I hate being pregnant.

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First of all, I write this title with a pang of guilt as I know some people struggle with infertility and would dream of being in my position. But I just need to put my feelings somewhere.

I am pregnant with my first child. It was completely unplanned. I am nearly 17 weeks. I am suffering badly with the physical symptoms and I have just had enough (I even considered termination early on but decided not to). I feel sick/am sick every day, I have horrible heartburn and acid reflux, my back hurts, my stomach hurts, I can't get comfortable laying down, I'm so tired all the time, I'm constipated, I get horrible headaches. I feel like I still have a hundred years left to go and was really hoping once I hit the second trimester I would feel better. I even had a gender scan on Saturday to try and help me bond with the baby but I still just feel in denial that this is happening. I hate that I'm putting on weight and my body is changing. I'm scared about money and being sleep deprived; I have a few health problems which are worsened by lack of sleep. I have been to the doctors regularly but they can't find an anti-emetic that helps me, and I have been off work for nearly two months. I'm starting to feel tiny movements but this isn't making me feel enamoured with the baby.

Has anyone else felt similar? :(

OP you’re not alone. My first pregnancy was ridiculously bad. It was everything the books don’t tell you to expect but DC1 is 5 now and a delight. It might seem awful right now but it’s weeks, not years, and you’ll have a wonderful mini-you in your arms. It’s worth the pain, I do promise you that, but get your gp on board in case you need extra help. Love to you and bump xx

Thank you OP for your honesty makes me feel less alone. 11/40 today with my first (and likely only) who is much wanted and looked forward to (we needed ovulation induction) but I didn’t expect to feel THIS exhausted, queasy and bloated and was fed guilty about not enjoying first trimester!

I’m only 10 weeks, hating life. Nausea, vomiting, reflux, have to give up my netball and squash, zero sex drive, can’t face food, cooking or going into supermarkets (which I normally love), feel fat, irritable and out of control of my body. Pissed off that there is soooooo much further to go. Only slight silver lining is buying whatever food I can face however extravagant.

to everyone hating it xx

@Noodella18 it really takes over your life doesn't it :'(

So much support on here I love it! I feel the same. 25 weeks with twins and it’s bloody hard 😢 I’ve reduced my working hours hoping it will help me feel better. I go on mat leave at 32 weeks so counting down the weeks. We are all in this together!

Love this thread having been in bed crying in self pity last night. Fed up with the restrictions. DH works so hard in his job he has no energy or desire to do anything evenings or weekends and I can't see how that will change after the birth even though he promises he'll find energy from somewhere He also hasn't given up his ecig despite promising he would when I got a bfp. Add that to feeling fat and ugly and it's pretty miserable

I have found my people 🙌🏻 I'm only 9 + 2 with DC2 and I'm miserable. I feel awful as it's a much wanted pregnancy and we were trying for about ten months so it took a lot longer than when ttc DS which only took 3 so I really was/am over the moon but my god I forgot how much I hate being pregnant. It's not even like I suffer, I've been tired and felt a bit nauseous but nothing extreme. I just hate the restrictions on my life, not that I'm a crazy party animal but I really miss wine - I used to get to go out with DH or friends about twice a month and indulge in wine, gin, cocktails and I honestly loved my grown up time. I know I can still go out and not drink but it's not the same, I get resentful that everyone else can drink and I can't - its childish I know but it's how I feel. Even sharing a bottle with DH on a Friday was something I used to look forward to and enjoy but now I'm in bed by 8.30 most nights and not social at all, just tired and moody. I'm not looking forward to Christmas and New Year's Eve watching the family indulge, think I'll just go to bed early. I'm also going to turn 30 when I'll be 6 months - I don't want to do anything, I'm being childish again. I honestly am happy to be pregnant and really want this baby, I'm obviously anxious and want the 12 week scan to hurry up and go well but I'll be a moody cow in the meantime 😕 pregnancy lasts forever!!

Amen to all of this. Before pregnancy I did yoga everyday and loved it. I thought this would help me with pregnancy but I have such terrible pelvic pain that I can barely do 1 or 2 classes a week. I’m in pain sitting, walking, lying it’s just non stop. I miss feeling full of energy... now I walk at a snails pace and I’m tired after 5 mins. I’m 26 weeks so still 3 months to go... it feels like an age. And people don’t understand that all these changes to your life can have a profound impact on your mental and emotional state... I’m missing my pre-pregnancy life so much. 9 months is a long time!!!!

I hate it to. This is my 4th baby, I haven't enjoyed any of my pregnancys and this has to of been the worst. I'm 35 weeks now and cannot wait for him to be born. Xx

Actually just cried reading this. I don’t feel quite so alone now.

I’m 9 weeks with DC 3, totally unplanned and I think I am still in shock. Both previous pregnancies have been really rubbish but this one seems to be taking it to a new level, that or the fact I have a ten month old to look after too and it’s now the school holidays.

I am having to focus on one day at a time otherwise I genuinely think I’ll have a breakdown. I’ve never felt so weak in so many senses.

I hope today has been a better day for you all

@user1489659822 I meant to say, was having a horrendous time with reflux and got prescribed omeprazole by the doctor. It has helped SO much, would really recommend it.