Am I being stupid?

[gemmaaaxxx]

I'm pregnant, i live with my mother in law and partner, my partner is 22. I'm 20. He doesn't work. And I'm not at work due to a broken arm. I'm on universal credit. So only get a little bit a month to live on, I'm assuming his mum claims housing benefits for me. She must do. Yet she wants my money from universal credit, leaving me with £40 to live on, buy myself baby bits, and maternity clothes, and food, and other bits. Am I being stupid by arguing against this? Or does she have a right? Surely she would be saying her son needs to work and help provide (I'm looking for a small job) before I go on maternity leave. Ladies am I being overthinking about this? Because it's starting to bring me down.

This is like something from the Jeremy Kyle show! A couple without a place of their own, partner can't won't work and think its a good idea to bring a baby into that situation! What a mess.

Such an excellent use of all our taxes. Urgh.

Exactly toothpaste. My DH has ADHD which requires medication as well as chronic myeloid leukaemia and has barely missed a day's work since the leukaemia diagnosis 4 years ago. He's no martyr, just doing his best for his family.

OP, your DP and his mum are taking the piss.

why would you plan a baby with someone who doesnt work, who wont provide for you, and when you dont work?

More to the point, why would you post about it on mums net?

@Theyprobablywill the OP clearly has no idea how rediculous the whole thing is. It comes across she thought it was a minor civil dispute and wanted to know if she was over reacting...totally oblivious to what a bloody mess it is!

I haven't seen one post I don't agree with apart from the OP's comments.

Typical drains on society. Let's pop out a kid and hope we get a council flat given to us for nothing & live off benefits & expect the tax payers to provide income to support the child. Flea bags.

Bloody hell you need some control in your life!
Get the fuck out of her house she's bleeding you dry. Get a job, get support from the council or your mum and get yourself a home for your baby
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I'm sorry to tell you this but you're an idiot getting pregnant purposefully in your situation - get thenhell out of the 'everyone else pays for me' attitude house it's toxic and so wrong ... earn your life, earn foenyour baby and start living for yourself and not for your boyfriends mother

Good luck with your baby moving forwards - get the PIP (not sure what that is ) sent to you to support your joint baby once it arrives
Good luck but please turn your life around

PIP is personal Independence Payment, it replaces Disability Living Allowance, is not usually awarded for AD HE.

I would say stupid was moving in with a boy who won't leave his mummy and really stupid was when you ditched the condoms.

Hmmm well if you’re on universal credit and pregnant you’re getting £594 a month.. on top of that you’ll be getting vouchers for milk etc for your baby and the sure start maternity grant... that’s a hell of a lot more than what I got as a pregnant student.

But yeah you should be paying some form of keep.

sorry but u sound deluded and nieve. move out if you dont like it. you sound ungrateful!

I have to agree with PP's. His mother can charge what she likes if you are staying in her house and £400 is still a lot cheaper than private rent before bills.
You both chose to have a child so I would be questioning why your bf is not stepping up and sorting an income for you all and ultimately a place to live.

Beggars can't be choosers.

This is such an awful thread. OP, did you really think that this was all a baby deserved or needed? Parents who can't or don't even look after themselves and go through life, hand out.
As you'll be teaching by example, please tell me what the future YOU HAVE CHOSEN for this baby looks like to you.

Did everyone just miss the bit where he gets PIP? So he can't work, not won't. Telling him to get a job isn't a solution here.

Are you coming back @gemmaaaxxx ?

Sorry, but you sound like you have the maturity of a young teen.

How selfish could you be to plan to bring into the world a child with parents who clearly don't support each other, have no money and no house, with a father clearly not ready for that responsibility???

You are extremely selfish. Sort out your life before ruining your kid's.

Can you move in with your mum?

She won't get anymore money for you being there you will be costing her in increased bills which is probably why she's asking. What about living at your parents?

@gemmaaaxxx why isn't your partner working he needs to get off his arse and get a job ! You can't live like this when you have a baby. His mum can't claim money for you when your 20 years old.
A broken arm doesn't last long it's not a reason for you to be out of work long time

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PIP doesn't mean you can't work.

You can work and claim PIP. Your earnings don't affect the payment amount.

I claim PIP and work 40 hours a week. My payment is not affected at all.