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Original poster

19 and I can't tell if I'm pregnant, help me please!

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Girlonfire1998 · 22/08/2018 15:52

Hey all, it's my first time on here but I feel like I can get a lot of advice from loads of different people.

So, I'm only 19 years old and not ready for a baby at all, but I haven't been so careful with my boyfriend as I went off my mini pill in April 2018 and we don't use condoms.

The 21st of June 2018 was my last period and it's now the 22nd of August 2018 and still no sign of AF arriving. I have never missed a period before!

I have been gaining weight and gaining a rounder stomach and my boobs are sore, they have also got a bit bigger and I know it's not my PMS because my boobs never hurt! :(

I've been feeling sick for the past few weeks but never vomited and it's not been every day. I've not had any issues with foods or smells and I've had about 4 negative pregnancy tests and I'd taken them all 2 weeks apart.

On the 8th and 9th of August 2018 I had a little spot of blood on my tissue in the morning but nothing since.
So on the 10th August 2018 I went to the doctors.

I had a blood test done and the doctor said everything was normal but I don't feel normal as I've had headaches and been burning up, I've had severe heartburn and I've been on and off cramping since the day my period was supposed to arrive.

Also, at the start of August I had a week where I was super tired and Ive been constipated on and off (sorry for the tmi) but now (22nd August) I'm struggling to sleep and I'm having very weird vivid dreams, some of which are about babies :/

I've never had this happen before and I'm super scared because I know that some women don't find out they are pregnant until there are quite far along and I don't want that to be the case with me if I am.

Please someone, if you've had a similar thing happen to you or if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it x
Sorry for the long message x

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Horrordoeurvres · 22/08/2018 16:15

First of all if you don't want a baby in the first place grow up and use contraception, simple as that.

Secondly I would continue to pester the doctors for more answers and tests, especially if they are 100% sure you aren't pregnant as there could be something more serious going on. It does sound like pregnancy symptoms though.

GoodHeavensNoImAChicken · 22/08/2018 16:17

Why would you stop contraception if you don’t want a baby? It’s one of the biggest decisions you could ever make, for goodness sake please think this through

CatPatrol · 22/08/2018 16:18

At best you are 4/5 weeks pregnant which is much too early for most of those symptoms you have listed. It often taken a while for periods to regulate after coming off hormonal contraception.

Have you had a smear? Maybe go back to your doctor and get checked out for anything more concerning going on.

SoyDora · 22/08/2018 16:18

If you’re not using contraception then effectively you are TTC. That’s what TTC is... having sex without contraception.
You’ve had unprotected sex since your negative tests so you could still be pregnant and it just be too early to tell.
You need to start using contraception and take another test in 2 weeks time.

Original poster
Girlonfire1998 · 22/08/2018 16:18

I was on contraception up until April and I wanted to change cuz it wasn't making me feel good but the earliest appointment I could get at the clinic was May and by then I'd had a weird bleed and then missed a period entirely so I'm not going back on it until the issue is resolved

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SoyDora · 22/08/2018 16:20

Well then use condoms in the meantime, as every time you have unprotected sex there is a chance that you will conceive.
Anyway, it’s possible that the symptoms you describe are due to your body adjusting after coming off the pill. I didn’t get a period until 3 months after I came off it.

gnushoes · 22/08/2018 16:24

CONDOMS
Unprotected sex is madness if you're going back to uni in September.
What on earth are you thinking?

CatPatrol · 22/08/2018 16:25

What you describe could be just from coming off the pill or it could be something much worse, which is why I asked if you had had a smear. You would not have the pregnancy symptoms you are describing at this early stage but certain other conditions that need immediate medical treatment could present in the same way. It’s almost certainly pull withdrawal and normal bit don’t rule out cervical or ovarian growths.

gamerchick · 22/08/2018 16:26

OP I dont understand where you're coming from. Everything you're saying would make sense if you were trying to get pregnant. Saying you're not trying doesn't ring true tbh.

Time to grow up a bit, use condoms and stop playing games. You're 19 and old enough to know how babies are made.

badadadada · 22/08/2018 16:35

Jesus wept - get him to wrap it up or don't have sex if you can't/won't use protection! Having a baby isn't something to be so blasé about! You allow him to ejaculate in you knowing you're unprotected, sad face all you want, no sympathy.

Even if you're not pregnant ( sounds like you could be, although your stomach wouldn't be rounding yet) you are obviously hoping to be and are looking out for symptoms.

ifonly4 · 22/08/2018 16:37

If OP is only 4/5 weeks pregnant, she could be getting symptoms. I started feeling sick and had very sore breasts about six days after conception. I took a pregnancy first thing on my due date, but mine came out positive (changed immediately on test).

badadadada · 22/08/2018 16:37

Coming off the pill and waiting for appointments/your body to adjust isn't a good enough excuse. CONDOMS.

UpstartCrow · 22/08/2018 16:38

Lots of different advice isn't helpful. Do you want to go to university, or do you want to be pregnant?

If you want to go to university, use condoms and get fitted for a cap.
If you don't then carry on trying to get pregnant.

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Girlonfire1998 · 22/08/2018 16:46

I'm really not trying to actually because that's not on the agenda and I get what you all say and that I should just contraception so that's why I'm going back on it but I wanted to be sure before hand in case I was and some other bad stuff ended up happening because of it

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Girlonfire1998 · 22/08/2018 16:48

But if it's all because ive came off the mini pill then that's is all good with me, I can't be too sure about these things considering it's never happened before and I've used loads of diff methods of contraception

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SleepFreeZone · 22/08/2018 16:50

Do they still teach sex education in schools?

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Girlonfire1998 · 22/08/2018 16:55

It is my choice what I do and don't decide to do with my own body and yeah Im not exactly careful, but the reason I haven't been using contraception these past few months was in case I was pregnant and something bad happened as my family do have issues in there pregnancies anyway 😕
I appreciate all of the help though

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badadadada · 22/08/2018 16:58

How would your bf using condoms affect any possible pregnancies? Ridiculous excuse.

snoopydogg · 22/08/2018 17:00

Use condoms then until you know you're not pregnant otherwise you're going to be stuck in a vicious cycle of no contraception in case you're pregnant, not knowing if you're pregnant because you're not using contraception and therefore still not using anything just in case.

Eventually you will end up pregnant. 'My boyfriend wouldn't mind one' isn't really a good basis to start a family. Sounds like you need to grow up a bit and start taking responsibility for your own actions.

Opheliasgoldenwine · 22/08/2018 17:01

Hi OP, feel free to message me, I'm close to your age and can understand what you're going through Smile

Westworldmaeve · 22/08/2018 17:06

You sound a bit childlike tbh. Either try to get pregnant or use condoms or other contraception. It's silly to have sex without contraception and then worry anout pregnancy. Be an adult, make a choice and stick to it.

Thinking you might be pregnant is no excuse to not use condoms.

Original poster
Girlonfire1998 · 22/08/2018 17:09

I wasn't using that's as an excuse to not use them, only taking the pill was what I was concerned about and yeah I will use them I never said I wouldn't, I'm not childlike, I just get concerned when strange things are going on that I don't feel is very normal
I'm sure of any of you who were feeling ill or not right, would want a bit of advice as well
Because I know my own body and I sure know that this isn't normal for me whatsoever

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SoyDora · 22/08/2018 17:12

Yes I can completely understand why you wanted advice. However the fact is that every single time you have unprotected sex you could conceive. So you might not be pregnant now, but in a week, or two, or three, you could be. If you don’t want a baby now, use condoms while you’re sorting these issues out.

PlateOfBiscuits · 22/08/2018 17:13

@Girlonfire1998 I think you’re hearing ‘contraception’ and thinking medical contraception (the pill, coil, etc).

But contraception can also be a barrier (eg condoms). If you don’t want to be pregnant you need to start using condoms.

PlateOfBiscuits · 22/08/2018 17:13

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