19 and I can't tell if I'm pregnant, help me please!

[Girlonfire1998]

Hey all, it's my first time on here but I feel like I can get a lot of advice from loads of different people.

So, I'm only 19 years old and not ready for a baby at all, but I haven't been so careful with my boyfriend as I went off my mini pill in April 2018 and we don't use condoms.

The 21st of June 2018 was my last period and it's now the 22nd of August 2018 and still no sign of AF arriving. I have never missed a period before!

I have been gaining weight and gaining a rounder stomach and my boobs are sore, they have also got a bit bigger and I know it's not my PMS because my boobs never hurt! :(

I've been feeling sick for the past few weeks but never vomited and it's not been every day. I've not had any issues with foods or smells and I've had about 4 negative pregnancy tests and I'd taken them all 2 weeks apart.

On the 8th and 9th of August 2018 I had a little spot of blood on my tissue in the morning but nothing since.
So on the 10th August 2018 I went to the doctors.

I had a blood test done and the doctor said everything was normal but I don't feel normal as I've had headaches and been burning up, I've had severe heartburn and I've been on and off cramping since the day my period was supposed to arrive.

Also, at the start of August I had a week where I was super tired and Ive been constipated on and off (sorry for the tmi) but now (22nd August) I'm struggling to sleep and I'm having very weird vivid dreams, some of which are about babies :/

I've never had this happen before and I'm super scared because I know that some women don't find out they are pregnant until there are quite far along and I don't want that to be the case with me if I am.

Please someone, if you've had a similar thing happen to you or if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it x
Sorry for the long message x

Have you done a test?

Have you taken a pregnancy test?

When did you last take a test?
If you have been having sex with no contraception then yes, there’s a chance you’re pregnant.

OP said she had 4 negative tests so I'm guessing she has

Although it does sound like you are... Sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear

I have only taken 4 and the last one I took was last Wednesday and the doctor said it was negative

If your last test was the 10th August when you saw the GP then it would be a good idea to take another.
Have you started using contraception since the symptoms began?

No I haven't been on anything since April

Have you been using a withdrawal method

So you’d like to be pregnant then?

No he just ejaculates in me I'm not exactly carful but nothing can explain how I'm feeling because If I was pregnant I'd be about 8/9 weeks by now

Not particularly, if I am it won't bother me but it's not exactly the best timing

Can you pay for a private ultrasound? Sometimes pregnancies aren't detected on standard tests if there is an issue e.g. Ectopic. Keep going back to the gp for pregnancy tests. Use urine from your first wee of the day (more likely to pick it up)

I have an ultrasound booked for the 28th next week

Firstly you could be pregnant but less pregnant then you think you are eg like less then 5 weeks
Secondly if you don't want a baby use some sort of contraception.
I despair at things like this.

Most of my family have had issues during pregnancies that's another reason I am worried

It would also be a bur weird if you weren't pregnant by this point. If you aren't then get some cibteceotion sorted because you will be soon. If you came off pill because it didn't agree with you try copper coil. I really rate it.

I was planning to change up my contraception and then I missed a period so I thought it best not to go on any until the issue is sorted

I had the coil last year and it wasn't for me, I was just in pain all of the time with it ☹️

First of all if you don’t want a baby sort some kind of contraception out before you do end up pregnant if you aren’t already. And you may not be 8/9 weeks. You could be anything up to that but if you’ve continued to have unprotected sex then you could have fallen pregnant since.

The symptoms may be caused through worry though.

Also does your boyfriend know you aren’t taking your pill?

My boyfriend knows I'm not taking it and he wouldn't mind having a baby anyway but it's just a weird time for me because I start back at my uni in September

If you have had a negative pregnancy test recently you are not 8/9 weeks pregnant. You may possibly be 4/5 weeks but even then it would soon start showing on a pregnancy test.

Those people who never know they are pregnant haven’t taken a pregnancy test!

You might not be mentally ttc but you are physically! If you don't want to be pregnant sort contraception asap.

Stop having unprotected sex and sort some contraception, otherwise if you're not pregnant already you will be eventually.

Stop having unprotected sex. Being sexually active 101.