19 and I can't tell if I'm pregnant, help me please!

[Girlonfire1998]

Hey all, it's my first time on here but I feel like I can get a lot of advice from loads of different people.

So, I'm only 19 years old and not ready for a baby at all, but I haven't been so careful with my boyfriend as I went off my mini pill in April 2018 and we don't use condoms.

The 21st of June 2018 was my last period and it's now the 22nd of August 2018 and still no sign of AF arriving. I have never missed a period before!

I have been gaining weight and gaining a rounder stomach and my boobs are sore, they have also got a bit bigger and I know it's not my PMS because my boobs never hurt! :(

I've been feeling sick for the past few weeks but never vomited and it's not been every day. I've not had any issues with foods or smells and I've had about 4 negative pregnancy tests and I'd taken them all 2 weeks apart.

On the 8th and 9th of August 2018 I had a little spot of blood on my tissue in the morning but nothing since.
So on the 10th August 2018 I went to the doctors.

I had a blood test done and the doctor said everything was normal but I don't feel normal as I've had headaches and been burning up, I've had severe heartburn and I've been on and off cramping since the day my period was supposed to arrive.

Also, at the start of August I had a week where I was super tired and Ive been constipated on and off (sorry for the tmi) but now (22nd August) I'm struggling to sleep and I'm having very weird vivid dreams, some of which are about babies :/

I've never had this happen before and I'm super scared because I know that some women don't find out they are pregnant until there are quite far along and I don't want that to be the case with me if I am.

Please someone, if you've had a similar thing happen to you or if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it x
Sorry for the long message x

Write down a list of

Why I want to have a baby now ........

Why I don't want to have a baby now ..........

Snap nap queen

And how many posts are on the pregnancy forum with "is this a positive?!/is this a faint line" discussion?

Given they have first response, it comes up very clearly, can go off low levels and no interpretation is required as it tells you they can make life very simple.
Students can afford £15 it either means sacrificing a night out or a shopping trip.

I financed myself through 2 degrees and used to do student budget advice so pretty with the real world.

At the moment I have a MN banner across bottom of screen...

What to expect when you come off the pill
I assume "get pregnant" is the first one

I didn't make this post to be asked about why I wasn't using protection or about contraception, I just made it to see if anyone else had suffered or knew anyone who suffered in the same situation as me and what the outcomes have been for them in particular.
I came on here thinking everyone would have been nice enough to not judge me on my situation so quickly because you don't know the ins and outs of what happens in my day to day life anyway.
But it no longer matters as I can deal with it all on my own which I should have done in the first place.
Thanks for everything

*@Girlonfire1998 Hopefully you get sorted. Things can happen easily so don’t worry about it! And as you have said several times if your pregnant then it won’t bother you! Not everyone plans pregnancies so I think it’s unfair for people to judge you. Your 19 and your old enough to decide what contraception you want to use or what not to use. Your symptoms do sound like pregnancy symptoms but that’s not to say you are. Loads of people also get negative tests but turns out they actually are pregnant. Good luck for you scan hun and what will be will be. I hope your ok x

I don't know but I hope you get some answers soon.

If you're not pg please consider if you can afford a baby. I had two and they're unbelievably expensive- mostly because having a small baby/child means it's extremely difficult or expensive (or both) to work! I'm sure you'll be a lovely mum one day but there's a lot to live for first.

If you are then I wish you all the best.

if anyone else had suffered or knew anyone who suffered in the same situation as me and what the outcomes have been for them in particular

Yeah, I've felt just the way you describe. The outcome was a baby.

I felt like that and was pregnant. It was a bit of a shock to me as I was 22 and on the pill (I didn't know sickness made it not work dam Catholic school). Hope your scan goes well and you get the answer you want.

Geeze! She came on here for advice not to be given a lecture am sure she is aware she has made a mistake! I'm sure if she was in her 30's people would be more understanding towards her

You sound pregnant but maybe your body isn't back to normal yet after coming off the pill. I would go back the doctors and if you go for a private scan you'll know for sure. If you aren't, still go back the drs to find out what's going on.

I agree that you may well be pregnant, albeit not necessarily as far on as the time you stopped contraception.

I suggest what some others have said, assuming you aren’t wanting to be pregnant, use condoms and test again in a couple of weeks.

Wow you're all so judgey!! She came on for advice you don't all need to repeatedly tell her she's childish, I'm sure she's fully aware of how a baby is made. You all need to get off your high horses and show a bit of support to a young worried woman!
@Girlonfire1998 there is a strong possibility you are pregnant, I was trying to conceive for nearly a year after I stopped my coil before I got pregnant and my periods were all over the place, I thought I had pregnancy symptoms quite a lot but I don't know if I was looking for them and imagining them or if they were hormonal and linked to my crazy periods. My advice would be to keep seeing your gp, get your blood tested and wait for your scan, try not to panic and stress as that can also have an impact on your periods x

OP, I hope you’re going back to your doctor. I agree that some posters have been harsh, but I think most are just concerned about you, especially those who have babies and know only too well impact this would have on your life and your choices.

I asked if your BF refused to wear condoms and you didn’t respond but you said this:
But I do know a lot of things, I do know I was being risky, I do know that I should have used condoms and I do know that it wasn't responsible of me.

You didn’t create this situation on your own. He should have used condoms, not you. You were both being irresponsible. Unfortunately in these situations it’s the woman who bears the brunt of the responsibility when pregnancy happens, but if you are pregnant you both chose not to use contraception, not just you.

I had a lot of weird gynae symptoms when I was at university and ended up diagnosed with endometriosis just before I graduated. If you’re not pregnant, keep on at your GP about the symptoms you’re having.

Although I do agree there is a good chance you're pregnant given your sexual activity...

When I went off hormonal BC my hormones were all over the place. I had 45-50 day cycles and was testing and getting negatives from day 30. I had nausea and sensitivity to smells. Doctors never found anything either. Eventually my cycle went back to normal after maybe 5-6 months and then I got pregnant.

So my advice

• use condoms starting immediately
• test for another month to confirm if you're pregnant or not
• once you have a month of negative tests, get back on a reliable form of BC

If you were on minipill you should be looking at the implant or Depo injection - same hormones but less chance for user error!

If you weren't pregnant at the beginning you could be by now.

Seriously op, imagine someone telling you about a girl you both knock who was surprised to end up pregnant because she hadn't got round to sorting out birth control for many months - you wouldn't think she was stupid?

Grow up now before you are made too!

Grow up now before you are made too!

This^ over and and over.

And I'm being harsh OP because my 19 year old sister was exactly in your situation, in fact, probably is again only 2 months later because she's a bloody idiot. She had to have an abortion - which is no picnic regardless of how at peace you are with your decision - because she made excuses about coming off the pill blah blah blah... none of her excuses excused her not using condoms. She had the abortion in June, 2 weeks ago she had the audacity to ask me to get her a morning after pill, because guess what, even after everything she went through, she still won't get her own contraception or make her equally stupid bf wrap it up!

Having a baby needs more than a 'I don't mind'.

Yes your symptoms are very much pregnancy like - they're also classic coming off the pill/thinking about it way too much and looking for symptoms symptoms

really hope op and 'dont mind' are not pregnant but as they are repeatedly shagging unprotected they probably are. goodbye uni.

the obvious course of action is to return to the doctor for a proper preg test and investigation of symptoms .

op, if you are still there, do that and stop shagging without condoms.

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This is why I think some 19 year olds ARE too young to be having sex. And you get mum's on here saying let your 14 year old get on with it.
If you're going to have sex without contraception and you don't want to get pregnant then you shouldn't be having sex.

Your tests are coming back negative so you probably aren't pregnant

If you're still missing periods etc you need to go to the doctors

However you're continuing to have full sex without protection so statistically at some point in the near future the test will be positive.

So congratulations on trying for a baby (because that's what sex without contraception is if you believe yourself to be fertile) and it might be worth looking into whether you can defer uni for a year to raise baby for 2019/20 and what financial support boyfriend can give

Just go out and buy a pregnancy test today then you will know!