Am I being stupid?

[gemmaaaxxx]

I'm pregnant, i live with my mother in law and partner, my partner is 22. I'm 20. He doesn't work. And I'm not at work due to a broken arm. I'm on universal credit. So only get a little bit a month to live on, I'm assuming his mum claims housing benefits for me. She must do. Yet she wants my money from universal credit, leaving me with £40 to live on, buy myself baby bits, and maternity clothes, and food, and other bits. Am I being stupid by arguing against this? Or does she have a right? Surely she would be saying her son needs to work and help provide (I'm looking for a small job) before I go on maternity leave. Ladies am I being overthinking about this? Because it's starting to bring me down.

It just goes to show the mindset of some people.
I know people with Asperger's, ADHD, Autism list goes on and they are still working, not once using it as an excuse not to.

I've been watching this thread since the start and I'm so glad people haven't pussyfooted around it.
I have no sympathy for anyone involved in the situation apart from that poor baby.

Has your mum already bought a buggy at 5-6 weeks pregnant?

Jesus girl, get out of there. She’s was making you pay £400 a month to live at hers?? That’s extortionate. You’ll pay around that for a 2 bed council house per month! And she won’t let her adult son work more than 16 hours a week because she’s living off his benefit payments- if he works more than 16 hours a week then you loose all benefits. ADHD is not an ‘ilness’, it’s not a reason not to work. The mother is playing you both!!

I’m 21 and pregnant (not planned), my partner is 23 and also has ADHD. We had/ have nothing. He’s got a shitty call centre job so we can get by (literally scrape by). We get no help from the council and we’re struggling like hell to find a place privately because agencies frequently decline our application due to our low income.

You need to go straight to the council and phone their homeless helpline because you can’t stay there (google it under your local council name). You need to tell someone what’s been going on. Go and get help sooner rather than later because trust me it takes ages to find housing in the private sector (and council) if you don’t have a history of sufficient income.

I normally clench my teeth when posters say 'why did you get pregnant with this person?' but in this case I think it's justified... What on earth were you thinking?