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Why is everyone so negative about a boy?

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pancakes22 · 03/05/2019 18:04

Please can I have some reassurance... for some reason as soon as I tell anyone I'm having a boy I keep getting comments like oh be ready to be on your feet constantly/you won't know what's hit you/boys a whirlwinds/boys will have constant energy and are so much more physical etc/more likely to hit out etc etc. There just always seems to be something negative people say? At the moment i am used to doing colouring and my DD playing nicely with her figures etc but I just didn't really imagine it would be much different second time round regardless of whether it's a boy or a girl? At first I used to just laugh it off but the nearer I get to my due date and the more people keep going on about it, the more I'm actually starting to feel a bit nervous which is a horrible feeling to have. Are people just being silly or should I actually prepare myself for hecticness becoming a mum of a boy?

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Mammatino · 03/05/2019 18:45

They are all just themselves anyway. My little boy (now 5) is very chilled, happy to play with others, happy to play with toys. He was a great baby too, calm and happy. Alot of it is down to your parenting style too, be relaxed and so will your children.

Sarah22xx · 03/05/2019 18:45

I have a 20month old baby boy, he is such a chilled out happy little boy x

mumlikeaboss · 03/05/2019 18:47

I have a 4yo boy and a girl on the way... I'm terrified about having a girl, lol!!

I think what other people say is right, that you can have boisterous girls as well as "girly" girls, just as you can have boys who love to draw/read/colour quietly instead of wrecking the furniture!

DS is definitely not what people stereotype as a boy. He doesn't race around and climb things and fight and yell. He's more of an intellectual kid - he LOVES reading and being read to, he has a hilarious sense of humour, he's a real people person, and he's very sensitive and affectionate. He'll come and curl up on the sofa with me and say "let's have a chat, Mum" 😂

Wouldn't change him for the world 💙💙

Hippopotas · 03/05/2019 18:48

I only want 1 child and I’d prefer a boy.

anonforthespies43267 · 03/05/2019 18:48

If it helps, we are having a girl & I’ve been told exactly the same. Girls are hard work, much harder than boys, oh good luck you’ll need it, she’s going to cause you some headaches. Blah blah blah.

I can only go by my 2 yr old nephew who is an absolute nut case (in a good way), he’s so much fun, an ignorant shit at times but he keeps us all entertained as has been an absolute pleasure to be around. My friend has 2 boys under 3 and they’re the same.

Xxx

BillywigSting · 03/05/2019 18:52

My 5yo ds is a total breeze.

Yes he needs to run around outside for a bit every day but I think that honestly the same can be said for girls.

He also quite happily does colouring in, playing with his little rag doll, playing with lego, little figures, cars/trains etc

He isn't stroppy, is easy to talk to, isn't overly willful (though he has his moments) and is generally a pleasure to parent

Cherylshaw · 03/05/2019 18:53

I have a boy and he is everything you mentioned in your op. I don't see these as bad things at all! He is really energetic and a whirlwind, he sometimes lashes out and is constantly on the move, but i see that as passionate, fun, hilarious. He does keep me on my toes and is a bit feral tbh. But the most loving and sweet monster i could ever have wished for! Yeh boys may be all those things, girls aswell but all kids are different!
My little girl is also a bit of a maniac and probably just slightly less feral 😂🤷

Chinks123 · 03/05/2019 18:55

This is the opposite of what people keep saying to me. I’m pregnant with a boy and they keep saying they’re so much more laid back, more loving, calmer etc.

Stereotypes are just ridiculous, dd is 6 and has never sat nicely and played with dollies or painted her nails, as people said she would when I was pregnant. She wants to run around, get messy and is very very loud.

BillywigSting · 03/05/2019 18:55

Also not my dc but a friends, her ds is my ds's friend and pretty chilled out, his little sister is, and I quote her mum here 'a right stroppy little madam'.

Her favourite word atm is no

fruitpastille · 03/05/2019 18:56

My DS loves colouring Smile

SummerHouse · 03/05/2019 18:56

2 boys here. They are a dream. I often think if I die today I am still one of the luckiest people on earth. They are easy, fun, entertaining and brilliant.

TheFairyCaravan · 03/05/2019 19:04

I've got two sons who are now 22&24 so I've done the whole lot.

DS1 was the most laid back child on the planet. He'd lie in his prom/basket/chair taking it all in then fall asleep when he was ready. He didn't fuss at all. He'd sit for hours on our laps looking at books, he loved to colour, building with Duplo or Sticklebricks kept him amused for hours. Forget mud, puddles, paint or any of that jazz he was having none of it. He hated being dirty. He'd go to the edge of the sofa or bed, peer over, look at the drop decide it was too much so scoot back and go back to what he was doing. I felt like, and still do, the luckiest mum alive.

When I was pregnant with DS2 I was adamant I didn't want a girl because compared to DS1 my nieces were nightmares. Well along popped DS2. He soon proved to me that there's no such thing as "boys are like this and girls are like that" because he came out screaming and didn't really stop until he was almost 2. He was constantly stuck to me. I couldn't leave him with DH until he was over 12 months because he'd scream blue murder. Before he could walk he could climb. He was a magnet to mud and although he hated having his hair washed he loved washing it in puddles.

They've both always loved cuddles, even now. DS1 is a big, muscly soldier but he never ends a phone call without saying he loves me and he always wraps me up in a huge hug every time he leaves the house.

DS2 was my shadow for years. He's left home now but we talk every day. He's the most caring, loving person you could wish to meet and is incredibly sensitive. He loves his cuddles too and at 6'4 he's much taller than me so sometimes he gets on his knees so he can fit under my chin again.

I absolutely adore being a mum of boys. There's nothing negative about it.

Congratulations on your baby boy.

ragdoll700 · 03/05/2019 19:11

My mum had 4 boys and 3 girls and she said the boys were far easier than the girls I have 2 girls so have no idea if its true or not

Morgan12 · 03/05/2019 19:12

I have a boy and a girl. Boy was a million times easier.

Livpool · 03/05/2019 19:12

My DS is 3 and a half and very boisterous. He is also very loving and gives me the best kisses and cuddles

Baddit · 03/05/2019 19:14

There's a lot of sexist shit that people still come out with unfortunately. My DS is loving, calm and caring. He loves animals, teddies and colouring and is the opposite of the boisterous bundle of energy people told me he'd be. When he was happy playing quietly as a toddler rather than running around everywhere I heard a little too often that it was because "boys are lazy" - which I find especially offensive. You can't win! Don't listen to all those ignorant people. Enjoy your son for who he is.

w0man · 03/05/2019 19:19

Their views are based on sexist stereotypes. I've worked with many children in lifetime and playing quietly and colouring in is not exclusive to girls just as tearing about the place isn't exclusive to boys.

cinderfeckinrella · 03/05/2019 19:20

Boys are great op, they love their Mums and so affectionate. Yeah lots of energy but lots of fun

ILiveInSalemsLot · 03/05/2019 19:25

I don’t think it matters what sex they are, they still need to run off energy.
My dc start arguing and playing up if they don’t get the chance to play and run outside. Once they’ve done that, they’re calmer and they’ll sit and do stuff and get on really well.

Parttimewasteoftime · 03/05/2019 19:26

I have two DS they are so different it's unreal.
DS1 loves colouring, craft and baking. Quiet loving very calm loves football.
DS2 is nuts loves fighting football climbing. Also an absolute pleasure very affectionate and loves his mama.
Boys are awesome OP (sure girls are too but have none)

Doubtoftheordinary · 03/05/2019 19:26

I'm currently pregnant with my first and hoping for a boy! Obviously I'd fall in love with either, but I LOVE the idea of a little boy 😍

roisinagusniamh · 03/05/2019 19:28

Girls love their mums and Dads and are lots of fun
Some children enjoy colouring ....let each child develop their own interests without overally influencing them.
Get them the toys they want not the toys society things they should have .

Nonnymum · 03/05/2019 19:30

It depends on the child. I know many whirlwind girls and calm boys. Many whirlwind boys and calm girls too.

BillywigSting · 03/05/2019 19:31

Enjoy your son for who he is.

Really genuinely great advice ^

Athousandstars04 · 03/05/2019 19:33

I have a 4 year old boy and he was a much easier baby than our 1 year old DD, she is a right diva! He does have a ton of energy and never seems to tire but he also loves cuddles with mummy and is very loving 💙

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