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Are pregnancy announcements always twee?

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Didntcomeheretofuckspiders · 10/02/2018 13:00

I remember a friend posting a photo to announce her pregnancy a while ago and finding it a bit twee and silly. It was their work shoes and badges (they both work in public services) and then some booties and the scan photo. At the time I was very judgemental about it!

Fast forward a bit and I have my 12 week scan next week and all of a sudden I’m considering doing something similar! 😂 We’re having to move our wedding so I want to announce it as soon as possible and to as many of our friends and family as possible (really close people already know) so that we can pre-warn people and get the new date out ASAP so Facebook has become a good option. And I even think a cute picture would be nice! I was thinking of doing something with race numbers or bikes as we’re both very sporty. Have I gone mad?

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Cocoabutter8080 · 12/02/2018 12:36

Those who make these cheesy posts need to have a bit of empathy for those struggling to conceive or experiencing loss. It doesn't need to be plastered over social media when you have already privately told your friends and family - the people who you want to know. If you have thirty more friends on FB who you want to know - just text them if you're that good a friend?! I'd be a bit annoyed if my close friend told me by facebook post, whether I live in Australia, New Zealand or just down the road!

However, I do understand that if you're excited you genuinely do just want to shout it from the rooftops and can subsequently get quite carried away designing a FB post announcement with your dog and a "new baby" book or a little pair of wellington boots next to yours.

Perhaps just consider posting a short message instead of an image that clearly took 2 hours of propping your dog up or setting up your wellies in the snow. That's where it just gets so cringey as you clearly are doing this for the attention it will bring you, not to just tell people your wonderful news.

I think it just shows there are two types of people when it comes to social media - those who love attention and those who hide from it. Perhaps those of us who find these posts cringey just need to turn the other cheek and let them get on with it!

GertNBert · 12/02/2018 12:36

It nice to tell people but a lot of the methods are really really twee. Everyone's after their instagram moment. 🤢

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 12:37

Rubbish, if they were that important you would at least text them but I don't have everyone's phone number. We communicate in person a few times a year or on facebook, sharing each others highs and lows. So they go on holiday abroad and share some photos and I manage to not make it about me and how I can't fly.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 12:39

Teetotal2018 actually no - I wrote a message saying I was pregnant and would not be going on a trip I had been fundraising for for a year. People would have noticed me not going and I wanted to explain once and not lie.

GertNBert · 12/02/2018 12:39

I think there is nothing wrong with people being delighted with being pregnant. It's a wonderful thing so there is nothing wrong with being happy bout it. It's very sad when people can't conceive or have had a miscarriage and it's obviously good to be mindful of it but I don't think that's a reason not to announce a pregnancy especially if it's on an open media which people can mute if they are feeling like they might be upset by someone else's good news.

Teetotal2018 · 12/02/2018 12:39

Yes you are right! Each to thier own I suppose. I’ve just been witness to my sobbing friend (who has fertility issues) when one of these selfish, delusional fuckers baby bombs her that they had a shag and got upduffed because they are so bloody clever.....

DenPerry · 12/02/2018 12:40

I normally hate the social media stuff and hate the spotlight myself but pregnancy did this to me too It is twee but you can get away with it! Facebook is definitely an effective way of telling everyone, no way do I have all my friends numbers.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 12:44

Teetotal2018 but did they actually do that pr did they post on a social networking site "me and dave are expecting a baby in april, here's the dog chewing on some mittens"

Teetotal2018 · 12/02/2018 12:46

@SleepingStandingUp that made no sense, what are you talking about?

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 12:47

And I've sat in the loo sobbing because I've opened fb and a friend has announced simply their pregnancy. I had the sense to recognise it was me not them and whilst I assumed she'd tell me cos she knew we were struggling, she didn't know how to so just didn't.

Teetotal2018 · 12/02/2018 12:48

SleepingStandingUp Sorry you’ve cried because of this. Facebook is just awful

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 12:49

You said they baby bombed her, wherever that is, bragging about getting pregnant by having a shag because they are so very clever.

So was there a message on facebook simply announcing a pregnancy our was it a post starting how easy it was, how amazing she is, how special they are. Cos the first is fine and the second makes her a dick.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 12:52

Thanks and its crap your friend is going through this. But assuming people aren't being actual dicks assume they are just excited.

We shared a video of my child walking at 18 months not to make people without children or without able bodied children feel like shit but because he had had months of abdo surgery and we were bloody proud / relieved / amazed and wanted t o share that

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 12/02/2018 12:52

which people can mute if they are feeling like they might be upset by someone else's good news.

Well unless you have a crystal ball how do you know who is going to post what?

Cocoabutter8080 · 12/02/2018 12:56

I do agree that it is more from the perspective of the "viewer" of the post than the person who is posting it. If you are feeling down or are going through a tough time - seeing other peoples happiness spread over FB is really hard to see and can make you feel even worse and feel like they are showing off. When it comes to pregnancy, it's so so hard for those women who are struggling, it is a very sensitive time.

The person who is posting should at least think about what they are doing before they post it and have some empathy. Maybe there should be a balance and people need to consider posting something a little less "in your face" and more tasteful... that way it appears more genuine and less boastful?

The joys of social media - life was simpler when we didn't have it!

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 13:00

Uugghh. Toddler leaked in cafe. I gotta go shopping. Bye....

roseannaleeXo · 12/02/2018 13:01

I feel announcements are overrated to many people start gossiping about pregnancy especially on Facebook do a nice what's app to all close friends etc not the whole world of Facebook it is more personal and then it is the people you want to actually know about it. Not the neighbour/ex friend down the road who is a bitch

NimbleKnitter · 12/02/2018 13:02

If you aren't close enough to have their phone number, why would you want to tell them you're having a baby?

I think this is a basic problem with Facebook - if I'm friends with them, we text. Even if it's a group WhatsApp thing.

If I'd been invited to someone's wedding, or they were telling me they were pregnant, I would not expect to find out from Facebook (which, as far as I can gather, is just for sharing buzzfeed or daily mash posts these days). Do you really want people to find out about your baby whilst scrolling through cat videos?

expatinscotland · 12/02/2018 13:40

Naff.

Kayleigh1986 · 12/02/2018 14:04

Wow! Some of you have a really bleak outlook on life! You really need new friends if you feel this way!

@Teetotal2018 are you ok? You seem to have some issues

Fia256 · 12/02/2018 14:05

I find it really sad reading some of the views on here. No matter what you've been through/going through, I'd hate to have such a bitter and negative outlook on other people's happiness all the time.

I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant, and if our scan goes well in 2 weeks I will be announcing it publicly because I bloody well want to and have waited for this for a long time. My last 4 pregnancies have ended in miscarriage, all were early except for one last year which ended at 20 weeks when there was no longer a heartbeat at the scan. I can't lie, the first Facebook announcement I saw around 2 weeks afterwards made me sob. For absolutely ages. I felt like she had no thought for me and what I was going through. But then once I'd stopped crying I actually hated the fact I'd felt so selfish over it. Just because I was through heartbreak and was struggling didn't mean anyone who was lucky enough to have a healthy pregnancy had to hide it away or feel like they had to step on eggshells. It is very hard to see things such as pregnancy announcements when it's either not happening for you or you keep having losses, but I firmly believe the world shouldn't stop because it feels like it has for you, and if your really struggling, maybe social media isn't the best place to be on!

So in two weeks time, if there's a healthy baby with a heartbeat, once I've told family and close friends personally, I'll be uploading some form of "twee" announcement. Because finally after a good 3 years of heartache and longing, we'll have got some happiness and I'll want to share it with people, just like so many have before me, whether they care or not! And I certainly won't be doing it to boast either!!

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 12/02/2018 14:06

Some of you have a really bleak outlook on life

You can't think of reasons why people could get upset by twee baby announcements?

I think you need to try a bit harder.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/02/2018 14:07

to many people start gossiping about pregnancy
Omg did you hear, mary is having a baby!

Yeah, she announced it on facebook.
Oh, right.

What is there to gossip about?

harrietm87 · 12/02/2018 14:07

As the responses on this thread have shown, some people see fb announcements as attention seeking, boastful, lame, twee and downright inconsiderate.

In a way it doesn't matter what you personally think. What you have to realise is that if you do
make a fb announcement there is a very high chance that at least some of the people who see it will think the above things about you/your announcement. If you're happy to do it all the same then that's fine, just don't kid yourselves that everyone will see it and think it's lovely.

NimbleKnitter · 12/02/2018 14:12

Exactly. Put it on Facebook and know someone is judging you. Probably lots of people.

If you don't care if they are judging you WHY PUT IT ON?

Literally no good reason for doing this

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