Does anyone regret finding out the sex?

[RosiePosies]

Just that really - I wondered if anyone found out the sex of their baby, and then kind of wished they hadn't? I'm totally on the fence about it, and OH would love to know! 20 week scan is in 4 weeks so got ages yet to decide, but thought I'd ask the question : )

Ah ok, well I’m not bothered by how excited other people are by my baby being born, just me and DH!
Honestly I just think knowing whether it’s a girl or a boy doesn’t mean you know anything about who your child is going to be.

I've had four dc and I didn't find out the first three.
I found out I was pregnant with dc4 when dc3 was 14 weeks old and I already had GGB. I hoped that dc3 would have a brother to grow up with as they would be so close in age and I already has two girls.
Obviously my main priority was a healthy baby but I didn't want to feel even a tiny bit of disappointment when I gave birth. I didn't mention it to dh as I knew he didn't want to know, I just felt like I needed to know and if I was having a girl I knew I would adore her but I felt like I needed to find out.
I was having extra growth scans as dc3 was huge. Dh didn't come as there were so many so I just asked when I was about 35 weeks. I didn't tell a soul, I confessed all to dh a few weeks after the birth and when I explained he was fine.
In answer to your question it didn't take anything away from the birth it was still as magical getting to meet him as it was when I dint know the sex.

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I am so glad we didn't find out. I ended up having quite a traumatic birth that ended in an emergency c section. They let my husband look over the divide in the operating room and find out the sex and then tell me. Having my husband tell me the sex was absolutely amazing, such a special personal moment in a terrifying couple of hours.

How can it "take away some of the excitement"???! It's the most exciting and nerve wracking day of your life!!!!

I think that's bizarre, tbh. Are people actually saying that they felt some sort of anticlimax on the day they met their child? Just cos they knew the bloody gender?

I didn’t want to know with any of my pregnancies, even my twins which people found odd.

At one of my twin scans the sonographer placed the probe and immediately it was obvious there was a boy in there. I didn’t tell anyone but I felt disappointed that I didn’t get the surprise with his birth.

I knew a lady who said she regretted finding out; she said not knowing gave her something to think about, distract her from ctx during labour. Chose not to find out with the other 4 kids.

I didn't want to know with DC1-2 but found out from scans with the others; I'm a planner & later I didn't want any last minute disappointments.

Definitely not!

Not at all. I’m pregnant with DC4, I found out with all of them except DC3 when I decided to try a ‘surprise’. I was convinced throughout the pregnancy I was having a boy, had a boys name chosen but not really a solid girls name. I couldn’t believe it when she was born! I called her baby for weeks and really struggled to accept she wasn’t the boy I had been expecting. I wasn’t disappointed in any way, I just found it difficult to accept. Didn’t make that mistake this time and found out with a private scan at 16 weeks .

I didn’t want to know my exh did.

I really wished I didn’t know it meant I had some surprise at the end of labour.

I also regretted my 4d scan I didn’t particularly want as it was odd recognising him when he was born .

That said I had a lot of scans and he proudly showed off what he had grown between his legs at every scan so think I would of known if not told

Didn't ask, but it was really obvious during a scan.

Not regret no... But we found out first first and it was so incredibly exciting. Lovely to talk about 'he' when he is born. "What shall we name him. What will he look like " e.t.c.

With my second we didn't find out. It was such and exciting feeling not knowing. Everyone speculating and having guesses. We imagined having both a girl and a boy. It was harder to imagine them. When he was born. I would say it was a little bit of an anti-climax. Not because we were disappointed at all. But it was just this huge excitement all our family and close friends desperately waiting for a text when the the baby was born to find out the sec. So he arrived... Ended up being stuck in theatre for hours being sewn up (complicated c section). I wouldn't say I felt flat. But for some odd reason I cried and cried from an overwhelming sad feeling. I still can't put my finger on why. Perhaps it was all the tension of not knowing the sex? I probably sound hugely dramatic!

I didn't find out with DS1, found out by accident with DS2 and deliberately found out with DD. I can honestly say that finding out or not made absolutely no difference on the day they were born!

Found out with my first. Planned everything perfectly and had a name for her and loads of personalised stuff for her before she was born.

Now 35+6 with DC2 and didn't find out this time, just because we really weren't bothered, it didn't matter. Although I am SO impatient to know now, and much less prepared than I was with DD because I've bought the bare minimum this time round and will buy the rest of the stuff we need when baby is here. Which is affecting my mood slightly because I feel a lot less 'ready' even though it was planned like this.

It's exciting, but frustrating especially if you're a 'plan everything to the finest detail' person like me!

I regretted it with DC1, didn't find out with DC2 and won't find out with DC3.
Was her Dads choice the first time, after that I put my foot down and this time doing it alone so get to choose.

Can’t imagine the birth of my baby being any less special just because I know what it’s got between it’s legs

Exactly this. I got married when pregnant before the 20 week scan, but had been open about finding out the sex when we could. A heavily pregnant guest took me to one side on my wedding day to talk me out of finding out, because otherwise the birth would be less exciting. My sister also told me I’d have no incentive to push if I found out. Utterly ridiculous.

Absolutely not, though can understand people wanting to keep it a surprise.

I don’t regret finding out at all, but I do regret telling my mother, who blabbed it to all and sundry despite me telling her not to. As a result we have ended up just being open about it, which wouldn’t have been our plan really. So if I had my time again I think I would just keep it to me and my partner. If you do choose to find out I would suggest discussing carefully between you whether you want to share it. You can’t untell anyone!

No. I was really keen to find out because I was absolutely convinced I was having a girl first time around and a boy this time, and I was worried I'd get a shock on the big day if I was wrong! (I was right both times!)

I'd consider not finding out if I had a third, just to experience it. If I had a strong feeling about it again though I'd probably have to know!

I found out because, well it’s not really a surprise, it’s a boy or a girl.. hardly likely it would turn out to be a seahorse

This, exactly. It's about as unsurprising as someone holding an object behind their back and it being in gasp either the left or right hand, or flipping a coin that will come down either heads or tails. You may be differently pleased depending on whether it's a boy or girl, or not mind either way, but that it's a boy or girl in itself isn't surprising.

I loved finding out sex of dd. A day I will remember forever as I felt like I just knew and dh was planning everything around his ‘boy’
I remember stopping him before the scan and saying you do realise there’s a chance this one isn’t a boy. I was just so happy I found out. I’d do it again tbh. But my personality isn’t one that could easily not know for that long. I loved planning everything around dd, I loved sharing the news. I’m sure you can still do updates with friends and family without finding out but I was so happy I was having a dd. I’m sure I would have been exactly the same if it was a boy tbh but just felt like I started to get to know her from that scan.

Also helped my dh calm down from 20 weeks as he desperately wanted a ds. Although he would have had to get over it at some point whether we found out or not I suppose.

We found out the sex and I'm glad we did. It really helped make it more real and feel more connected to dd before she was born.

Only downside was PiL didn't want to know so it was hard not to say she/her around them.

You are at risk of people bombarding you with gendered clothes but my friends and family knew me better than to buy a shitload of pink stuff. I'm not anti pink, just not wanting the crazy load of baby pink people go after sometimes. She got some beautiful handmade dresses etc

I'll definitely do it again.

We didn’t want to find out either time (and in fact, where under hospitals whose policies at the time was not to tell).

We found out accidentally the second time as we had a trainee sonographer who lingered for a long time on the groin area while she was measuring the thigh bones! It did take the edge off our excitement a little. We tried to convince each other we could have got it wrong but we knew!

I've found out both times but my mum said she never found it. She said it was the only surprise she had as she had scheduled sections so knew our birthdays beforehand!!