Christmas Facebook Announcement?

[Siannybobs]

Or is that cringe?!
I'm 14w4d, we've been telling people face to face since the 12w scan, so we have got round to all close family and there has been a lot of love . Should I do a Facebook post with DH, scan pic and me in front of the tree? I'd like to for sharing the excitement with friends but I do understand it's a cliche.
Ooo I'm in two minds.

It’s cringey whenever and however you announce it IMO.

I would announce today OP, sounds like a lovely idea.

X

Very tacky and the scan picture is too private to share. I'm childless and on my own today. If one of my friends did that is think they were rubbing my face in it.

I don't think it's tacky or cringe at all and I'm in camp "Do It".

So many women have losses, so many couples have infertility problems, but does that mean that you shouldn't celebrate your happiness because of them? Absolutely not. That may sound insensitive of me but I think it's actually insensitive that those of us who have tried and wanted for so long are shamed in to thinking sharing our news is not acceptable.

Those women with problems will still have problems if you share in two days, or two weeks. It makes no difference.

I say go ahead.

Do it OP.

Have a lovely christmas and congratulations on your pregnancy.

I say go for it, @Siannybobs - and I'm speaking as a childless woman who has had multiple failed rounds of IVF and miscarriages. I find Christmas particularly difficult but I would never want to dampen someone else's joy. It's wonderful news and you're allowed to celebrate.

Some people will think it’s “tacky”, some will think it’s lovely. It’s your facebook page OP so do whatever you want. Life’s too short to worry about what other people think all the time. It is hard when you have losses but it’s also part of life and at least with a facebook announcement people don’t have to try and act happy as they do when it’s announced face-to-face.

I posted my pregnancy announcement with a scan picture - I’d never begrudged others their happiness and I waited a long time for mine so I was defermined to get excited and make the most of it. I always felt that a true friend would be happy for me and if anyone was that bothered or thought it was “cringy” then they were quite welcome to unfollow or defriend me.

I also don’t get why it’s fine to announce an engagement, post engagement photos, post endlessly about wedding prep, post hen night photos and wedding photos all for an event that not all your facebook friends are even going to be invited to... but a single pregnancy announcement and scan photo is considered (on Mumsnet at least) to be tacky.

It’s your facebook page OP so do whatever you want. Life’s too short to worry about what other people think

But the sole reason she would be posting it is PRECISELY to get reactions/thoughts from other people?

OP Please don't live your life to please others. I found out 2 days ago at 34+3 that my rainbow baby girl has passed away inside me, and if I saw a pregnancy announcement, it'd make me sad, but I don't live my life tiptoeing around others, so I don't expect others to consider me in every little thing. Make your announcement, and relish the joy of being pregnant. Congratulations and good luck!

I also don’t get why it’s fine to announce an engagement, post engagement photos, post endlessly about wedding prep, post hen night photos and wedding photos all for an event that not all your facebook friends are even going to be invited to...

I’m not sure people really think that is ok..

I personally find it tacky when people do that, especially at Christmas. Double Especially when there is a scan photo. Really oversharing and odd.

It's great that you personally felt happy for others while TTC, but not everyone experiences infertility in the same way. You know from the responses here that your happy news could be really upsetting for other people, so I'm not sure why you would want your own good fortune clouded with the knowledge that you probably made someone else feel crappy at Christmas.

Congratulations though! Enjoy your happy news.

I’d post it. Life is far too short too tiptoe around people who may or may not be having issues. Like a previous poster said they’d have those issues on any day of the year and If they don’t want to see announcements they should stay off social media. Congratulations!

God, I cannot stand the whole snowflake culture we've adopted.

@TokenGinger

This is the first generation where people are obsessed with posting everything on social media and where everything is about self promotion and narcissism. Previous generations were raised with the thought that a bit of privacy and modesty (ie not boasting) was what was expected.

I don’t think this is a snowflake thing.

Love to you, irony

I never announced my pregnancies on FB. Everyone that I wanted to know was told in person.

It’s incredibly cringe OP, particularly if you include the photo!

I’m sure you’d get lots of congrats and attention if that’s what you’re after but do bear in mind that there’s a difference between begrudging other people happiness and feeling genuine devastation at your own fertility problems.

jillscarlet thank you!

so many people on here thinking it's cringe to announce a pregancy in Facebook, I bet half of you that are saying it's cringe has done this or something similar in the past! First day of school, goes on Facebook. New job, goes on Facebook. Marriage, engagement, holidays goes on Facebook.

What's the point in Facebook if your not going to post on Facebook? Or do you all just enjoy looking down your nose at people that do post on Facebook scrolling in silence?

It's not a generation thing as I have a range of ages on my FB posting a wide range of things. Seriously it's a bit of fun, if you know your friends list and have private settings on where's the harm?

On Facebook, not in opps!

During my own journey I really kept the strong belief that other couples fertility did not affect mine and I never begrudged anyone else's happier outcomes.

I feel the same, but a) they are tacky and b) not everyone feels the same.

Personally, I don't mention it on social media until after the anomaly scan and then it's not an 'announcement'

I say do it.
Its your news, your time, your happy memories.
If they really are friends theyll be happy for you (and judge you behind closed doors 😂😂)

You cant stop life from happening.
Your journey is moving forward.
Go with it

Go-ahead OP. It's lovely news. I have had losses, including a twin in my current pregnancy and two previous MC, but that doesn't prevent me being happy for my friends good news!

^This. Life goes on. You can’t stop other people getting offended.

**Sallygoroundthemoon

Very tacky and the scan picture is too private to share. I'm childless and on my own today. If one of my friends did that is think they were rubbing my face in it.**

^What???? So others can’t celebrate their good news because you are single and childless? Stop being so bitter.

Two people on my Facebook (ex NCT associates of mine) announced on Christmas Day complete with scan picture and older child in the picture. Am wondering if one of them is the OP!

Go for it it’s such a blessing and great news. It’s not insensitive at all - it’s a miracle and and happy news that brings a lot of joy. I know when I shared it there was people I know who have had losses but to envy or begrudge someone else’s happiness and joy in any scenario is the other person’s issue not yours. It’s not boastful news or bragging it’s simply something you’re happy about. Enjoy it whateve you decide & hope you had a lovely Christmas :)