How do i respond to "was it planned"?

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About to go public next week on third pregnancy. So far have just told parents and both sets asked either "was it planned" or said " i take it it wasn't planned". I'm fine with this from them but i know i'll get it from friends/colleagues etc and whilst i could say i'll tell you when it becomes your business, i dont want to so how can i close it down politely?

"Well we know how it works so whatta you think?" Has been my line

Or if I was moody "well we weren't doing it up the bum so it was no surprise!"

Oh I thought this only happened to me! I mean, why on earth would someone ask this? My parents, a friend, and quite a few people at work (including people I wasn't even friends with) asked this.

I have at a had a lot of this. Long story short my fertility was getting worse (endometriosis) and I had my tube cleared. Im now 24 weeks and me and OH have just been together a year next week. It was planned.

I just say well we were doing it without protection....on purpose...so I guess not an accident.

Shuts people up.

"Nope, I wanted anal and he slipped."

Usually quietens them down pretty quickly.

'Nah, we both got pissed and had a sneaky shag in the pub toilets, didn't we darling?'

Said while beaming lovingly at DH.

I used to say yes, even though DS3 wasn't exactly planned. I'd really hate DS3 to grow up thinking he was an accident.

GrayMorning
perfect response

'No, i'm as surprised as the rest of you. Who knew oral could result in a baby 😱'

I remember when i surro'd for a gay couple...the best question we got when out together was 'so which of you is 'the dad'?'
I usually said 'oh we don't know, they both had a go. Be a nice surprise when the DNA test comes back'

I always just smiled and said ' a happy accident' not that it was any of their business

I would say: no, I am announcing my abortion. Wanna come with me?

It’s a very stupid question to ask. If you are announcing the pregnancy is bc you will have the baby, so why does it matter whether you planned it or not.

God I hate this question, I mean if someone has announced a pregnancy planned or not they are keeping the baby so why even ask? It doesn’t matter.

I most of the time replied “we are both very happy” but a friend of dh the woman of the couple asked me three times, yes there times and I couldn’t help myself so i said “ well me and dh were fucking like rabbits without contraception does that answer your question.” She looked awkward and needless to say didn’t ask me again

I had this question loads. I did tell one person that pregnancy wasn’t planned but I love having sex with DH and it was a happy side effect 😊

Love that grey!!

I've got four dc and get the "do you not have a tele love?!" A lot
I've been known to say "yes we watch a lot of porn." If I'm in a bad mood

That is so rude!!! I was very surprised when one of my DDs became pregnant as I really had not expected that she would want a family - I assumed it was an accident but definitely did NOT say so!!!

Why, out of interest?

My mother assumed the same about me. I had never said i didn’t want children, but because i’m not one of those people that has to coo over babies she’d jumped to conclusions.

She did, however, tell me i “still had time to do something about it” when i told her i was pregnant after my 12 wk scan. Then proceeded to announce to all her friends that i was pg, and how unexpected it was I’d never wanted children —an accident, you know—.

When I fell preg with my nearly 3yo, a mum at the school who had never spoke to me before walked up and said "I heard your news, was it planned" I laughed and told her congratulations would be been fine

My boss asked me this. I would have loved to come up with a witty cutting retort but obviously need to continue working with him so I just said "my husband and I are really happy about it" which I thought was quite diplomatic. If I was feeling less arsed about being tactful I might have said something like "why are you asking?" Or "what a weird question".

When I told my df I was pregnant with number 4 he asked had I not worked out what was causing it yet?!
He also showed genuine surprise when he saw ds awake as a newborn as he was sure their eyes didn't open til 6 weeks.
Eh no df that's kittens.

"Why do you want to know" served me well.

One of my pregnancies was planned, the other was an accident. Lots of pregnancies are, not sure why it's considered so rude to ask. I had no issue in saying that dd was an accident. She knows that too, it's really not a big deal. We love her very much but in an ideal world would not have had her so close to ds and should not have assumed that breastfeeding him was an effective contraception.

I’ve had this question in both pregnancies from people at work mainly, I’m usually so astonished that I just laugh and say yes! Wish I was quick enough to give a better answer! I’d never ask such a personal question. People are so weird/intrusive when you’re pregnant, it’s mind boggling.

The whole was it planned annoys me, obvs planned on keeping her..the worst rudest question was what colour will it be?!? The funniest at 5 months does she have legs yet? Wtf

Was asked this in last pregnancy and just responded to her by saying 'yes she was planned and at least I know who her father Was!" 😍

Followed by "Bolt hen, your man cannae find a sausage up a close never mind up you!"

😂😂😂😂

'Well, not really, but you can't turn down the Angel Gabriel at half three in the morning, can you?'

Love this from Iklboo. And for times when it's not Christmas, insert Harrison Ford / James Norton / etc etc as desired.

I got this loads. I chickened out & was honest, "happy accident" etc etc but looking back I wish I'd told them to fuck off, such a personal question!