19 and I can't tell if I'm pregnant, help me please!

[Girlonfire1998]

Hey all, it's my first time on here but I feel like I can get a lot of advice from loads of different people.

So, I'm only 19 years old and not ready for a baby at all, but I haven't been so careful with my boyfriend as I went off my mini pill in April 2018 and we don't use condoms.

The 21st of June 2018 was my last period and it's now the 22nd of August 2018 and still no sign of AF arriving. I have never missed a period before!

I have been gaining weight and gaining a rounder stomach and my boobs are sore, they have also got a bit bigger and I know it's not my PMS because my boobs never hurt! :(

I've been feeling sick for the past few weeks but never vomited and it's not been every day. I've not had any issues with foods or smells and I've had about 4 negative pregnancy tests and I'd taken them all 2 weeks apart.

On the 8th and 9th of August 2018 I had a little spot of blood on my tissue in the morning but nothing since.
So on the 10th August 2018 I went to the doctors.

I had a blood test done and the doctor said everything was normal but I don't feel normal as I've had headaches and been burning up, I've had severe heartburn and I've been on and off cramping since the day my period was supposed to arrive.

Also, at the start of August I had a week where I was super tired and Ive been constipated on and off (sorry for the tmi) but now (22nd August) I'm struggling to sleep and I'm having very weird vivid dreams, some of which are about babies :/

I've never had this happen before and I'm super scared because I know that some women don't find out they are pregnant until there are quite far along and I don't want that to be the case with me if I am.

Please someone, if you've had a similar thing happen to you or if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it x
Sorry for the long message x

You are old enough to be my granddaughter. Don't have sex without protection. Insist the gp looks more closely if you have worrying symptoms that are not explained by pregnancy.

Wow.....
Lesson in birds and the bees use a condom or don't have sex if you don't want to get pregnant.
Go and buy a clear blue first response with digital dating and take the test first pee in the morning. Newsflash you could have conceived in any of that time if not using any form of protection!

You got into uni be a bit smarter in life!

No one is saying you shouldn’t be concerned medically about what is happening. If pregnancy tests are negative and you’re having this type of symptom you should definitely go back to the doctor.

You say you’re “not exactly being careful” - that’s what people say when they’re doing the withdrawal or rhythm method. What you’re doing is trying to conceive. Don’t fuck up uour degree. Does your boyfriend refuse to wear condoms?

What Soy said, what if you're not pregnant and these problems are due to something else but because for some weird and irresponsible reason you've waved off using barrier contraception (condoms) you then end up pregnant even with your 'poor health'
You know you can get pregnant without having a period first don't you? If you have unprotected sex during ovulation before your next period that can mean you get pregnant.

Maybe you should stop having PIV sex whisky you sort yourself out if you can't understand the risks.

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Need some whiskey if this is a true representation of how uneducated teenagers are these days.

It is 2018 right?

Nobody is saying I shouldn't be concerned really, I just get judged in a very bad light and that is not me whatsoever, I came on here for help and instead I get patronised, that's not what I'm here for.
I've understood everything that has been said to me and I take it all into account, we aren't all perfect

Hi Op, I think you should get a test today to see if it's positive you can get them from pound shops if money is tight. The symptoms your describing are very pregnancy sounding. My friend had all these though and no period and has found out she's actually got fertility issues so pregnancy isn't always the case. Take the comments on with a pinch of salt not everyone will see the problem that you are asking for help with, only the circumstances you found yourself in/doing etc. Good luck

OP you freely admitted that you have not been using any contraceptive methods since April so saying that you have been judged in a bad light and that's not you at all is completely false!
It's clearly not patronising if you haven't been using contraception (condoms) whilst having a break from the pill.

But to work out if you have a different medical condition or are in fact pregnant you first need to stop having unprotected sex and then take pregnancy tests as they can still come up negative in early stages.

I've clearly admitted that I'm not using protection (not to be judged) but to ask for advice based on all of these feelings I'm having, as I don't feel good and wanted to know if anybody else had been in the same boat as me.
But then to be told by countless people that I'm:
Childish
Childlike
Or even saying "do they teach kids sex education these days"
Is very patronising to me, you are implying I'm childish and don't know any better.
But I do know a lot of things, I do know I was being risky, I do know that I should have used condoms and I do know that it wasn't responsible of me.
However that's has nothing to really do you what I originally posted...i just got judged...

We aren't all saints

So seeing as you saw a doctor last Wednesday, what did they say? Especially seeing as they’ve booked you in for an ultrasound?!

I’m honestly not sure what you want from us here?! But I echo everyone else - use a condom if you don’t want to be pregnant ffs.

It’s not about saints but you should still be using condoms to ensure if you weren’t pregnant you wouldn’t get pregnant. Your symptoms sound unusual but it’s still no reason to not use condoms. Get your a decent pregnancy test and use it first wee of the morning. You say you don’t want a baby but you’ve not been using condoms since April when you came off your pill, five months ago. I understand you’re young but you’re being really irresponsible. What does your Gp say?

I agree that all of the patronising comments are unnecessary. You knew that having unprotected sex could lead to pregnancy. I don't know why you had unprotected sex when you weren't trying to get pregnant, but what's done is done.

As far as wether or not you're pregnant, I think a scan is the way to go. Although I would also take another test. All of your 'symptoms' could be caused by anxiety/worry. And the dreaming about babies is probably because you're worried you may be pregnant.

Good luck, and I'm sure you know to start using contraception in future.

I’m not going to lecture you as my not using contraception and not pulling out etc is off to university next month.

You may possibly be one of these who doesn’t produce high levels of the pregnancy hormone hence it won’t show early on tests.

Or there may be something else going on that’s causing all the symptoms.

The only way to know for sure is a scan which you have planned. No-one here can tell you either way.

Good luck, I hope you get the result you want.

I don’t believe you had to wait a month to get a new form of contraception. GUM clinics have a drop in every single day where you can obtain and discuss contraception. Even if it was the case, as others have said you really should have used condoms in the interim.

False negatives only really happen if the test is taken too early or incorrectly. Since you have taken four, including ones at the GP’s and they have all been negative- I doubt you are pregnant. Take another test tomorrow morning using the first pee of the day to double check but I doubt it.

Please sort contraception out ASAP. Having a baby won’t stop you attending university but it will make it harder and you have already expressed the fact you do not want a child.

There is always the chance that you are. However, I have been up to 15 days late with no reason. Doc thought maybe stress but I didn't think I was. It could be from your body getting used to coming off the pill, stress. You've done the right thing by going to the doctor. If I were you I'd act like you were preg (no smoking, drinking etc) just to be on the safe side until you find out if you're not. Hopefully you'll get answers from your ultrasound

You're probably pregnant. Those symptoms sound very much like pregnancy, and you're 19, and having unprotected sex. The most simple explanation is usually the correct one.

OP as said earlier go and get a double box of clear blue digital they are about £10-15.

Your symptoms sound like pregnancy the spotting 8/9th could have been embedding, sore boobs, feeling like cramps can be pregnancy stretching pains which are very similar and vivid dreams are also a symptom.

Think about what you would like to do if it is pregnancy, if the answer is to keep it then go buy some folic acid and start taking it now.

Hi OP. I think you need to do a few more tests. Like everyone else has said, just because you may not be several weeks pregnant doesn’t mean you aren’t just 4 weeks pregnant or similar if you’ve not been using condoms for so long. The likelihood is you’re going to end up falling pregnant at some stage if you’re avoiding contraception.
If you discover you’re definitely not, then you GP needs to investigate the symptoms you’re having. Could the bloatedness, acid, feeling sick etc be some sort of food tolerance? I’ve had all those symptoms in the past due to severe acid reflux.
I hope you get sorted. And please use condoms from this day on, it makes no sense for your boyfriend to ejaculate inside you if you’re not TTC.

But OP you are coming across quite childlike- people are only asking you the obvious question, “Why did you go totally protection free”? Condoms are readily available and if you do get caught up in the moment so is the Morning After pill. You have been reckless and taken risks, and that does not make you a bad person but people are well within their rights to question why you have made the choice to continue having unprotected sex

Because I know my own body and I sure know that this isn't normal for me whatsoever

Well obvs you're pregnant. You've been having sex quite happily with no contraception since April, what did you expect?

You're 19, so highly fertile, and having unprotected sex.

If you're not pregnant already (and it does sound as if you probably are), you soon will be.

Meaning to go onto contraception at some point in the future, doesn't act as contraception.

You're so young. Having a baby in your circumstances is really far from ideal. And so, so easy to avoid.

I suspect your boyfriend is averse to wearing condoms, which is the real issue here.

OP as said earlier go and get a double box of clear blue digital they are about £10-15

Do you honestly think that those expensive, supposed to be for fun tests with their 'must need loads of hormone' sensitivity sticks will do a better job than a much cheaper test that picks up more hormone and does a more accurate job is the best choice?

I really wish they were banned those things

Op look at this logically.

Would you rather be (a) pregnant or (b) not pregnant right now?
Would you rather (a) have a baby or (b) not have a baby right now?

If the answer to both is B then use condoms or stop having sex

Exactly - why would a 19YO uni student want to fork out £15 for a pregnancy text, when she could probably get a load of far more reliable tests for a fraction of that price.

Honestly, I think I'm completely out of touch most of the time, but ...