing the same fears and worries is greatly reassuring. Do you know what you’re having 💜💙? X

Thanks @kate3150 . I feel like I'm being very ungrateful! I should be over the moon after the 20 week scare as everything turned out ok but it was such a horrible experience and it really opened my eyes to everything that can go wrong. In my head I do know that statistically the odds are in my favour for everything turning out ok but I keep thinking but what if I'm still that 1 in 10,000 for xyz condition...

I'm having a little girl, have you found out what you're having? 32 weeks, not long to go now, will you be off on mat leave soon?

@Switcher33- of course, it was a traumatic experience for you so very hard to do a 180 and suddenly feel happy and elated about things. Please don’t think you’re being ungrateful... you couldn’t be further from that. I really hate mammas being hard on themselves, you have every right to feel the way you do 💜.
Oh Wow you’re another team pink, I’ve spoken to
Sooooo many ladies on here over the months who are having girls. I’m having a little boy... I actually found out before my 20 week scan as I wanted to know ASAP, I’m so excited about having a boy.
I actually finish work over the next week as I have some holiday to use up. I feel quite emotional about it as I like work... I think I’m the only person whose not looking forward to mat leave 😂 xx

How we doing lovely ladies? X

I have just self referred for mental health services but wondering if it's the right one, and should I actually have asked the midwife to refer me to planx (midwife ran MH). Most of my worries so far as about surviving labour and problems again.

Hi all just checking to see how everyone is 😀 as I haven’t checked in on here for a while.

@RC1985- How are you feeling for Tomo? What time is your appt? X

Hey @Kate3150 it’s in the morning and have mixed feelings. On one hand I’m more relaxed than first scab but then on the other there are so many things going round in my head that can go wrong, I’m so worried. Im
Just praying everything goes well. How are you? How many weeks are you now?

@RC1985- Honestly you will be fine!!! Are you going to find out the sex 💜💙? Please let me know how it goes... so excited for you! How quick has this day come around?
I’m doing good thank you, apart from a terrible nights sleep lol. Really really miss not sleeping on my back. I’m 34+2 now, all booked in for my c section. Roll on December 💙 xx

@RC1985- Just seen from one of your previous threads that you’re going to find out the sex. Even more excited for you now. I know I can talk but one little piece of advice try and enjoy the scan. Naturally you’ll feel anxious, but it’s precious time seeing little bubs on screen and I remember at times being so consumed by worrying what the sonographer will say that I didn’t soak up the time seeing my little man. Look forward to hearing from you later xx

Hi guys can I join in. Extreme worrier here! Recently found out I was pregnant again after an early miscarriage in August.

It was a bit of a shock as my cycle was ontl day 48 with no positive test results! So goodness knows when I conceived because I had stopped tracking.

I found out on Friday as my mum had advised to book a blood test so before hand I did a FRER to find a BFP. Freaking out a bit as my blood test on Friday came back with a HCG level of 16. Which I think is very low, mum is saying not to worry (she is a nurse). Since then I took another FRER that had a much clearer second line & today took a CB digital which said 1-2 weeks since conception.

I have another blood test next Wednesday. I was in tears yesterday from the results. I don't know if i'm being overly pesimistic I just can't face another miscarriage atm especially as I am about to start a new job! (Timing!)

@Bananaloaf88- Hello my darling! Welcome!
Pregnancy after a loss is sooo hard, I've also suffered a loss so completely relate to how you’re feeling.
I completely get the feeling of not being able to face another MC, I found mine so traumatic but I got through it and so did you poppet. Now hopefully things will work out for you this time 💜, your Mum is better qualified than me to offer advice on HCG levels so that’s really positive she’s saying not to worry.
I know it’s hard but it’s understandable you’re feeling this way, don’t put any pressure on yourself to feel positive because you think that’s how you “should” be. I’ve got everything crossed for you that things work out this time 💜

@kate3150 Thank you for your message it was lovely to read in the morning.

I just feel so sad about something that hasn't happened yet. DH understands but is also more positive than me & can't really grasp why i'm struggling to feel happy atm.

I've worked out a range of where my blood levels should be next week given the 48/72 hour doubling rule. So fingers crossed that comes back good and boosts my spirits.

@Bananaloaf88- I completely get how lonely it is. For a big chunk of my pregnancy I felt everyone else around me was positive and talking about the future but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. Just incase, I suppose it’s a way of protecting ourselves.
I’m now just over 34 weeks and can’t say I’m 100% but feel I can talk about baby more confidently and imagine him being here which is huge for me!!
Anxiety is very individual and I think it’s important to acknowledge the good days as often we dwell on the not so good 💜

I got my flu jab Friday and I have always avoided having them as worry about putting chemicals into my body. Anyone else had them?

@Raindancer411- Yep, had mine 2 weeks ago! Flu can be so dangerous for you when pregnant, they wouldn’t encourage us to have it done if it would bring any harm to baby. Obviously it’s individual choice but I didn’t hesitate in having mine 😊. How have you been doing? X

Ok so far, but I think my anxiety is more going to come into play towards the birthing part after my first birth issues. I have self referred to the mental health team and am waiting for a call