Did you find out the sex?

[LeonieChi]

Everyone I know who's having a baby at the moment is finding out the sex at the anomaly scan. I don't want to find out for a number of reasons (if people buy gifts we want gender neutral (though not expecting gifts at all of course!), would love DP to tell me the sex at the birth if possible, feel like it'll help me get through labour etc).

I understand why people do find out also and have definitely toyed with the idea. It's going to be hard to say 'no we don't want to know!'

Did you find out the sex of baby/babies? And why did/didn't you?

No I didn't. I much prefer to have a surprise. Some people I know have told everyone the chosen name before the baby is born as well. Much better to give everyone some real news IMO.

No for both. We just liked the idea of a surprise, plus we wanted my partner to tell me what they were when they were born (although when my second came I saw before him and just blurted it out). There’s so much you learn along the way such as due date, heart beat, measurements etc it was nice to keep the sex a mystery. I found once we got passed the anomoly scan the desire to find out went as you no longer had a choice (unless you went private) and you had to wait till the birth. Be strong, you won’t regret it.

Yes I did... reason being, so I could plan things.

@SprayingMonsters out of genuine curiosity, how do you plan differently for a boy or a girl?

I'm having my scan later this week and we want to know! If people want to know we will tell them (potential names too). But no awful gender reveal stuff!
We both want to find out; if only one of us wanted to we wouldn't have done. For us, we hope it will make it seem more real and start to envisage it as a real person (ie not an it!)

No - we didn’t find out with either DC. I didn’t see the point - it wasn’t like I could change it, and I didn’t have a preference either way.

I didn't find out for either baby, and amazingly enough was still able to 'plan things' 🙄

No I didn't, luckily DP didn't want to know either. 1st (very much wanted) baby and I was 39 so probably the only sadly

I was convinced from about half way it was a girl - absolutely convinced. I just knew it was a girl......... His name is Robbie

I will. I want to be able to call it he or she and not it/the baby.

I didn’t for the first and did for the second two. I loved the surprise with my first, but also absolutely loved knowing for the second part of my pregnancy for the other two. Finding out what you are having is a completely amazing and life defining, unforgettable moment no matter when or how you do it.

We haven’t found out for either of ours, we like the surprise

@LeonieChi - clothing/baby accessories etc... ok well I guess I’m just saying “plan” because I’ve had baby boy after baby boy.

Yep. Found out as early as possible. 13 weeks in our case. And we told everyone. Didn't see the point in not saying. We felt like it helped us plan things like picking a name. If we have another we'll do the same.

@SprayingMonsters that's fair enough. We love the idea of not having specific boy/girl stuff. We have bought baby grows with teddies on but also with superhero patches! But in your case if you had lots of specifically boy stuff I can see how it would be much easier to know whether you could use the hand-me-downs or need to buy all new!

Not intentionally, but it was really obvious from the scan.

Nope, and I have to admit I was too amazed by the amount of hair he had and the first cuddle to care what was between his legs. It was only when I was taken off to surgery I remembered to ask if it was a boy or girl.

I did! I couldn't wait to find out what we were having. Made no difference in the planning of things I suppose as there's tonnes of beautiful neutral things out there. I personally just had to know!

Yes I found out
1st I was simply impatient and I wanted to know I also felt like I bonded with the baby more afterwards. Also the name factor
2nd I already had all girl stuff so wanted to know if I needed more things. Also I had several growth scans so no way couldnt not find out say no.

But if I were to have baby no 3 I would consider not finding out for the big reveal

I didn't first time, really wanted the surprise and although DH did want to know, he let it be my call. This time I said we could if he wanted and now we have I feel a bit '...oh well that's over then'. With the lack of surprise. I enjoy all the wondering and imagining - still of course can imagine what she looks like and it is nice to say 'she's moving' etc but if we have another I won't find out again.

I wanted to know so I could get used to the idea and shop.
Believed for years I'd have a boy, no idea why!
But absolutely delighted with my daughter!

I found out. It was still a surprise finding out at 20 weeks just as it would be if I'd waited until she was born!

Nah. I like delayed gratification. And I hate the blue/pink thing so happy to put that off as long as possible.

Also I wanted to name the baby before they were born so it helped to know.

I didnt with my first two and chose to find out a couple of weeks ago with our third. It is absolutely lovely knowing and for us hasnt taken any of the magic away! But not knowing the first two times was wonderful too.
Perhaps i am just easily pleased lol.

@LeonieChi I have bought all new for each baby as they are years apart I couldn’t really see myself using the same clothes/accessories I’ve used for the previous baby, not that there’s anything wrong with it.

Anyway, congratulations 🙂🎊🎉