Christmas Facebook Announcement?

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Or is that cringe?!
I'm 14w4d, we've been telling people face to face since the 12w scan, so we have got round to all close family and there has been a lot of love . Should I do a Facebook post with DH, scan pic and me in front of the tree? I'd like to for sharing the excitement with friends but I do understand it's a cliche.
Ooo I'm in two minds.

Personally having had 2 mcs and a still birth I prefer to see a general message to everyone than be told personally so I can deal with it alone rather than hacing to put on instant brave face. By the time I see the person already knowing makes it easier to be happy for them when I see them. I never begrudge other people's happy news.

Nothing wrong with a next year there'll be an extra stocking to hang post.

I wouldn't. I do think it is very upsetting for anyone struggling to conceive. Why risk making someone's Christmas even more difficult?

(Congratulations though!)

I'm at the same point as you and going to wait til around New Year. Partly as a number of people I have on there that I don't see often still friends have had losses around this time or recently. I will put something up though as I've moved area but still in touch with a lot of people, just not regularly. I also have a group of friends through hobbies that I won't see during the winter so don't want to turn up to something in March going "ooh surprise, never got round to telling you!" I don't find it cringe as such but I must admit I was impressed with some friends that didn't say anything on FB til baby arrived!

Other people's losses and trying to convince isn't the OPs fault, she's happy and wants to share her news. No offence intended.

Personally I'm under the EPU at the mo for a pregnancy of unknown location, not a viable pregnancy, if my friends announced today or any other day for that matter (which they have done) I'll be congratulating them with a big smile on my face, their news is still happy news, it's fantastic that my friends can have something so precious and I don't know what journey they have been on to get to that point.

Go for it Op, if that's what you want to do and you excited get 2 champagne glasses, fill one with orange juice in front of the tree the lot! Merry Christmas and Congratulations xxxxx

I would post it. I hate this snowflake generation where someone might be offended or hurt so we can’t say something. It’s a happy day, it’s happy news. And you aren’t responsible for other people’s greif.

And before anyone jumps on me. I am spending Christmas minus a daughter as shes no longer with us. Am I sad? Yes. Is that everyone else’s fault? Do I need to project sadness on the world or anyone else who is happy. No. Congratulations OP x

Personally I wouldn't do it but it's up to you. I try to keep pregnancy stuff off Facebook as to me it feels like counting your chickens, if that makes sense (losses too.) I'm 35 weeks now and I don't think some of my Facebook friends know but that's fine as my actual friends do. I am not going to post any pictures etc until he actually arrives safely. But if your feeling optimistic it's totally your call obviously!

Bloody hell - you're

It’s a no vote from me. Very tacky.

@flugelhorn811 ... ok perhaps 'need' is the wrong choice of words and should have used 'will'.. I meant eventually people will know you have a baby... be when it arrives and eventually is mentioned or when obviously pregnant.

OP you will never get it right for everyone. what would you like to do? personally I would miss Christmas day. I didn't put on Facebook till very very obvious in "real life" & majority knew.. ie 30 weeks plus but even then good friends/ work colleagues had known for years in Asia and africa weren't aware as hadn't come up in work communication but then understood why I wasn't traveling to them as normal!
enjoy your pregnancy!

We had fertility treatment. My personal rule is yes to announcing (I always felt worst/blindsided by a surprise heavily pregnant or new baby photo) but no to the photo (it’s unnecessary and that bit of pain too far). I also wouldn’t announce today, Christmas is already so hard if you’re infertile or have had losses.

But it’s up to you

I didn't do an announcement personally (especially early on), as I think scans are personal and I didn't want everyone to know too soon. Later in my pregnancy I posted pics of me sightseeing and you could see my bump so I guess that's how a lot of my acquaintances found out.

I don't like the reasoning behind not posting in case you upset others who are trying unsuccessfully though? With that same reasoning, engagements, marriages, births, good news shouldn't be celebrated online in case you upset somebody?

If you are the kind of person who posts things like that then you should post. Yes others might get upset, but how can you control that?

Not tacky at all I've suffered losses and I'm always happy for those who are pregnant as I know just how tough it can be.

And you know what at the end of the day who cares if it's tacky or not bloody enjoy it every single second

I think the cringe factor rests on how much you use Facebook the rest of the time. We didn't announce because we barely use it, so it would have been weird to. Other people I know use it as a main form of communication with friends and family (especially as one half of the couple is Polish so her family are abroad) so it made sense to announce to those seen less regularly. They loved coming up with creative ways and enjoyed it so good for them. Agree with PP - this pg took us a while and we had losses on the way. Hearing other people's good news reminds you of what you are hoping for/what you don't have, and is really shit at the time. However I was never anything less than excited and happy for other people - the two things are separate.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I would really not do this as a Chrtismas announcement. The negative impact it might have on some people far outweighs the positive impact it will have on others. You are happy. Do you really need the entire internet to take time out of whatever they were doing on Christmas (be that celebrating with family or mourning a loss) to validate your happiness?

Tacky and insensitive.

If ypu think it could be a bit cringey then dont do it. I would think its a bit cringe.

Don't do it. I remember my years of infertility and failed IVF cycles and an announcement like that would have had me in tears. Didn't mean I wasn't happy for the couple expecting but it was easier to hear this sort of news when I could be alone to deal with my own grief in private. Christmas Day is not that day. Thank goodness there was no Facebook back when I was going through that awful time. Congratulations to you though

It does feel rather cringe to me, like you are trying to out-Christmas other people.

Will you be upset or annoyed if some people don't see your big announcement and /or don't specifically congratulate you?

If I saw it I'd probably think "oh that's nice" and move on to whatever I was doing next.
(Also scan pictures are always a bit weird because it's just a blur of black and white)

I'm not Facebooking (13 weeks), but I don't post much on Facebook anyway. Plenty of people do and while I find it a bit cringe, it's very much an each to their own and I don't judge for long!

Congratulations and merry Christmas!

Unless your name is Mary of Nazareth maybe leave Christmas Day for the main players?

Announcing your og on Christmas Day is a bit like announcing your engagement at someone else’s wedding

But huge congratulations, enjoy your excitement, it’s about the real experience not social media.

I’d wait until after Christmas. Pain really is magnified at the time of year and it’s not just one pregnancy many people will have to face but lots of announcements, pictures of children and babies in Christmas morning - we’re bombarded and it’s not anyone’s fault, it’s wonderful but it is more of a reminder of how seemingly everyone has what you don’t and may never.

But.

CONGRATULATIONS- it’s wonderful news. Next Christmas will be so special for you with your little one.

I'd wait until after Christmas Day personally. People may be trying to avoid baby news etc. I'd do it tomorrow and I don't think the picture idea is cringe. Congratulations

Do it OP!! Enjoy your moment. It’s personal choice.