Does anyone regret finding out the sex?

[RosiePosies]

Just that really - I wondered if anyone found out the sex of their baby, and then kind of wished they hadn't? I'm totally on the fence about it, and OH would love to know! 20 week scan is in 4 weeks so got ages yet to decide, but thought I'd ask the question : )

No I didn't regret it. I was happy to know and I told everyone.

I have never found out sex and never would. I was tempted but it just never seemed the right thing to do. Most people I know nowadays find out and it’s just not something I like. It’s a personal decision but for me it’s a no no no lol

I found out with my daughter I did an early private scan at 16 weeks for me it made the rest of my pregnancy so much more exciting. Choosing names clothes decorating all of her bed room! X

ME! I had no reason to find out, she was my first child and I really didn't have any preference. I was induced, so was on the day unit for the beginning of my birthing journey along with 5 other women. All but one of us knew the sex. I remember down on the labour ward being such a buzz amongst the midwifes as they waited to find out the sex. Whereas my labour (and bump) was talked about as if she was already near. I didn't name her, as we lost my niece (stillborn full term), and because she had a name it was almost like she had an identity and that we knew her before she arrived. Anyway, still the fact everyone knew she was a girl took the edge off it for me. Second time around I NEEDED to know, I found out very late I was expecting so needed to be prepared. But absolutely no need to know with my first and yes I do regret it. I think it took away the excitement.

No not at all. I loved finding out. I felt closer to DC as they had their names long before they were born and clothes and room was decorated to suit.

I found out privately had a scan then went through a gender reveal and all that jazz. Went on to have it confirmed at nhs scan.

Regret is the wrong word but I wouldn’t find out next time. I’m so happy to be having a little girl and I’ve got beautiful gifts from family and friends at baby shower ect but, I do feel bit glum I didn’t wait. Especially as I didn’t mind and would love either anyway and love the excitement finding out at birth.

It’s up to you but consider long and hard, yellow is under rated these days. 👍🏻💛x

I’ve found out and not regretted it one bit. I don’t understand people who say it takes away the excitement?? Surely the fact you’re welcoming your baby into the world is the most exciting thing, I don’t understand how already knowing the sex distracts from that to be honest. It isn’t really that important in the grand scheme of things the main thing is you’re getting to meet your baby!! Each to their own though! I’d find out again if we ever have a second.

I will add that although we have found out the sex and told people we haven’t actually made a decision on her name. We have a shortlist to pick from when she arrives!

Didn't regret finding out for a second. There is so little in pregnancy that is certain and it's such an out of control time that having one thing you can hold on to is wonderful. I'm looking forward to finding out again with this baby :)

Found out with my first and was thrilled. They couldn't tell with my second and it was really strange not knowing. I felt slightly disconnected compared to first time and as unable to prepare both mentally and materially! Third time we found out and I'm much calmer and happier. For me the surprise is learning who they are not what sex they have but it's a very personal choice.

I think there's so few surprises in life these days that its lovely to find out at the birth. It's not that long to wait in the scheme of things

Was magical having my husband tell me at birth what we had created.. such a beautiful moment.

This time around I needed to have a NIPT and the dr accidentally told me the sex.. was annoyed at first but now I'm excited and can focus on gender specific names and such.

Go with your gut/heart... I would prefer the surprise but that's just me .

I couldn't wait to find out and would definitely find out again if I were to have another. I don't feel that it took anything away from the birth at all.

Didn’t find out with my first, then after 48 hours of back to back labour it felt like a bit of an anti climax when I was told, I was too exhausted to care!
Found out with my second and third and it was fab. Can’t imagine the birth of my baby being any less special just because I know what it’s got between it’s legs to be honest.

I haven’t found out and think the surprise adds a lovely surprise. It’s been fun guessing too. We have no preference and can’t wait to meet our little girl or boy in the next few weeks.

It’s also been quite fun having people guess! Most people think I’m having a boy...my gut feeling is that it’s a girl 🙂

I found out with DD and didn’t regret it at all. We didn’t tell anyone though, it was just me and OH who knew.

I never wanted to find out with any of mine as I wanted the surprise at the birth. I can't understand why anyone would want to know. There's nothing like that wonderful surprise when they say it's a boy or girl.

I never found out with any of mine and I didn't want to.
To me i didn't want to know who I was meeting until they arrived. I felt like if I found out all the excitement would go because you already know whose coming.
I don't understand why people say they need to know to be prepared? Not sure what they can't buy by not finding out the sex though.

You only get to hear your 'it's a boy or it's a girl' once. I don't see much of a difference between if you find while pregnant or at a scan, it's just you wait less time for one than the other. I found out at the scan and had no regrets, if anything it made the whole thing feel more 'real' and I felt more bonded to the baby while I was pregnant.

Yes and no.

At our 20 week scan we were told we were having a girl. Thank god we didn't tell anyone and thankfully I had to have extra growth scans because DS is very much a boy.

So while this time round was a bit stressful, I'd definitely do it again.

Bluelonerose I genuinely don’t get why anyone would think the birth of their child would be any the less exciting because they know what genitalia it has! You’re still meeting a completely new person.
I’ve done it both ways so feel qualified to comment

We didn't want to know and found out accidentally and I wished we hadn't. So my advice would be to have a surprise!

Reading with interest, we have our 20wk scan next Monday! At the moment I'm happy to know, not sure about DH. Just a question for @Iswallowtoothpaste , did you tell your family etc that you knew, but didn't want to share, or did you just tell everyone you didn't know?

Soy I have no idea but I know when other people tell me what they've having I kind of lose interest coz I already know everything so I just didn't want that for myself.
Each to their own though.

I found out because, well it’s not really a surprise, it’s a boy or a girl.. hardly likely it would turn out to be a seahorse

I would definitely decide to find out again in future pregnancies. I think it really helped the baby seem more ‘real’ for DH because he was busy working when I was having all my appointments, but as soon as he knew the sex, he got a lot more excited because he could picture the baby more IYSWIM.

Also, I’ve felt crap for the entire pregnancy so far and having some happy, exciting news as a distraction was a god send.

Now I’m excited to see what he looks like, does he have hair, what colour will it be, will he be big or small, how will he be delivered etc etc.