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Reduced movements. Been for scan no feral movements felt or seen

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MissMoodyMoo · 08/02/2019 15:16

Hi I'm 36w1 been out or hospital since Sunday after having sepsis! Reduced movements started on Tuesday but been in for monitoring and heart rate etc fine. Been for scan again could see heart beating but no movement seen or felt by sonographer. Babies heart beat keeps spiking and midwife saying that's her moving but I'm not feeling the movements. I feel like they are just fobbing me off. I feel like there is something wrong and no one is listening to me

Advice would be great please 😌

Reduced movements. Been for scan no feral movements felt or seen
Reduced movements. Been for scan no feral movements felt or seen
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Vika1985 · 10/02/2019 17:02

I would just present myself. Just turn up at mat assess at qeuh and refuse to leave. All maternity notes online now and so they should be able to access all your info.

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MissMoodyMoo · 10/02/2019 17:04

Ayrshire and Arran are still paper documentation 🙁 I'll go in for the 10am monitoring and if I'm still not happy I'll head straight to Glasgow

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CoachBombay · 10/02/2019 17:09

Trust your gut, leave go to another hospital.

I did it saved my son's life. Go now OP. If they say the same as this hospital then ok you've been reassured that's the worst case scenario of rocking up to another hospital.

Vika1985 · 10/02/2019 17:09

Are you feeling any movement at all?

Wowzel · 10/02/2019 17:09

I would head straight to Glasgow, I would be so twitchy about all of this.

RandomMess · 10/02/2019 17:10

I would go today just because your anxiety is going to drive you insane overnight anyway Thanks

53rdWay · 10/02/2019 17:10

You can take your paper notes with you if you go to Glasgow.

It sounds like there’s a disconnect between what you’re saying you’re worried about and what they’re giving you as an answer. They’re saying that some babies just move less or are harder to feel, which is true, but you’re saying that your baby’s movements have significantly reduced recently, which is a different issue. Do you feel that they’re fully understanding what you’re saying?

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MissMoodyMoo · 10/02/2019 17:12

I've felt her once today when I was twisting awkwardly to get out bed but I'm not sure if I maybe just nudged her with my rib? I'm a nervous wreck!? Am going mental? Having a mental breakdown? Surely it's not normal 😭😭

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Vika1985 · 10/02/2019 17:13

Please go to Glasgow.

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MissMoodyMoo · 10/02/2019 17:15

I've told them she's normally such an active baby and for the last 5 days she hasn't moved much. I've cried and begged and the only thing they keep saying is that everything looks normal on the trace and on the scan they could see her heart rate and cord flow which was normal but the sonographer still still noted that she didnt see or feel any fetal movements

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TheMammothHunters · 10/02/2019 17:20

Have they offered to admit you for continuous monitoring OP?
If not take your paper notes and get your DH to drive you to another hospital now, tonight OP.

RandomMess · 10/02/2019 17:21

So the sonographer couldn't detect movements just go to a different hospital, you need the peace of mind Thanks

MaverickSnoopy · 10/02/2019 17:25

I felt sick reading this. Sorry I have nothing helpful to add. You've had some good advice here.

  • Write down key questions from this thread and read them to every medical professional
  • Don't be scared about citing their stillbirth stats to them
  • Contact your equivalent of PALS (I contacted PALS re not being listened to over a maternity issue and they sorted everything out very quickly)
  • Get others to advocate for you as much as you can to relieve your stress levels
  • Get yourself to another hospital asap - I don't trust the people you have seen so far
MynameisJune · 10/02/2019 17:29

I’m sorry to be harsh but why the fuck are you carrying on at a MU that has such an appalling rate of still births?

If you are so worried I wouldn’t even wait until the morning, I would be heading to a different hospital tonight and I wouldn’t leave without reassurance as to why this is happening or a plan to deliver baby asap.

I know how terrifying it is, I had it with DD as a first time mum but you have to stand up for yourself. Sometimes your instinct is all you have to go on.

chocolatebuttonsandcheese · 10/02/2019 17:31

Get to a hospital now, beg quick and scream if you have to and ask for a second, third and forth opinion. Your instinct is all you have.

TheMammothHunters · 10/02/2019 17:34

Thing is, if your instinct is right and they are wrong you risk your baby.
If your instinct is wrong and they are right, you risk looking like a bit of a fusspot.
I’d rather be a fusspot!

AndItStillSaidFourOfTwo · 10/02/2019 17:37

Instinct isn't always an infallible guide, but in this case something has clearly changed and this needs getting to the bottom of properly. A reduction/cessation of fetal movements and no movement seen on the scan needs looking at properly, whether the heart trace is OK or no, and so close to term I think tbh I would be pushing for delivery (in general, early term babies may do a bit less well than full term, all other things being equal - but they aren't in this case, plus you have just had sepsis), and I am astonished that your hospital is being so dismissive about this. IIWY I would be on the way to another hospital now.

beyondhelpful · 10/02/2019 17:39

I would just present at another hospital.

Your a nurse, you know how it works. No way would I book myself in at a hospital on red for stillbirths. Having worked at various hospitals over the years, these places are red for a very good reason.

Clinically you've every reason to be worried and you know it, which is why your a nervous wreck. I've Ben a nurse for a long time but found it difficult to advocate for myself in pregnancy and after birth. You're just not usual self.

Get a second opinion at a different hospital and put your mind at rest.

ButtMuncher · 10/02/2019 17:54

Please get seen by another hospital. Trust your instincts. I had repeated reduced movement with my son, and zero pattern with him that I could determine so to an extent I was comforted by the advice they gave. I was induced at 37+5 due to reduced movements which I pushed and pushed for. My son was just very high up and my abdominal muscle was cushioning a lot of movement, but it could have easily been something worse.

Thinking of you darling. I would also be looking to get all consultants and midwives names, and report your concerns to PALS. You've been seriously unwell and have very real concerns.

Adviceplease1234 · 10/02/2019 17:57

Please please please go to a different hospital for a second opinion. They way you are being treated is unacceptable. If you baby is in distress you need help now.

I was in a different situation to you but I went to a different hospital for a second opinion in one of my pregnancies and they were fantastic. I had all the signs off an ectopic pregnancy but my local EPU refused to scan me and told me to wait and see. Luckily I listened to my instinct as I was right and got brilliant care at a different hospital.

You need to advocate for your baby. I'm so sorry you are going through this but you could have your baby safely in your arms soon if you get the help you need.

loveskaka · 10/02/2019 18:16

Please listen to ur mummy senses! I had my boy at 33.3 weeks he was in intensive care for 1week then put us in the room in suite to wait for him to have a full day off feeding them we where to go home. on the first night he was breathing funny and snorting, the nurses kept saying he was fine, just a snorting baby. I am a first time mum and look a lot younger than I am (28) look about 17/18, I felt like they where robbing me off but I was persistent and kept asking them to check him, I ended up in tears and they said they would put him on the oxygen machine to show me he was ok, straight away it started alarming (oxygens ment to be 97or above) my ds oxygen was in the 70s! 'Oh let the machine settle' they said. Nope it stayed at low!. He needed oxygen for another 3 weeks after that! I dnt want to think about what could have happened if I took my ds home!. He's now a healthy 14month old. Dnt hold back when it comes to ur baby . X

TildaTurnip · 10/02/2019 18:21

I went in for repeated reduced movements and then refused to go home and they induced me at 37 weeks. I’m so sorry that they’re ignoring you and not going by guidelines. Would Tommy’s be able to support you if you contacted them?

donajimena · 10/02/2019 18:29

I'm so angry on your behalf OP. Please go to Glasgow. Can you go now? You will drive yourself bananas and this is absolutely justified.

youaremyrain · 10/02/2019 19:02

Please go to another hospital

MillieMoodle · 10/02/2019 19:04

Please please go to another hospital and get checked out there. As a PP said, your instinct is all you have at the moment. You know when something is not right.

I would rather be seen as a neurotic mother with anxiety than have a lifetime of 'what ifs'. It sounds harsh I know, but it has served me well on more than one occasion.

Wishing you all the very best OP Thanks

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