Why is everyone so negative about a boy?

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Please can I have some reassurance... for some reason as soon as I tell anyone I'm having a boy I keep getting comments like oh be ready to be on your feet constantly/you won't know what's hit you/boys a whirlwinds/boys will have constant energy and are so much more physical etc/more likely to hit out etc etc. There just always seems to be something negative people say? At the moment i am used to doing colouring and my DD playing nicely with her figures etc but I just didn't really imagine it would be much different second time round regardless of whether it's a boy or a girl? At first I used to just laugh it off but the nearer I get to my due date and the more people keep going on about it, the more I'm actually starting to feel a bit nervous which is a horrible feeling to have. Are people just being silly or should I actually prepare myself for hecticness becoming a mum of a boy?

I have 3 DD and 1 DS and he was the easiest by far, laid back and easy going whereas girls can be demanding and stubborn. Boys I think are easier to manage and talk to.

Boys are amazing. My one year old is a boy and he's the best thing in my life. But there is no way he'd just sit and colour I'm afraid - he needs to burn off energy! But that is not remotely a bad thing, yes it's exhausting and it's also exciting and fun and hilarious.

I don’t have experience of a boy, but my DD is a whirlwind and doesn’t stop. I’ve heard the opposite that yes boys can be boisterous and active but also gentle and less moody and generally easier than girls. I think every child is just different, so just sit back and get excited about having one of each. He’ll be your boy so it won’t matter how much energy he has

It's total nonsense. You will have a child with a personality, that has nothing to do with their sex. DS enjoys doing physical things with the best of them, but equally will sit and draw, colour, play cars etc...

Boys are lovely, mummy's boys ,cute & love cuddles.my boys do enjoy colouring etc not just running around wild. People are being silly ,think they need to grow up, saying things like that to u is just horrible,dont let them put things in your head ,enjoy your boy when he gets here x

I have 3 boys and they are awesome! Cuddly, loving and whirlwinds

I only have one of each, so hardly a big enough sample for a scientific study, but my DS has always been the easier by far. He's so loving and straightforward. When he was a little boy though he did need lots of exercise and certainly wouldn't have sat and coloured or read the way my daughter did. He was a bit like a puppy but very cute!

I didn’t want girls due to previous abuse and I want to teach my boys to know that no is no and to respect

DD2 is more of a "boy" than DS. DD1 and DS are quiet and play nicely and enjoy colouring in while DD2 tries to body slam them from the couch. She is so loud and energetic and boisterous. So becoming a mum of a boy doesn't necessarily make anything more hectic.

Don't worry people go on about wanting a girl but in practise they'll have higher expectations and treat her less favourably than any sons.

Happens both ways! Just try to not be that person!

And I love everything about DD2 btw. She totally shook the house up but I can't imagine it any other way. Your little DS will be whatever he will be and you'll adore him.

I also don't understand the obsession with girls over boys. My DS is 11, and he is lovely. I also have a DD (7) who is also lovely, but when I was pregnant I had so many people look at me like I had two heads when I said that I'd be quite happy with another boy!

I have a boy and a girl.

Boy has Autism and is far easier than the girl.

People tend to just go for the negatives, I was told boys were a right handful then that girls were just constant drama. You can't win!

I also really think it's more down to their temperament than their gender - my DS has been far easier than my DD (so far...)!

Thank you everyone, what lovely replies that is just what I needed to hear. I think I'm probably just being hormonal and probably getting a bit concerned anyway about life shaking up from 3 to 4 and because these seem to be the consistent comments I'm projecting that concern onto this 'boy' thing. I will definitely try and shake them off and just look forward to seeing whatever personality he has ❤️

Don't know why, my easygoing DS has been a dream compared to his feisty sister!

Who is everyone, op? That certainly hasn’t been my experience at all.

It's pure sexism. DD is more active and boisterous than most of the boys in her class.

It turns out children are all individuals. Who knew?

I have one of each.
My DS (now 2.5) was an easier baby than my DD. He slept more and didn't scream like she did. He is a lot more loving than she was at the same age....he loves cuddles and snuggling. My DD was more independent.
They are both full of energy though. Same there

Its Just gender stereotyping

I only have boys and it's awesome. They rarely sit though - they're 2 and 4 and spend all their time running, climbing the furniture, messing in the garden, chasing each other, building dens. They are risky in their play too. Throw themselves off stuff. As I don't have daughters I don't know if there would be any difference. Friends who have both sexes say their daughters were more inclined to sit and play, draw etc than their brothers though they would run around too, whereas their boys are a bit more on one setting

There's quite a lot of studies into the play differences between girls and boys, both humans and other primates. It's not a bad thing though, just a difference. And of course as with any sex differences there's a huge overlap so loads of girls will love rough and tumble play and loads of boys will like to sit and draw/play.

Seriously, keep your distance from people who say things like that .
A baby is a baby and more importantly, your baby .
How dare these idiots predict how he'll be based on their own bigoted stereotypes ?

Tell them to fuck off with their negative stereotypes. Some kids are active and boisterous some are creative and sensitive some are somewhere in between.

Of course if you reinforce the boys will be boys/little princess bollocks then you might end up with an unruly boy and a precious spoiled girl but that is nurture not nature.

Treat your child as an individual not a blue/pink cliche

I have one of each and love them both. My ds is the more emotional of the two but gives the best cuddles and isn't too embarrassed by mum. Wouldn't swap him for anyone.

I think people just feel they have to say SOMETHING and it’s all irrelevant bollocks because all children are different. My DS is so sensitive and loving. Would never sit and colour for longer than 25 seconds but then I’m sure that’s nothing to do with him being a boy. I’m sure there are girls who wouldn’t sit down and colour too.
Alternatively I’ve heard people say how hard work girls are, more independent etc. All swings and roundabouts!