Arguments over pink pram!

[Summerbaby2018]

So I am either going to get icandy or egg but found out the icandy colour I wanted ( butterscotch) is being discontinued so that's left me stranded I don't want a black pram for a girl as I'm girly myself but my partner refuses to push a pink pram? Has anyone else's partner felt the same or is mine just being an arse as usual about decisions? I wanted to go for this one

But thankyou to the ladies who was helpful and lovely that's all I wanted I am upset about my partners reaction as it is because I feel he is trying to hide the fact he has a daughter but never mind now thankyou everyone

Everything affection said.

FWIW I have a visible-from-space green Cosatto, and if that hadn't been available something else from Cosatto would've been my back-up option!

I'm a girly girl myself and but I feel pink is too in your face so I've gone for black and just bought some pram bows off eBay to make it look girly and blacks a lot easier to keep clean, that is just my opinion everyone is different if you like pink go for it and your partner is probably just being unreasonable as it's just a colour and I'm sure no one will judge him it's for your baby not him

Egg prams come in lots of colours. I've got petrol blue on gun metal chassis. Knew I was having a girl but really liked the colour. Four months in and colour doesn't look grubby at all. I love my egg

I’ve bought a bright pink pram for my soon to be born daughter. My husband will push it because I offered him the chance of input and he left it up to me. You snooze you lose. Mine is more of a fushia colour though, I think pale pink will get dirty quickly. Oh and I had a purple one for my first son

I think he’s being a complete idiot to refuse to push a buggy because it’s pink.

I really wouldn’t get an iCandy though - they are very expensive for what they are (I have twins so several twin mums I know had the iCandy when theirs were born and all of them have since switched to something else after 8 or 9 months of getting annoyed with it). The Egg and the Oyster are both really nice travel systems but if you are looking for something a bit more luxe I’d really recommend the Joolz ones - nearly bought the tandem one for our twins but it was a bit too big for our boot. Their buggies are such gorgeous quality.

At the end of the day, I can’t say I’ve ever given much of a toss about the colour but the weight and steering are what matter most when you’re using them. The tandem we bought first is really heavy and incredibly hard to steer - bought a beaten up second hand side by side for £30 and use it far more often as it’s so light. Definitely try them out in terms of steering, and quick assembly!

As is her DP refusing to push a pink pram because he is a man

You don;t know why that is why he's refusing. He prob just thinks its ugly as fuck

We compromised. We had a bright pink carry cot and then the suit unit was black and now has a bright purple liner. DH however did choose the pink carry cot. If you want it then you go for it.

'Pram bows to make it look girly'

because you can't have a baby girl without covering the poor thing in bows. Nothing like stereotyping from the second they pop into the world.

Why would he be hiding the fact he has a daughter?!! He probably just hates the pink pram! When we looked at prams we both have preferences. I didn’t start to think it was because he was ignoring the gender of the baby or his masculinity. I had my own issues with various colours. Human nature!

Blimey!

Seriously, I hate all this ‘don’t stereotype your newborn’ business. I’m buying it because I like it. If they don’t like it when they’re older and want something else then fine but I enjoy pink, frills and bows. So if I wanna put my kid in it (boy or girl) then I damn well will.

Ubercornsdiscoball- because of the things he says and the way he acts he shows no interest anymore whereas before we found out sex he was looking at boy clothes picking out names ect and now he's not doing any of that? He avoids going shopping and when I show him clothing he's hardly interested and wants to put her in tracksuits everyday as he said he wanted his 'son' to look like

Seriously, I hate all this ‘don’t stereotype your newborn’ business. I’m buying it because I like it. If they don’t like it when they’re older and want something else then fine but I enjoy pink, frills and bows. So if I wanna put my kid in it (boy or girl) then I damn well will

The point is you wouldn't put your boy in pink, frills and bows. And him not buying it because he doesn't like it is valid too.

Steeley113-
THANKYOU bloody hell 😫🙈 it's ridiculous if she decides when she's old enough mummy I don't like pink and bows then alright hunny you dress how your happy but until she can make that decision I dress her how I want? Because being newborn she has no clue what sex she is and how many pink items she's wearing 🤦🏻‍♀️

So is that how it is no a days you have to dress a boy and girl the exact same way because overwise your gender stereotyping 😂 It's a joke I'll dress my daughter in pink untill she's decides it's not for her anymore

Convo over your all doing my head in 😂 Thanks again to those who gave genuin replies and didn't sway from topic 💗

@SnowBusinessLikeSlowBusiness actually, I actively encourage my boys to wear what they want. Unfortunately it’s very much dinosaurs and superhero’s. And I gave my DH an option of what pram he would like and he said I can pick, so I picked what I liked. Both my sons have had what people have classed as ‘girly’ prams because I liked them.

And people still say that “girls are just naturally drawn to pink-nothing to so with stereotyping or conditioning at all.....”

I knew I was having a girl and chose a blue icandy I was mindful also to get a pram and nappy bag that weren't too girly but I would have told DH to get a grip if he actually dared complain.

I love pink but I think a pink pram is tacky. Go for neutral like grey if you don't like black.

@Summerbaby2018 I’m having my first girl after 2 boys and I am enjoying buying all pink and dresses My Mum has told me to enjoy it while it lasts as she’ll soon want to be like her big brothers

He will change his mind when the wee woman comes, we had the same argument over the purple silver cross and he loved pushing it!

If all you say is true then you have bigger issues than the pram and you need to deal with them

OP if DD turns out to be a redhead, you might want to avoid pink and stick to colours that will suit her. Like I said, DS2 wears a fair bit of pink because it suits his blonde/tanned colouring he could totally be a cheerleader

What really grates on me is the fact that, if OP wanted this for her baby boy, she wouldn’t have had half of these comments. IMO, the problem isn’t “pink for girls”, it’s the lack of pink for boys. No colour should only be suitable for one gender. Why should her daughter not have a pink pram? Why should her husband not be prepared to push a pink pram? THAT is the problem. I’ve heard so many people complain about girls playing with dolls and doing ballet etc and not playing with trucks and footballs, but where are all the boys doing ballet? You never here people complain about boys playing with trucks and football. IMO this is the opposite of gender equality.

Fair enough if you don’t like the colour pink. Fair enough if her husband just doesn’t like the colour, but if his reason is anything other than that then yes, he is BU.