Due January 2019 (3rd thread)

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Starting a new thread for the January 2019 crew! Newcomers welcome :)

Have a fantastic day today @RiskIt4Biscuit happy wedding day!

@RiskIt4Biscuit happy wedding day! ❤️❤️

I'm massively panicking on this monitoring baby movements... sometimes she is really active and sometimes quiet. I think I might go up to the hospital tonight to get a check on the dopler machine, don't want to feel like I'm overreacting but think I'll feel better if I get checked x

@HolDaws anytime you want to get checked just do it - so much better than just sitting there worrying and it's what their there for!

Also I don't know if there's been some sort of 'National meeting' but it seems everyone I've seen throughout this pregnancy has mentioned the importance of reduced fetal movements (I know this, but constantly mentioned it has had me questioning 'are they concerned!!?) and if they're even slightly reduced to 'come straight in' - has also made me so conscious of them, if she's quiet for a little while I find myself having a panic!

@holdaws get it checked if you are worried. I felt reduced movements and got mine checked and baby woke up as soon as they put the sensors on! The midwives don’t mind and I think they would rather you got it checked out.

@ruthieruthuk just been to see the midwife and she thinks I have a UTI which makes perfect sense now. Got a GP appointment this afternoon to get some antibiotics.

Hi Guys, i seem to have lost this thread for a bit!
I'm 30 + 5 and apart from starting to get a bit uncomfortable, i'm actually feeling really good, fingers crossed it continues!

On the monitoring babies movements, its such a worry isn't it, baby seems to have quiet and active days and on the quiet days i feel like i spend the whole time trying to get him/her to move. My midwife told me there's a big campaign 'count the kicks' going on at the minutes and that's why they are speaking about it so much.

I seem to spend all day worrying about movements @HolDaws.

I wish they could give a better idea of what is normal'ish' for movements. I feel like when you talk to people irl who have had babies they say things like oh god they kicked like a footballer implying all the time and very strongly and how freaky it is when you see their feet hand elbows etc.

Mines just never really been like that. I also have anterior placenta which doesnt help but unless she is high up on my right side i feel like i never feel really strong kicks. It's so scary.

I dont want to rely on the hospital all the time to check so i keep trying to figure out a pattern but i cant even do that. Its really tough and stressful.

Feel exactly the same as you @Rarfy. Also have an anterior placenta and it's impossible to notice any sort of pattern

It's hard isnt it @Kate123cl. Feel like im constantly questioning myself.

I think the best plan of action for me is the cold drink and laying on my side when i am abit worried but even thats hard when at work all day lol!

I just thought I’d try and offer some reassuring words for those worrying about movements.
ANYTIME you feel the need to get checked over is perfectly ok! Please don’t ever feel like your being silly or worrying over nothing no harm is done by being cautious.

However, “count the kicks” is a big campaign at the moment so monitoring of fetal movement is being talked about such a lot. At a certain point in your pregnancy( for me it was 29 weeks) some sort of pattern will become obvious, a pattern isn’t always loads of movements but baby moves roughly around the same time of day or after certain activities. My baby tends to move first thing in the morning, last thing at night and often after I’d eaten a meal but that’s not always. I had a few doubts and lying down on my side or my back after drinking a cold drink usually gets baby going.

I’ve found it’s hard to feel baby move sometimes if I’ve had a busy day so just try to take 10 mins at the end of the day to focus on it.
I will also add that I’ve got an anterior placenta too and sometimes what I feel is flutters like in the early days but it’s still a feeling so it counts.

I do hope this helps some of you that are worrying a lot but do re read the first thing I posted anytime you feel the need to get checked then do so.
Xx

See, seeing it wrote down that someone feels their baby roughly three times a day makes me feel completely reassured. Its this vision that it is all day every day and really powerful.

I know there is no such thing as 'normal' because every baby is different but it helps to hear its not all go like i feel sometimes people make out.

I know the hospital is there and from all the posts on mumsnet i see about reduced movements and monitoring it does really seem like they are always happy to see you which is reassuring. For me its about being realistic, these last few days i probably could have talked myself into monitoring a few times a day and i really dont want to do that.

There’s no set norm you just have to figure out what’s normal for you and your baby.
How many weeks are you @rarfy?

29wks. I tend to get plenty of movement after eating and depending on position of baby u do get good kicks too ones where i have seen my belly move or rested something on it to see that move but quite often i just feel movements rather than kicks.

I get particularly scared as my son was stillborn and surprisingly i still felt him move although admittedly it felt very much like rolls rather than prods / kicks. He died in utero around 24wks but as i still felt movements i never knew until 27wks when it was picked up on a routine scan.

@HolDaws how's movements today? Did you go to the hospital to get checked? Hope everything ok, always best to go in if your worried, even if it's just a tad! You cant beat that reassurance knowing that everything is ok! When I've been in I've always felt like a fraud as as soon as they put me on the monitor baby starts going wild but apparently they can hear their own heartbeat and it send them crazy! Even though I'm pregnant with my 5th I'm always super conscious about movements and will always get checked out if feel she has been quiet, sometimes I will try things before that I know work like eating for example but either way if worried always best to be safe x

@Pelly8 sorry to hear about the UTI, hopefully they will get it all cleared up soon and you will start to feel better! That's good that the hot water bottle is working, I forgot to use mine last night! Will try remember to tonight if it's bothering me..

Baby brain eh, happens to all of us! I'm always getting days mixed up, n the other day I went to Tesco n realised when I got there that I had forgotten my wallet! Luckily I realised before doing the shopping, not the first time I've done it either, lol, did when I went to the local shop the other week too n got to the till and realised no money, talk about embarrassing! She just put the items back and I left feeling completely embarrassed! My mind has gone to mush!!

@rarfy I’m so sorry to hear that it’s no wonder your feeling extra cautious xx

Sorry if I've missed anyone, give me a nudge if I have, almost time to do the school run, I tend to limp across and hope for dear lord that my eldest son of 5yrs is in a good mood, he has a development delay and some behaviour issues so he can be hard work at times, luckily hubby is working from home today so any issues I can just give him a call and he will swing round in the car, it's not far but it feels far when your in constant pain, don't seem too bad today with sciatic nerve but been trying to rest up a bit more and have done today, I'm just feeling heavy and podgy now I'm only 33wks lol so I've still got a fair bit to go 7wks. Bye for now xx

Thanks @harrypotterfan2014. Why i am trying to stay grounded about it all and hearing lots of other womens experiences about movements really helps.

Hi,

I've not been hugely active on this thread but have been reading and wanted to pop back in to say hello to everyone!

31+5 now and after a spell of reduced movements, followed by increased Braxton Hicks, I've now been signed off from work due to stress.

Hoping this helps and the rest of the pregnancy goes smoothly.

Hope everyone else is doing ok xx

Hey ladies. Thanks for all checking in. I started to feel movement again yesterday so reassured myself and didn't go to hospital. Last night I had a bit of blood when I went to the toilet and then again in the night. Spoke to the maternity assessment unit, they said fine don't panic just keep an eye on it. I rang back as didn't feel right and came up anyway, they put me on the monitor and baby went crazy (must be to do with hearing their heart beat or something as she was all over the place!), I felt reassured and then they did an internal exam and lots of blood came out so they are keeping me in overnight to monitor me and they baby. I have placenta previa so they want to be sure. Like the other girls say, my advice would be to anyone reading... go get checked if you are not sure. I'm so glad I came this morning as at least I'm in the right place now x

I think we are all different with movements as our babies are so different, I think it's sensible to keep an eye on it and if unsure come get checked! The midwives have all said... its what we are hear for ❤️❤️

Thank you for your well wishes. We had a really lovely day with a simple ceremony and then went to the pub for lunch and cake with our witnesses. It was exactly what we wanted.

I am still battling my blood pressure. I have a white coat syndrome which my usual midwife is fully aware of, but it seems that doctors and the midwife at the blood pressure clinic seem to ignore somewhat.

The midwife at the blood pressure clinic suggested that I get a blood pressure monitor for home, so I have been monitoring my blood pressure for a few days and it seems to be much lower (still higher than it should be) than when at hospital (around 126/86 at home vs 142/92 at hospital).
I have been prescribed medication, and at a high dose, and I don’t feel comfortable taking it. I have some experience with this type of medication from a few years ago, and it really messed me up - I couldn’t hold a knife and was off work for 3 weeks because of the side effects, and the notes in the box of this medication state that it is only to be used in the first trimester and when starting it, it should be given at a significantly lower dose than what I have been prescribed.

I talked to my usual midwife today, and she was brilliant, and she would try to talk to the midwife at the blood pressure clinic about me as I feel like I’m stuck, anxious about the medication and obviously also worried about the effects of the high blood pressure.

The worrying started getting really bad after a consultant told me that my blood pressure was high and therefore I am definitely getting pre-eclampsia, it is just a matter of when. I have not been able to forget that, and it affects me when going to get my blood pressure checked and it causes me a lot of stress and worry at home.

I obviously will take medication if I have to, but I just feel uncomfortable about it, and I feel so stuck and ignored by the doctors.
I have an appointment at the blood pressure clinic tomorrow, and I am already feeling nervous and worried about it.

@riskit
Take all your home bp readings with you to your appointment. Your home reading is a practically perfect blood pressure so if you can show such a big difference then they may reconsider the medication. Even your hospital reading doesn’t scream high to me, I’d consider it higher than normal but not stupidly high.
Try not to worry that’s going to shoot your bp up I know easier said than done! Sounds like your usuals midwife is lovely and understands you and has hopefully managed to talk to the clinic midwife to clear some things up xxx

Thank you @harry

I will definitely take the readings with me!
I may take the monitor with me as well so the midwife can see/test that it actually works correctly/doesn't measure incorrectly.

I really try not to worry, but it is so incredibly hard. I'm always told to think about something nice, and they give me some time to sit and relax for a bit, but I just cannot distract myself from the situation.

I've been trying with some hypnobirthing methods as well (that are supposed to also work for BP measurements and so on) and there's just no way it's working for me.
Even the BP monitor here at home causes me to get nervous.

I'd really rather have them take blood and give me injections than have my BP measured

I know it’s not the same but I have a huge fear of the dentist. I’ve never been a person who suffers anxiety or panic attacks but I can’t cope with the dentist since a bad experience many years ago. At my current dentist they let me book in then I go and sit on the wall outside because it’s keeps me calmer than sitting in the waiting area, the receptionist just pops her head round the door when I’m being shouted to go in. It’s the only way to get me into the dentist I can’t sit in there waiting it’s too stressful. Perhaps it’s worth asking if you could come to come form or arrangement with the clinic that might just ease your stress levels a bit, whatever you might think works for you x