Fresh Start thread for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss - 2

[Labmum]

New thread, perhaps might be useful to all post an update of history and where we're at now?

@AnneLovesGilbert, @Paranormalbouquet, @Miami81, @hopefulforourrainbow, @HidCat, @NoCats, @beanhunter, @iswallowtoothpaste, @vuduvu, @whiteonesugar, @wishingoneastar77, @NoParticularPattern

Apologies to anyone I've missed, please tag them and let them know of the new thread.

@looking4hope there are no words. I'm so sorry, I'm devastated for you. Sending you love and hugs

Thank you everyone for the messages and all the support you've provided throughout this pregnancy. The induction started at 5pm yesterday and I delivered our baby boy this morning. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, both physically and emotionally. I'm still in the hospital, devastated and shattered as I haven't slept for two nights in a row. I won't be posting here anymore, but I'll be keeping all of you in my thoughts and hoping that you'll get your healthy, happy and bouncy babies. You're all amazing and truly deserve a happy ending. All the best!

moonpeace If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a private message. I'll also be looking into doing as many investigations as I can.

You’re so brave @looking4hope Sending you all my love tonight ❤️

How are you doing this week @Paranormalbouquet? Hope you're getting some rest and baby is safely chilling inside.

I massively overdid it yesterday, walked miles lugging my laptop and got a very achy belly and hip so wfh today and trying to do as little as possible. Still not sleeping well and having insane dreams but feel slightly manic rather than shattered. Had good news on my work situ which has helped me relax a bit. Very lucky they're flexible about wfh and I'm getting lots done from my sofa in my PJs. Also got a gorgeous dress off eBay for a fiver which is treat as I'be grown out of most things.

How is everyone?

Thinking of you @looking4hope, one more star in the sky .

@moonpeace thinking of you too. Take care lovely. Good luck with your investigations. I've read your thread but as I fell whilst waiting for investigations I can't really add anything of use. Hot water bottles, chocolate and crappy box sets on the sofa. I found counselling helped me massively too and I joined the WI which helped me massively to reclaim a bit of "me time".

@paranormal is it your section date tomorrow? I can't believe how quickly that's come round!

@Anne glad you are having a quieter day, your body was obviously telling you you needed it! I'm glad the work situation has resolved itself, one less thing to worry about.

All is well here. I'm getting a bit sick of the "when are you due?" comments and then the shocked looks when I say another 2 months. Some cheeky buggers even follow it up with an "oh, you're big aren't you?!". My self esteem is really taking a battering as DS has taken to telling me I have a big bottom too (its possibly because he has a habit of standing too close when I'm doing something and then I accidentally knock him over with my bum when I bend down !).
Anyways got lots of Christmas festivities coming up and 31 week midwife appointment next week and picking up my new car at the weekend which is quite exciting as mine is 12 years old and not very big for fitting 2 kids and a dog into! Then I finish for Christmas on the 21st and wont be back at work until 2020 which is a bit surreal!

Congrats on the car @Labmum! Very exciting. I have an old banger, still need to pass my fucking test.... Practising loads and hoping I get it done in time.

I can relate to the comments. Arrived at a meeting yesterday to a "my god, you've got MASSIVE, it wasn't that big last week was it?!" Um, no, it's growing, which is good news thanks very much, and my brain still works the same as it did last week I just smiled and said yes, right shall we crack on? But I love my bump. Even when it aches and I groan turning over in bed and it's bruised from jabbing. Never thought I'd ever get this far and it's moving so much more which is so reassuring.

I'm sure you look gorgeous. Tell DS a big bum keeps you warm and makes it comfy sitting down! Are you feeling well?

What happens at the 31 week one? Try and take it easy while juggling festive fun.

@Anne they are heard earned bumps aren't they and super precious so she can make my bum and bump as big as she likes, as long as she's healthy I don't care about what I look like!

I don't think much really happens but I've not seen her since 21 weeks. Guessing just wee dip stick, bump measure, doppler and blood pressure. I'm going to ask her about testing for GBS as I was positive last time so I'm hoping they'll do it on the NHS this time but if not I'll pay private again. Needs to be done at 35 weeks ish and not sure I'll see her again before then otherwise.

Thinking of you @looking ❤
I feel like crap today. Was really sick this morning and I'm so tired. I thought I should be feeling better not worse!
Aww your bumps sound lovely! Mine is growing. I can't wait to start feeling movements and look pregnant rather than fat!

Looking thinking of you too.

Congrats on all the bumps!

Sorry for being so quiet. Ended up having booody show and contractions on Monday (37+3)? night so went in. Everything settled so I waited and had steroids over the next 24 hours.

Contractions ramped up Wednesday so ended up insisting on section ASAP. Had to really push but glad I did as uterus had started to rupture, lost my stitch and a lot of blood.

BUT all was repaired (apart from stitch) and I have a lovely baby girl, who has not let me sleep a wink since she arrived. Got home last night as wanted to rest at home. Can’t believe we finally got our baby to take home!

Oh @Paranormalbouquet what amazing news. I'm sorry it was all a bit traumatic by the sounds of things, but wishing you a speedy recovery and a very settled baby, once she gets used to the outside.

Oh wow @para huge congratulations on the birth of your baby girl! So happy for you. Hope you're recovering well and she lets you get some sleep. Sending lots of love 💕

Congratulations @paranormalbouquet, lovely news! Your little lady obviously did not want to wait another 2 days to meet you, well done for pushing the hospital for your section.

Wishing you a speedy recovery and some rest soon, its crazy though as even when they're asleep you end up just staring at them for ages rather than getting sleep yourself!

Would love to know what you called her if you don't mind sharing it?

Much love to all of you

Thanks all, it wasn’t as dramatic as it sounds. Just glad I insisted it be done as my contractions were not very painful and team kept saying must be Braxton Hicks, but they felt exactly like my previous labour pains which were also not very painful. So uterus was just starting to tear but was repaired easily- later on would have put me and baby in trouble. Name is pretty unusual here Labmum (though common in Ireland!) but PM if you are interested!

@Paranormal massive congratulations on the Beth of your baby girl. I hope you’re recovering well xxx

Oh my goodness @Paranormalbouquet congratulations!!!!!!!!! A beautiful baby girl and you’re both doing okay. The very best news, I’m so delighted for you xxx

How are you doing @CurlyTwirlyTwos? Haven't heard from you in a while and have been thinking of you. Hope you're well.
Hows everyone else doing? I think I need to think about shopping for maternity clothes. Only 14 weeks today and hardly anything fits! Any recommendations on where to look? I have short legs which makes it more difficult!

@hopeful I'm also a shorty, Next have some maternity petite length jeans which I live in. My other tip is maternity leggings! They are so comfy and you can wear them under dresses which depending on the style you might fit into for a while longer.

14 weeks hopeful! That’s fantastic! How are you doing? Off the cyclo now? I’m on my last two days on it, so bored of it now.

I’m short with short legs. Got two pairs of jeans, one over bump, one under from new look and a lovely warm winter coat from new look as well. Was going to get one off eBay as won’t be in it long but it was actually cheaper new in their sale.

eBay has come up absolute trumps for dresses, I got two this week for a fiver each. They’ve barely been worn and are gorgeous. I usually wear dresses for work, have no skirts at all atm but dresses and Matalan normal small tights have plenty of stretch and go up straight over the bump. I need leggings recommendations! Where’s good?

My normal pjs are still fine, I’m layering long length vest tops I already had under everything. You must have a uniform for work? I have to posh up for work a couple of times a week so ended up buying a nice lace jacket from normal matalan range as something pretty to stick over a stretchy tube type dress. For a total short arse I’m not struggling with the length of things for a change. Dresses are getting shorter by the week so I’m glad they were knee length or just longer to start with.

I also got some cheap comfy sleeping bras off amazon. And daytime bras from figleaves which are now driving me mental but there are days when they’re not as bad! They have loads of discounts off and on, worth a look.

We’ve had second hypnobirthing class tonight. Really enjoying it! It’s mostly common sense but she’s lovely and it’s helping me with my anxiety and giving DH stuff he can think about in a positive way. After awful birth of my DSC and my several traumatic mcs he’s really found it useful to have specific things he can hopefully help with.

Next scan is in a week, starting to feel a bit impatient for it but getting regular movements throughout the day now which helps so much. Honestly couldn’t imagine it before and it took forever to get really get going!

How’s things lab? Feeling okay and things going alright?

Thanks ladies. I'll have a look in next. I thought I'd be better trying things on but short length in maternity seems to only be available online. I'm trying to put off buying bras for as long as possible so I don't have to buy twice! I've been living in leggings and tunic style tops but getting fed up wearing the same things all the time. I have my work Xmas lunch today so hoping I can get in to a dress I already have! Yes I'm quite lucky in that I have a uniform so don't have to worry about work clothes. My friend got a lot of work dresses from boohoo. Yes @anne, I'm off the cyclogest. I stopped the day of my last scan after the consultant said it probably hasn't done anything anyway! I don't really know much about hypnobirthing. Will have a read. How many weeks are you both now?

Hi @hopefulforarainbow - it sounds like everything is going great!

I saw the mention in my email this morning, and I’ve hesitated in responding.

After a really long 1st trimester (with positive scans at 6 and 8 weeks). I’ve hunkered down and been waited for the 12 week mark.

I had 12 week scan on Friday only to get bad news. Baby has condition called Acrainia - which is the most severe form of spina bifida. Termination is booked for Friday, when I’ll be just past 13 weeks. I’m still pregnant at the moment, and feeling it.

I’m devasted, but they tell me there’s nothing I could have done, as I was taking folic acid. It would have always happened - but I feel like I’ve done something wrong.

I’m so heartbroken, I feel like something is telling to stop trying to have a second child. I might have had my miracle baby already.

I’ve not kept up with the thread, but everyone sounds like they are getting on well, skimmed about hypnobirthing and mat clothes! Enjoy every moment - it’s been tough road getting there for everyone on this thread!

I’m not sure if it’s for me now, and there’s some reflection about what the future is going to look like.

@hopefulforrainbow @annelovesgilbert @labmum and @miami81 (I’ve remembered your tags) you have all been so supportive, and kind along with way (I was starting to lose my shit). It’s the first time I’ve dipped my toe into online forums.

Good luck everyone xxxx

Oh god @CurlyTwirlyTwos. I'm feeling quite emotional reading this. I'm so so sorry. Really don't know what to say. Please remember we're here for you and feel free to pm if you're looking for someone to speak openly to. That's the beauty of these forums. Nobody knows who we are so we can speak openly. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Wish there was more I can do. It feels like we've been through a lot together ❤ xxxx

@CurlyTwirlyTwos, devastated for you. I really am so, so sorry. Life is so very cruel and unfair. Can’t imagine how you’re feeling.

Oh @CurlyTwirlyTwos that's too cruel and awful. More sorry than I can tell you to hear this heartbreaking news

I hate the thought of people going through terrible things and not feeling they can share them, so I'm glad you posted and hope you feel held and supported by our little group. Sending you so much love. Now's not the time to make any big or lasting decisions, just get through each day as it comes and try and look after yourself the best you can. Lean on anyone and everyone for support and care and post anytime you want to. Thinking of you and your baby xxxxx

@CurlyTwirlyTwos I'm so so devastated for you. Life is so unfair! Sending huge hugs your way and virtual cups of tea and biscuits. I'll be thinking of you on Friday and feel free to PM if you need to chat. Take care lovely lady.