More Christmas Cake! Pregnancy after loss (thread 3)

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New thread!

It's just bascially constant worry! I've googled everything ever and scared myself pretty much every day! 😣

Hey guys
I think I need to join you ladies
Just got a positive on a frer on Thursday at 10dpo

This will be my 5th pregnancy- 4th since exactly a year ago- I have lost 3 since bank holiday Monday 2017. I have one DD.
I have been on the "TTC after loss" threads since my last MC in March and the ladies there are all wonderful and supportive but now that I have moved to the other side I feel like my anxieties are different and more real now! And I don't want to rub stuff in anyone's face- even tho I loved seeing updates and positive stories....

It's such early days/ I haven't even reached 4 weeks yet! I have never ever found out I was pregnant before my period was at least 3 days late- so this extra early knowledge makes me feel like there's even MORE time for things to go wrong!

I have been diagnosed with very aggressive nk cells and I am on steroids and intralipids and aspirin and progesterone - so crazy. I am much more of a eat herbs and chill kind of girl- so this medicated world is all new to me. But after the horrendous year I have had I am willing to try anything!

My period is due on Tuesday.
Just need to get past that first milestone
And take it day by day

I just need a place to vent / rant / share
DH is a sweetheart but men don't fully understand how all encompassing this can be.... so

Sorry for rant
But that's my intro....

Anyone else super early days?
Any tips on dealing with the worry?
Any things I should / should not do that you can recommend?

@zarala welcome!

That's the down side of early testing

Try not to worry (ironic to say as it's one big worry) but trust the medical people who advised on the medications. I know it's completely against 'the norm' but I am one of those who starts taking pills every morning when pregnant just tell yourself there's a reason and don't look into it to deeply. Most medications used whilst not advertised as 'safe in pregnancy' (none are due to research) often have a long history of use thus the risks are understood (hope that makes sense!).

Wishing you the best of luck - Hopefully Tuesday is here before you know it x x

Welcome @zarala and congratulations! The ladies here are brilliant and have really helped ease my concerns over the last 14 weeks! Like you, my other half is fab, but doesn't quite understand like another woman can.

With regards to worry, I haven't yet found a way to stop that! However I have discovered that setting little milestones has given me focus and something to celebrate. For instance my first milestone was getting to 6 weeks, then 7.5 when I had booked an early scan, then 8 for my booking appointment, then 12 for my his scan and I've just passed my 14 week milestone because this is when placenta takes over. My next will be my 16 week midwife appointment, and same week my meeting with the consultant at the hospital. Seems to make it easier to digest as weekly/two weekly chunks rather than 9 months.

@zarala so good to see you've conceived again. Hopefully this time will be the one and with the cocktail you're taking you should have every chance of a successful pregnancy. I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Taking a day at a time is the best way. Dealing with the anxiety is so difficult but all I can suggest is be open about what you're feeling with your OH and your midwife and anyone else you feel comfortable with.

Welcome zarala congrats and I'm glad you've got a diagnosis and some meds this time. I'm quite good at not worrying because I have a one day at a time approach but then this morning I've just woken up totally sh**ing myself so there you go!

Has anyone heard from cakelaur recently? How are you cake?

Thank you guys
I still can't really believe it
But it's so nice to see all your familiar names and to read about your little bubs happily developing along!

@Patienceofatoddler what pills you popping?? Haha

And yes you're all right- just need to take it one day at a time with bite size milestones...

It's a really fine line between being happy about this pregnancy but trying to remain pragmatic and not get too attached/ excited... at the moment I'm quite robotic about it- trying to stay a little removed....

I have decided I am going to start crocheting and hope that that helps eat my time!

@peachesarenom What made you freak out today? How far along are you?

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

I'm ok now, I think it was just my MIL annoying me.

@zarala I've been on antihistamines from around 8 weeks, a lot of paracetamol for headaches / dizziness, Thyroxine and now low dose Aspirin.

In previous pregnancies I have been on antihistamines and Ursodeoxycholic acid from around 19 weeks til birth.

It's all about weighing up the pros and cons - having faith in your midwife / consultant to support those informed decisions.

Whilst a drug free pregnancy is achievable for some for many it's just not possible (or safe!) x

I've seen cake on the December Fb group.

I am a regular here by the way, just name changed recently!

Oh! Why did you name change MrBull? How can I get on the fb group?

Privacy/security mainly. I do it now and again. Posted quite a few 'outing' things recently and I have a few RL friends/family on here, so thought it was time!

Olga da Polga on the December thread is the main contact for the Fb group, I think. Cakelaur helped me get on though as Olga's dm mailbox was full. There may be some more admins on the fb group now, but post over on the Dec thread and someone should point you in the right direction x

Got my down syndrome Edwards or Patau letter today

My results are
Downsyndrome : 1 in 3003
Edwards or Patau 1 in 44205

It says low risk result
But I am just wondering are these numbers good?

@Alicejj8x those numbers are great as far as I know. I think it's 1 in 150 or there about that is cause for further testing.

@HidCat
Thank you so much x

Has anyone been getting headaches?
I'm 13+5 and I've had a bad headach now since yesterday

@alicejj8x I've had headaches on and off throughout. Sometimes really painful ones as well, and when non pregnant I hardly ever get them. I have had to take paracetamol a few times as I just could not function. Sucks!

@Athers666
Oh bless you. I googled it and it scared me said about pee-eclampsia but think you'd get some other symptoms with it lol

I am on the verge of taking paracetamol now

Yeah I did ask the midwife if I should be worried and I think she said it was common and only call if becomes severe with blurred vision etc. Hope you feel better soon!

@Alicejj8x I've had horrendous headaches / dizziness.

Had 3 weeks signed off work for them in the end as just couldn't function let alone work although they seem to have minimised now - I just take paracetamol and rest as much as I can.

@Patienceofatoddler
Oh bless you :( I hope your okay!!

@Athers666
Thank you for this :)

@Alicejj8x much better now thank you.

Never have heads or time off work so abit frustrated with it all.

Just take paracetamol as you need to - Pregnant woman are prone to headaches. They can be so debilitating

@Patienceofatoddler
Thank you so much

So
Today I am in pain with this headache. Have no paracetamol at work only calpol which says contains paracetamol was wondering if this would be ok to take do you reckon