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Going to lose my baby

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1987Laura · 27/12/2017 11:36

Many of you may have seen my previous posts of getting bad news at scans then got told things weren't as bad at the last scan. Had another scan today where more things were seen. Not looking good and looks like i will need a termination. Devastasted isnt even close to what i am feeling right now. My partner was working away and is now on his way home so we can go back into hospital tomorrow and see the consultant

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Itchytights · 30/12/2017 10:30

So sorry to hear this Laura.

Flowers and hugs to you

Bez9087 · 30/12/2017 11:40

I agree with a previous post the hospital took pictures but I preferred the ones we took. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to see him or hold him but the minute he was born they said would take him clean him up and dress him and then if I wanted they would bring him back which I did and I’m so glad I did.
I had never seen a dead person before and was petrified that the first one I would see was my son but he just looked like a baby that was asleep you go past it and just see your baby. Nothing will make it easier and if you wanted to not see her today and maybe go back tomorrow or the day after I’m sure the hospital would allow this? With me I had him the Friday in the morn I just wanted to get home to my daughter but then the Sunday / Monday I had an overwhelming urge to be with him and the hospital accommodated this and we went back and spent an hour with him and I’m so glad I did as got better pictures etc and was able to cuddle him.
Whatever works for you is the right way hun everyone deals differently in this situation. Sending hugs x

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1987Laura · 30/12/2017 11:59

Thank you

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keepondreaming · 30/12/2017 12:46

My thoughts are with you Laura. Nothing I can say will make it better but please know we are thinking of you.

froggybiby · 30/12/2017 12:49

I am so sorry OP. I hope you have one day the baby you deserve even though you will never forget the pain.

Beansprout30 · 30/12/2017 21:21

Still thinking of you Laura xx

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1987Laura · 30/12/2017 21:56

Thank you. Still waiting for things to happen in hospital. In agony just waiting for more morphine so i can try to sleep

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elliejjtiny · 30/12/2017 22:01

Thinking of you. I've never been in your situation but one of my babies was born with a cleft lip as well as other problems. I saw his face on a 4d scan at the stage where you are at now and he was beautiful. Honestly you just see your baby and things like that won't matter.

Windowgazer123 · 30/12/2017 22:53

My heart goes out to you. Thinking of you and your daughter. X

Iamchanging · 31/12/2017 09:11

Still thinking of you this morning x

BrutusMcDogface · 31/12/2017 09:20

Xxx

Girlwiththearabstrap · 31/12/2017 09:22

I'm so sorry to read this. I know I can't say anything to take the pain away but I'm thinking of you and your family.

Sparklesdontshine · 31/12/2017 09:26

You poor darling, I'm so sorry Flowers

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1987Laura · 31/12/2017 10:03

Just got home. She arrived at 12.30 this morning. I decided to hold her for a moment. Midwife took photos once she was cleaned up. Got her hand and footprints too. Ended up having codeine, morphine and gas and air as was so sore. My partner is a mess. I have never seen him cry like that before

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Toasttea · 31/12/2017 10:08

I've just seen this and I'm so sorry for you and your partner. Thinking of you x

INeedNewShoes · 31/12/2017 10:09

I am so so sorry. There are probably no comforting words for the moment but you've been really brave. Allow yourself to grieve and take any help that is available.

I'm glad you held her. Although heartbreaking I think it's probably a good thing to have done.

rainbowruthie · 31/12/2017 11:00

Hoping for strength for both you and your partner - this is such an awful ting to go through - be kind to yourselves and allow yourselves time to grieve xxx

Linzilou1985 · 31/12/2017 11:16

So sorry Laura Thanks my best friend went through this with her first baby, the hospital arranged a funeral for him, it was lovely and very comforting for my friend. She was around 21 weeks. Big hugs, I was with my friend during the process and it was brutal. Xxx

BeverlyGoldberg · 31/12/2017 12:30

I’m so so sorry.

I know there’s nothing I can say to make this better except to say I wish you strength and love.

regularbutpanickingabit · 31/12/2017 12:32

I am so so sorry, for all of you. Thinking of you.

StewPots · 31/12/2017 12:47

I'm so sorry you have been through this. My best friend went through similar at 26 weeks..she found the photos and hand and foot prints have given her great comfort over the 6 years since it happened.

She went on to have two healthy happy boys, who know they have a sister watching over them...she once told me that although the pain of losing her daughter remains, the love she had for her and seeing similarities in various family members helps her to get through the days. Like she lives on in other ways.

I know it's no comfort right now, but I wish you and your DP so much love right now. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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1987Laura · 31/12/2017 14:54

Thank you. Its been horrendous

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kktpj · 31/12/2017 14:57

Hugs hugs and prayers

howdidthathappen76 · 31/12/2017 15:08

So terribly sad for you. Wishing you strength to get through this devastating time.

Kittypillar · 31/12/2017 15:09

I'm so so sorry you and your partner are going through this Laura :( Flowers

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