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I'm trying to persuade NOT to find out the sex in two weeks - help me, I'm weakening!!

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Hopeitwontbebig · 20/04/2007 13:09

I'm pregnant with DC3. DS1 was a surprise, DS2 we found out at 20 weeks.

All through this pregnancy I've been saying I won't find out the sex. I was chatting to DH lastnight and he's saying he'd quite like to know. I also had a friend over for a coffee and she asked me why I didn't want to know... I couldn't really think of a very good reason apart from it'll be a surprise at teh end.

I don't think I mind what it is...... but it would be nice if it was a girl, seeing as I've got two boys already, but a boy would be nice too.

OK, so why shouldn't I find out the sex.....

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aviatrix · 20/04/2007 13:10

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MamaG · 20/04/2007 13:10

find out, find out! I did with both

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Hopeitwontbebig · 20/04/2007 13:11

ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh

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rubles · 20/04/2007 14:21

well I think that based on the fact you have done it each way for your first two you know what you are talking about and maybe decided you liked surprises? And as aviatrix says that is as good a reason as any, stick to your guns, I say.

pinkranger · 20/04/2007 14:23

i changed my mind so many times - DS1 was a surprise but had 20 week scan today and ......................

i cracked and im having BOY - really thrilled as i feel i can start preping sooner

SlightlyMadSecret · 20/04/2007 14:23

Because there is nothing in this world that compares to looking at your baby lying on your belly with the MW asking "so what have you got" - you teasing 'it's' little legs open and declaring "I've got a XXX". It being you that discovered your babies sex.

justaphase · 20/04/2007 14:25

I don't get the surprise argument.... surely you are still surprised at 20 weeks

Sorry I know I am not helping

SlightlyMadSecret · 20/04/2007 14:26

Yeah but you don't have the same anticipation...

SlightlyMadSecret · 20/04/2007 14:28

Finding out from a scan for me felt like it would be cheating as it was kind of medicalised. I discovered DD3s sex myself and honestly there is nothing that compares (especially as I was convinced she was DS!!!)

pinkranger · 20/04/2007 14:30

The midwife did with my ds1 as i was too out of it!

With the scan today, the lady made us look at the screen and asked if we could tell ( we had told her we wanted to know) we could clearly see his willy , No mistake!!

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Hopeitwontbebig · 20/04/2007 15:59

Thanks for messages so far................. don't know what to doooooooooooooooooo

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Ambi · 20/04/2007 16:06

I'm undecided myself, I want it both ways!!!

I have no willpower, I started testing a week before AF due, but I really want the surprise if poss, but people have already told me I'm having a girl, so have kinda got that in my head now. Be strong if you can, i guess?

scorpio1 · 20/04/2007 16:07

why dont you ask if you can look at its bits on the ultrasound-and see what you can make out?that way no-one has told you but you may still find out/or you might not.

i found out with both of mine and will with my next one too.it helps me to bond

Mumpbump · 20/04/2007 16:08

You have to do what is right for you. Finding out in advance is right for some people. We waited last time and I'm pretty sure we'll wait this time. It's like a little gift after all the hard work!! Dh found out ds' sex, but I think I'll insist on finding out this time...

Mumpbump · 20/04/2007 16:08

Post-birth, I mean...

FlossALump · 20/04/2007 16:12

I have had plenty of weeks anticipation! I'd like to know whether or not to decorate our bedroom before next baby is due. If a boy, then I will, if a girl then we are likely to do a roof conversion in the next couple of years so no point really... I already 'know' though IYSWIM? Personally all being well with my scan next week I am looking forward to going out and looking at all the cute sex appropriate outfits...

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Hopeitwontbebig · 20/04/2007 16:40

That's the thing though isn't it... we've got the nursery to decorate etc. We're also starting over, so have no baby clothes or anything. With DS1 I was convinced it was a boy, so didn't feel the need to have it confirmed at the 20 week scan...... With DS2 my Nan died when I was pregnant and she was the one who was convinced DS1 was a girl, so I kind of felt that I 'owed' it to her to have a girl 2nd time, so I was DESPERATE for a girl therefore found out at the scan.

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skidaddle · 20/04/2007 16:45

Oh I know, it's so hard, isn;t it?

One thing you could do is ask the sonographer to write it down for you instead of telling you and then you can decide whether to look at the piece of paper or not - maybe just prolonging the agony though?

Hersetta · 20/04/2007 16:57

Must admit, i had no stong feelings about finding out either way but DH really wanted to know so yesterday we found out we're having a girl!

I must admit that now I know she is a girl and having seen her face really clearly (thanks to a lovely sonographer who naughtily flicked the ultrasound into 4D mode so we could see her face) I feel much more bonded and close to my daughter (how weird if feels to say that!!). Everytime she kicks (and she kicks a lot) I rub my tummy and say already little girl, calm dowmn.

I'm know really glad we found out - and my Mum is overjoyed that we're having a girl.

SlightlyMadSecret · 20/04/2007 17:31

DTDs nursery was done in neutral colours.

DD3s nursery was decorated (white paintwork was done before as you can't go wrong with that) after she was born whilst DP was on paternity leave. Only took a day.

Just get a couple of packs of white babygrows for hte first week. You will be inundated by more outfits than you need outfits as gifts anyway. We did actually buy 2 unisex outfits so she had something nice to wear for her first guests.

You don't need to know...

SlightlyMadSecret · 20/04/2007 17:33

(we had decided on colour scheme for boy/girl so DP could be reliably sent to B&Q to get the right paint)

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Hopeitwontbebig · 20/04/2007 19:20

Has anyone heard the theory that if you've had say 2 boys, your chances of having a girl for your third reduce to 33% unless you change partners. I read that somewhere a few years ago.

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Hopeitwontbebig · 20/04/2007 19:39

Searching the net now.... wonder if I dreamt that

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Overrun · 20/04/2007 19:43

There was no way that I couldn't have found out I'm afraid.
I wouldn't want even the tiniest bit of dissapointment (if there is any) to coincide with the babys arrival.

FioFio · 20/04/2007 19:44

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