Time for a whinge

[Mrstobe90]

Welcome to the moaning thread!

I thought I’d make a nice little place for us to get our problems off our chests (and maybe get a virtual hug or two)
Pregnancy is bloody difficult and it’s nice knowing we’re not alone in the suffering!

Happy whining :)

Coming on here to join in the moaning. I feel bad moaning about it after previous losses, but good Lord it’s a bit shit isn’t it?

My eyes have gone funny and I now need glasses to read or I risk a major headache. I have heartburn roughly always. My bump aches by the end of the day and I can’t turn over in bed without sounding like a constipated walrus. I’m only 26 weeks. It’s going to get worse isn’t it?! Waaaaahhhhh

@McTufty hii!! I remember congratulations on your pregnancy!!

@NoParticularPattern when my eyesight started going, I was worried it might be pre eclampsia so was relieved to find out that it’s just a common symptom of pregnancy. Still sucks though!

I was terrified! Couple with the headaches that I hadn’t correlated with the eyesight and I was convinced I was developing preeclampsia too! Thankfully everything is all fine and it’s just another fantastic pregnancy “thing”

Yeh the headaches are the worst! I never suffered with them before pregnancy. I've only had one that's been so bad that I needed to lie down, thank god!

Joining with the moaning!

I'm 28 weeks with dc2. I swear first pregnancy was heaven compared to this!

I'v had pelvic girdle pain, headaches throughout the whole pregnancy so far!, backache, weeing myself when i sneeze/cough, constant nosebleeds, over the top moodswings, and the list goes on

Tbh i dont even know if this post makes sense, but this has been such a bad experience.

Oh and now im nearly at the 30 week mark.. i'v started over thinking about labour.

I think i need some &

15+ 4 today.

Day 2 of urine infection and a cold. Went through two pairs of pyjamas last night.
Still vomitting most evenings so that plus a urine infecrion and cough/ sneezing you can guess why I went through two pairs of pyjama bottoms. Bit more savvy tonight and wearing a heavy flow pad. Meant to be working tomorrow. On upside with all the jolting my poor baby must be going through I think he/ she booted back last night. No.1 for me so not sure what I was feeling but think may have been kicks or an Oi trying to sleep here reaction.

22 weeks here with No2. This pregnancy has been sooooooo much easier but the crazy discharge has started again & I now feel like a slug. So glamorous

24 weeks and dd has decided that the only place to sleep is on my head. My mother is irritating the hell out of me with her opinions- dummy’s are bad, ‘you’ll do things differently this time’ and haven’t you sorted out the mountain of baby clothes on your spare bed yet?
I’d quite like to bugger off somewhere for a week and be left in peace

@ChocolateDinosaur book yourself into a nice spa and turn your phone off

@Mrstobe90 sounds like bliss! Although marginally more rational today it’s amazing how therapeutic a rant can be

28+5 with my first here. I keep getting blocking and pressure changes in my ears, which mean I can't hear myself speak properly, it goes mid word or mid sentence so I'm struggling to hold conversations properly, and I keep missing what other people are saying. The only thing that solves it is lying down but I have a shed load of stuff to do, so laying about all day is not an option. Pretty minor in the grand scheme of things but god, it's so irritating, I'm getting so sick of making people repeat themselves!

Piles and thrush. At the same time. 😫

Can I please add to this thread?

Unsympathetic work colleagues!

I'm 31+1 with my first baby and there is a member of my team at work who whinges, moans, and talks about me behind my back after every single antenatal appointment that I have because she has to pick up the work load.

First of all, I am not under consultant care or anything like that, so I've had the standard midwife led care, including a half day at hospital for blood glucose test, and a few trips to GP with regards to getting bloods done to monitor my anaemia. I'm not on one appointment every three weeks for midwife.

Aside from the above which I'd consider standard care I have nee in triage twice for a lengthy time for reduced movements including this morning.

I went in at 5am as I woke with painful bump and is noticed a change in his movements, so I phoned the midwife who told me to get it checked. I did and there was a lot of waiting around and thankfully they found that he was fine after monitoring him a while. I had to get tested for infections etc and also got referred back to GP this afternoon meaning basically I've had the whole day of work.

And I've heard from work friends that this particular woman has been throwing mud on my name for being off sick today, huffing and puffing and basically being very dramatic about it. I already feel bad enough for letting work down as it is now I've got her to deal with tomorrow and all week and being in the doghouse with her and she does is every single time.

I want to shake the woman and tell her I'm not having a sleep in and having a general jolly when things like this happen! I'm stressed, I'm scared to senseless, I'm tired, I don't enjoy all this worry and at the end of the day all I'm doing is making sure my son is healthy and doing as instructed by midwives (i.e. ANY change in fetal movement should be checked)

I'm absolutely bloody sick of having to justify myself when this happens and I'm absolutely sick of being made out like I'm attention seeking and "overreacting."

May I add, this woman has never been pregnant before, shock horror. All other ladies at work very sympathetic.

How will they cope for 9 months without me if they can't even cope for one day? RIDICULOUS! Rant over! Thank you hehe

@Pollymae1991 this woman sounds like a complete bitch!! I’d tell her where to go. Hope you’re ok xxx

Polly that woman sounds like a total cow! Don’t feel that you have to justify yourself to her at all. Are your management supportive? Maybe you should mention it to them, as it’s really unfair for her to make you feel this extra stress and pressure when you could really do without. Glad everything is fine with DS.

@Polly that woman sounds awful, I would be having a quiet word with your line manager, or hers, to nip it in the bud. She's no right to be going on like that, everyone has to take time off work for things, whether it's pregnancy related or something else. She needs to get over it.

Thanks lovely ladies! This is why I love MN you can have a rant without being judged.

My manager has been very supportive so far it's just this one certain woman. It's just not nice I've had a really stressful day all in all and now worrying about going into work tomorrow on top of it all. I love my job normally but since being pregnant she has turned on me completely and all she ever does is moan about me while I'm at my appointments.

She was complaining that she felt ill as well and said she wishes she would have phoned in sick as well. I felt like telling her do it then! It's not my issue if she wants to come into work poorly.

Wouldn't mind but we work in the food industry and it's really not life or death to miss a day of work. She was complaining about being on her own at work, while I was in triage the woman who answered the phone when I first rang was the same women who hooked me up to machines for tests, and she was looking after a very distressed lady who was 6cm dilated, screaming for pain relief and throwing up all over her boyfriend, while also looking after another lady like me with reduced movements while also answering the phone for new admissions on top, as well as prepping a lady for C section. And I said to this midwife: are you all alone here today? She said yes for now until cover arrives because someone else is off sick and she did not moan ONCE and attended to all ladies in a timely manner while being very sympathetic to all of us.

And I've got this idiot colleague of mine crying because she has to do a few of my spreadsheets for one morning.

Having a baby really puts perspective on your life I really want to tell this woman to shut the f**k up and mind her own business!

Surely she should be speaking to our manager if she's sick of me and my time off but she doesn't, instead she puts me in the doghouse for the week and ignores me and doesn't speak to me at all.

Like I said, she's never had kids, she's in her 50s as is her brother and sister and non of them have had children between them so she's had no experiences of pregnancy or babies and had no one to worry about except for herself. I think she's just a bitter cow to be honest!

It's scary in life when suddenly you have more than yourself to worry about. A baby is a huge responsibility and I'll never apologise for putting my baby first! Even if it was just a false alarm.

Thanks for support ladies xx

Mrstobe90 I can't see my vagina or my feet anymore. I did attempt to see what was happening using a mirror last week and let's just say I'm better off not being able to see what has been hiding from me 🙈

Spd, HG, piles.... glamorous!! Only 13 weeks to go

Morning whingers how are we all today?

I've got to go into work after being off sick yesterday. The joys of the work dumped on my desk, the silent treatment from collegauges. I'll just get my head down today and crack on (when I say head down I mean the occasional Email/phone call in between browsing baby stuff, checking MN, eating and dreaming of mat leave) anybody bought Halloween sweets? I am going to buy hoping no one will come so I can have them

My DH got sweets for the kids and tricker treaters but has hidden them from me . Although annoying, he was right - I went looking for them last night and couldn't find them Enjoy the silent treatment, gives you a break from them I'm trying to find relief for my back ache so I'm using heat packs. I felt right sorry for myself last night but I'm powering on today.

I’ve already eaten a ridiculous amount of the Halloween sweets lol! I may have to send DH out to get more

I bought Halloween sweets and made sure I picked my favourites in case there is any left

37 weeks, pre-schooler on half term and I’ve got a hideous sore throat, for which I can take pretty much nothing except sugary based soothers, I’ve steamed over Vicks, had various lozenges, some cough medicine the pharmacist recommended, I can’t sleep and I feel so tight chested, coughing hurts my throat and according to GP there isn’t even any chest infection there. I can’t even face another glass of honey and lemon as I feel like I’ve had too much sugar.

If this baby arrives before I’m over this illness and I don’t get a “good” nights sleep I’m going to be very very fucked off.