Catching up with those from TTC thread- 3

[EltzBee]

A new thread as we're approaching the end of the last one!
@sunshine1987 @SullyWifey @mrsof20118 @GemmaJen @RanchoRelaxo @Delilah7 @Crossfitgirl @EltzBee @AngeloMysterioso @ChaosMoon sorry if I've missed people please feel free to tag people I've missed so far!

Congratulations on your little boy @Cookie0508! He's a beauty.

Well done for telling everyone @etzbee. ☺️ I can understand it feeling weird. I think everything feels a bit weird while you're pregnant. It all changes so fast, you don't have much time to adjust.

That really sucks @Crossfitgirl. I can't believe they haven't called today either. I had very definite, weekly growth spurts, until the last month, when it's been daily. In fact, I'm sure my bump's grown since this morning! 😂 What books did you get from the library?

@MrsC87 that sounds so painful. I hope your DH's massage skills were up to the trick!

How did the booking appointment go @thumper59? And your scan @canonlyhopexo?

@Delilah7, you're getting such a raw deal. And your workmates sound awful! Has the stuff from your physio helped at all, or is it too early to say?

I saw a breast feeding midwife yesterday to find out about hand expressing colostrum. It was really good and I managed to get a little bit out to start my stash. No such luck today though so the baby can now stay put until I've had more practice!

Hope the spa relaxes you @crossfitgirl
I'm feeling the growth spurts too. I have been so uncomfortable at work today my belly feels really stretched. I feel massive but will try take a bump pic tomorrow. Think it just looks so prominent as I'm so short.

@BostonFern mad isn't it! How far are you now? This thread moves much quicker then I do!

@ChaosMoon that's so exciting about the breastfeeding. How real does that make it all feel! Except the nausea and hatred for my fave foods I often forget I'm pregnant! The booking in app went great Thankyou, midwife was lovely really made me and OH feel comfortable. It went really quick and easy she said she was happy to have us as her first of the day as super easy with no medical history/ obviously a wanted baby and knowing who the dad is really helped she said 😬😂. She doesn't see any reason why we shouldn't stay midwife led so far as I'm low risk in everything, bmi everything all fine so I hope it's a sign of good things to come and we can aim for a waterbirth, many many months to think about that left before me though!
Hope all you ladies are doing well, I find this hard to keep up with if I only get on my phone a couple of times a day 😫 who's due next?

@ChaosMoon it's vile, going to tell midwife next week at my appointment. Hubby is great at massaging my feet but by lunchtime next day I'm in agony again. Plus swollen feet on top doesn't help. Oh well all be worth it come July 💙

Also I feel guilty saying this but I'm dreading breastfeeding. I'm sure as soon as baby is born I'll change opinion but it's the whole baby sucking on your tit thing 🙈 can't get my head round it. Going to give it a try for baby x

@thumper59 the apps are saying I'm 4+2 based on LMP, but I ovulated earlier in the cycle so I think I'm probably more like 4+6 based on ovulated/suspected conception. I got 'pregnant 2-3' on a clearblue digital last Saturday when the apps were putting me at 3+5.
Glad to hear your booking in appointment went well.
I feel like each week drags at the moment, I just want to get to the first scan.

@BostonFern thank you xx

@ChaosMoon the crutches help but they're such a pain in the arse when pregnant. Plus you automatically feel you should be hopping 😂 x

Well after 5 days of not being sick, it came back again today in style, with full on projectile vomiting. Only just made it to the bathroom :( DH came back up the stairs and I was in tears trying to clear up, bless him he sent me back to bed and took over.

Gonna go back to bed for a bit and hope this current lot of nausea passes.

Ridiculously real and ridiculously exciting @thumper59! That's great that you can be midwife led. I'm want a water birth too. We visited the birth suite with the pool the other day - it was so lovely. I think I might actually be due next!

@MrsC87, fasciittis is awful. I had it once and it took months to go. I was eventually given some exercises that really helped. I'm sure you could find them online if your GP isn't forthcoming.

I can know where you're coming from about the breast feeding but it's something I really want to do. The benefits are just so huge - for mum and baby. I know it's not easy though, so doing as much prep as I can now. I'm off to a breastfeeding workshop this afternoon and then I'm going to put a breastfeeding consultant on speed dial in case I need them once baby is here. Anything to make it easier!

@BostonFern I know when I ovulated but my date still moved forward a week. The important thing is when the embryo implanted in your uterus, which can vary quite a bit. That's why the date from your 12wk scan will be the most accurate.

Oh good, I bet @Delilah7! I hope you're able to get used to them and they help.

Sorry to hear that @EltzBee. It sounds like you have a great DH. Funnily enough, my morning sickness started dying down after 12weeks but I had my worst bought at about 17/18 weeks. I think that got the last of it or if my system though. I hope you're feeling better soon.

@ChaosMoon ooh glad the tour went well. Are you in the last couple of weeks now? Eek!
Up until last week I was still being sick most days :( I'm now 17 and a half weeks, had really hoped having these past few days without sickness that it had finally gone, but nope! Keeping fingers crossed that this doesn't last and it does what yours did and passes for the rest of the preg! Getting so exhausted with being sick and feeling nauseous all the time. DH has been great though.

@MrsC87 don't feel guilty at all! I don't like the idea of breast feeding and know that for me, it isn't the right decision for my mental or physical health. We've decided already we'll be formula feeding from birth. Do what is right for you, your family and your baby. The best is a fed baby and a happy mum.

I think it also depends when you go back to work and who is looking after baby; if you go back earlier for example and DH or nursery looks after baby (eg), then trying to work full time and express enough milk (and storing it) might not be the right thing for those mums (I know legally employers have to make a private area available for expressing and provide suitable place to store it...but in reality in a busy working environment, I'm not convinced that's totally practical for some women!. We're lucky enough to have the choice to do what is right for us, our families and our situation :)

Sorry to go on a bit - it's a pet hate of mine that mums-to-be and new mums are made to feel guilty for how they choose to feed their baby.

@BostonFern I ovulated late and they brought my date forward by a day - it is all to do with when the fertilised egg actually implanted rather than when it was fertilised. It can be between 5 and 10 days so quite a big difference even just for that! The 12 week scan is the most accurate and they'll update your due date then. Just remember even then it's only estimated - baby could arrive any when! I think they actually count full term as between 37 and 42 weeks!

@crossfitgirl hope you're feeling okay today hun.

@Delilah7 oh that sounds like your work is being awful! Surely they can see that you're not fit enough to be doing that and should be making reasonable adjustments to protect you?! Expecting you to carry things up and down stairs when you're on crutches is ridiculous and you'd have thought basic common sense would have kicked in from co-workers. Bless you :(

@thumper59 it'll go really fast once you've had the 12 week one too. Feels like 2 mins since ours, and now I'm 20+5! Roll on Friday for you! Don't worry about keeping up too much, it does go fast sometimes and life is gonna get busier very soon!
Thanks @bostonfern :-)

@chaosmoon @mrsof20118 definite growth spurt as a new batch of stretch marks have suddenly appeared! Sounds odd, but it's quite nice to have them, a clear sign baby is thriving and growing :-) I'm the same as you 20118, quite short, and my friend said yesterday I look "massive"! Thanks love! Haha.

@chaos I got "your baby's first year, month by month" and baby centre's "pregnancy - preconception to birth" they are both a bit dated but I can order books in so if there are newer editions in the online catalogue I can have a look.

Wow, that's so exciting! Does it feel super strange to basically get milk out of your boobs? When is your due date? I assume its very soon! Any news from @luckykitty13 yet??

@mrsc87 I've always had very sensitive nipples and I hate touching them or even brushing them myself, DH isn't allowed near them normally! I think I'm blocking out the idea of coping with a baby sucking on them 24/7. Will definitely try but if it's too awful or anything or I cant get desensitised, I'm not gonna put too much pressure on myself and will formula feed if necessary. I'll def persevere as I do want to ebf for as close to 6 months as i can, but definitely not blind to the misery and pain that it might cause. Might be fine though, who knows!

Oh no @eltzbee! Bloody lulled you into a false sense of security there! Hope it's a bit more sporadic and not as constant as before, at the very least!
Also, totally agree with your view on feeding. As long as the baby is fed and looked after, that's all that matters. It's personal choice. Despite the fact I do want to breastfeed, I was actually a bit annoyed at how the midwives I've seen so far have pushed it, one said "obviously we want you to breastfeed as it's best for the baby" when giving me leaflets about it. No mention of here's the benefits of breastfeeding, here's what may go wrong, and these are your options if it doesn't work for you. In my opinion that's what they should be doing, and considering the health of mum as well as the baby, as surely both are just as important! I remember watching an episode of GPs behind closed doors, and a breastfeeding mum was totally collapsing with her mental health due to not being able to take her meds due to bf, and was in such a state. She felt so guilty about switching to formula she had let herself get into that state. The GP had to convince her it was OK to use formula and basically prescribed formula feeding her baby as her treatment! Along with her meds. It really stuck with me.

And thank you, I feel a lot better today and I think I'm going to go back to work tomorrow. I know I have a couple of easy days, and I'm working the weekend to bump up my pay but weekends are usually easy too, so I think I'll be OK. Then I have some days off next week.

I'll be insisting I have a return to work meeting (guarantee nobody will do this unless I ask) and that they do my mother's risk assessment that they are meant to do at 19 weeks that nobody has done with me either. They have to take steps to ensure me and the baby aren't suffering health wise as a result of my work, and in my opinion, I am. Also, still no phone call. Literally nobody at work knows why I'm off. And I work in Healthcare! Lol. What a joke.

Mini essay!

@EltzBee @ChaosMoon you'd think so hey! Ahwell. Not long left until a year off with my boy so 💙

Had several parents tell me recently that formula is perfectly good alternative and not to get worked up over not breastfeeding. I will still be trying but no guarantees if I can after some past operations that may have affected my options.

@Crossfitgirl glad you're feeling better, I'm so shocked at your work. Mine have been pretty good so far luckily, and have sent me home some days.

@EltzBee Ah so rubbish that the sickness came back. I still have occasional moments where I've almost thrown up but it's not all day now luckily. All day sickness stopped about 16-17 weeks.

So we're off shopping this weekend, hopefully to look at travel systems. I remember someone ruled out the Cossatto ones, they look really cute, what was the reason for ruling them out? Been trying to read as many reviews as I can but all opinions seem to be different!

@Crossfitgirl glad you are feeling better, it is bad that nobody asked about you if that's what the usual is, definitely demand a back to work meeting to get a decent risk assessment drawn up

@EltzBee ah no, what a good DH you have, bet that was awful, am keeping my fingers crossed that this is the last of it for you

@Cookie0508 I didn't see anything bad for cossatto, I bought one of there prams with a car seat when it was on offer, it's lovely and seems very easy to use

@MrsC87 fed is best just remember that and try not to feel guilty if the breastfeeding doesn't work out. I am definitely going to give it a go, but I'm not worried if it doesn't work out

Oh no @EltzBee, hopefully it passes soon.

Thanks @ChaosMoon and @EltzBee

@Crossfitgirl I can't believe they still haven't contacted you! Or done the risk assessment!

I think I've started to become more sensitive to smells in the last day or so. The insomnia is still there too-but silver lining from this morning was I had a relaxing bath to start the day off with, instead of a rushed shower.

@BostonFern I have the nose of a bloodhound now. It’s horrible!

I had to tell my manager today, slightly earlier than planned. We’re all moving desks and I had to give a reason why I looked so horrified by the seating plan that had been agreed while I was out of the office - I’d been put next to a guy who smokes like a chimney and due to my superhuman sense of smell I just can’t cope with being near him! Luckily my boss was really nice about it and immediately made people move around so I could have the desk I wanted. I think it may have hurt the feelings of smoking guy as obviously the reason I refused that desk wasn’t explained to him but I’m sure he’ll survive.

@stormtrooperjulian good for you!

Called in sick today as still feeling rough and nauseous and have a banging headache I've had since yesterday, had to get paracetamol in the night but it's barely touching the sides of the pain :( thankfully avoided puking but only just sigh!

Good on you @stormtrooperjulian! I went into a classroom today, after a bunch of teenagers had been in there with the heating on a bit too high, it smelt far worse than usual 🤢

Oh no @EltzBee, I hope it's starting to ease off a bit now.

@BostonFern eww!
It is really warm here, heating is barely coming on 😊

Anyone else getting hot flushes?! I can barely keep my clothes on at home for getting too hot! Lol.

Took it super easy today and just relaxed, just went out for a 20 minute walk to get some air which was nice.

Think my hormones must just be in overdrive the past couple days, as on top of the sickness and nausea returning and headaches my boobs have been sore again too. Glamour of pregnancy?!

We're moving the double bed that's currently in the nursery into one of our other spare rooms this weekend, in anticipation of starting to think about the nursery and getting things sorted.

I think I'm feeling Bean wriggling too - it's not kicks or taps more like I can feel wobbles inside me? Hard to describe. 17+6 today so know it's still early to feel anything definite.

@eltzbee pregnancy headaches are the worst. No matter how much I drink, rest etc once I've got one it's so hard to shake! Even paracetamol doesn't seem to do it. The only thing that seems to help me is caffeine, in the form of a cup of tea! Are you stomaching hot drinks at the mo?

@stormtrooperjulian eugh the smell of smoke is horrendous at the best of times let alone when pregnant! @bostonfern ooh starting the day with a bath sounds nice!

I'm a bit disappointed I've not got any cravings. In fact i don't seem to have any of the "typical" symptoms like sensitive smell etc, just the wierd /not nice stuff like feeling my tummy stretching from the inside, and headaches!

Does anyone else feel massively bloated all the time still?

@Crossfitgirl the headaches really are something else aren't they! I used to get period headaches but these are even worse. They last for 24 to 48 hours and line you did paracetamol barely makes a dent!
I've not had any weird cravings as such... Although I'm currently obsessed with oven chips for some reason.. oh and haribo tangfastics... I'm still off of eggs any a lot of veg annoyingly (and usually love my vegetables!).

My bloating has improved but some days my digestion is so sluggish that I do feel bloated and gassy again. Are you struggling most days?

@eltzbee oooh oven chips. You know, actually McDonald's fries and a double cheeseburger are one thing I have "craved", well it was one of the only things I actually FANCIED eating during the food aversion stage lol. Maybe it's the carbs 😁
I do feel bloated a lot of the time. It tends to happen in phases... And tbh it tends to be after I've eaten a lot or if I've not pooed for a few days. Prob just need more fibre in my diet!

Going to do a meal plan tonight and order some online shopping for it, for next week x

@Crossfitgirl I never eat McDonald's and in the last week I've had it twice 😕 chicken and bacon wrap one time and a chicken mayo the second! I enjoyed every last bite. 😂. I have such bad food aversions atm, I couldn't eat last night so had cereal. Today I've had 2 slices of toast, I'm craving all the bad stuff like fish fingers I could eat a box of and cheese and ham toasties id give a limb for. I came in from work and made a banana and strawberry smoothie so that perked me up a little, gonna get a bath and im doing a pie dinner for tea (ha! How northern am I) and hoping I can stomach it 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Crossfitgirl I've found that full fat Greek yoghurt helps if I'm bloated! Haha mm McDonald's fries...I did send DH out to get me a strawberry shake from there when I could barely keep food down as I really fancied one! 😋😊

Oooh @thumper59 yes I totally lived off cereal in the early weeks, and fish finger sarnies were regularly on the menu! I found it so strange just not fancying food at all. Normally I'm like, give me the food, I don't care what it is! Lol. I'm still off meat now, I have a feeling that may stick with me! Been having loads of veggie meals. And pasta. Haha.
Enjoy your bath and pie tea. I am currently in the bath whilst typing this 😂

@eltzbee mmmm strawberry shake.... I want one now! In fact I just want a maccy ds!

@Crossfitgirl that's like me being off food is making me sad... I love my food, my day revolves around where my next meal is coming from and what it's going to be and now everything I think of turns my stomach 😫🤢 mmm pasta yeah I can stomach that too! We'll of ate some right random meals by the end of this 😂

@EltzBee strawberry shake would go down an absolute treat right now!