Welcome fellow big belly, nipple tweaking, (im)patiently waiting mums-to-be..... Time to join the PMA pregnancy thread

[Dollydaydream2829]

Welcome to all the old and new PMA pregnancy ladies as we navigate our way through the amazing and not so amazing parts of pregnancy!
All welcome from all stages to help and support the transition from flat bellies and sleep filled nights to heartburn, hip pain and the growing excitement at meeting our little bundles soon!

i did it! pm’d you @Dollydaydream2829 xx

just realised we’re going to have to relearn every1s real names haha.

also, @bakingmad83 i just realised that as you use a laptop, this will mean we won’t hear from you til you’re home with DD - awww the wait will kill me x

Was going to mention that Bella, just so if I was in hospital for a bit that people didn't wonder why I hadn't been in touch. Maybe one day I'll join the rest of the 21st century and get a smartphone :)

the wait till he horrendous @bakingmad83 will you at least try let us know you’re away to the hospital please? if you just go quiet i’ll get excited and it could be that you’re just busy! x

how are you getting on @Moo31 do we have a name for little handsome chops yet? x

Yes, will do Bella :) Planning on staying at home as long as I can this time round, so won't be in a hurry to get there, unless it seems like DD is in a real hurry herself to arrive! Mind you, have 4 friends whose 2nd DC arrived in labours lasting less than an hour, so maybe shouldn't speak to soon, but doubt you're going to go from 36 to 1hr just like that. Probs famous last words x

Try to nip on here a couple of times a day, like when DS is engrossed in something or having a nap or gone to bed. So v rare I don't get chance, esp as I like reading the threads in pregnancy and childbirth too much, though rarely comment on anything unless I think I've got helpful experience I can add.

Hi Ladies, hope you’re all well.

First of all, huge congratulations Moo! Your little man is an absolute beauty 💙 enjoy every second of those newborn cuddles 😊

I’ve quickly looked downthread and just wanted to clear some things up. Yes the remaining few of us now have a private Facebook group. There was never any malice in it, and we all check back on the old thread in case any of you happen to post. The reason that the thread was created was for the exact same reasons that you guys have mentioned starting one. It’s much easier to keep up to date and share photos etc on there, and it’s also nice to get a bit more personal with the people that we’ve been speaking to for these last 10 months (can you believe it’s been that long!)

I for one have been dealt some pretty shitty news regarding fertility which I didn’t think I’d have to deal with at 26 years old, and me & DH also have some personal stuff going on that I don’t particularly feel like publicly sharing on a forum where anybody could read it if you see what I mean? (I don’t mean you guys, I mean newbies coming on to join the thread)

I suppose we’re all just at different places in our journeys now, and whilst you guys are chatting about pregnancy, birth plans and newborns, we’re still stuck in that cycle of ovulation/SMEP/2ww. Believe me there’s nothing that we want more than to be upduffed too and joining in your chat, but at this rate you’ll all have your gorgeous newborns by the time us lot get that elusive BFP!

A few of us popped over to wish Dolly well when she gave birth, and apart from Dolly herself, nobody even acknowledged us really (I know you’re all busy and I don’t expect you to have to) but I suppose it just felt like we’ve kind of been forgotten about a bit now, so that’s why we started the Facebook group.

Anyway I’m rambling. I wish you all well in the rest of your pregnancy’s and hope you all have a safe and pretty uneventful labour 😊 if you do decide to start up a Facebook thread then obviously that’s fine and up to you guys, but I do keep checking in on this thread to see your announcements and to wish you well 💕 xx

Huge congrats moo!!! He’s gorgeous, hope your all getting settled can’t wait to hear more.

Hi Archie’s, I’m still routing for you! Just incase you missed it I did say hi back when you popped on although didn’t do the @ thing. We’ve all still been keeping are fingers crossed for the next PMA grad. Will you be staying in the conception FB group once you get your BFPs?

Baking I hope your labour is very quick! And mine too and all the other ladies who our waiting (unless someone was hoping to savour the moment ) You should totally pack your laptop in your hospital bag 😝

Just popping on quick this morning so sorry if I’ve missed people, oh glad you had a nice anniversary Bella, and boo to DH drinking, I’m starting to get drink envy, ‘‘tis the season, I’m on a hunt for a alcohol free mulled wine

Hi Rose, thank you so much for replying. Sorry I totally missed it, and feel bad now for saying that none of you replied!

I’m sure there’ll be a new PMA grad soon, I can just feel it (we’ve been waiting long enough eh 😉) We’ll pop over and let you know when one of us finally get there but not sure if the thread will still be going then?

And honestly it would be really lovely for us all to reconnect whether it’s on Facebook or here when we’re all pregnant/have our babies but I suppose that time just feels so far off for us lot at the moment that we (well I do, I’m not speaking for everyone) feel like you’ll all have moved on by then and won’t want to be stuck with all the early pregnancy chat again 🙈 xx

hi @ArchiesMamaBird, it’s lovely to hear from you. i’m sorry to hear of your personal issues. you are certainly right that sharing so openly isn’t for every1 and i for 1, definitely respect that. some people do share a hell of a lot in an open forum, which can lead to people being uncomfortable x

i didn’t come back to the thread but only due to being pretty much told to feck off, which i did take offence to. i didn’t forget about any of you and still wish you all, all the very best. i was excited to see any grads pop over.

as i said a good few times, after having been left feeling that i was some sort of unwelcome guest for having only been TTC for 3 months, none of us join the TTC journey knowing how long it’ll take. i definitely got the feeling that it was resented by some (definitely not all) so i’m not going to hang around that type of negative vibe. anyway, there was some stuff that went on behind the scenes for me so without going into too much detail, it was only ever about being asked to leave for me, nothing personal to the majority.

we certainly have set up a FB group which we chatted about openly on the thread, so if any1 wondered where we’d gone, then it was obvious. i think that might be the difference as when i did stumble on the old thread, it had clearly been spoken about privately as there was just radio silence.

i hope the group continues to be as supportive as i found it initially and i do hope that BFP is soon to arrive for all you lovely ladies.

xxx

Hey @archiesmamabird nice to hear from you. I’m sure you do like to pop back on and check how we are all doing & I would pop in and like to see what you guys were upto but completely understand wanting some privacy. Sorry to hear things are not going to plan. It’s a tough road. Wishing you all the best on your journey!!

@moo31 awaiting patiently for update of this name and eventful labour hehe

@dollydaydream2829 I’ve private messaged you my details. Let me know if you don’t get it lol. Think I’ve done it right.

Consultant appointment tomorrow and starting to get a little nervous about starting all the injections an making decisions on the birth. Hoping after first few days I can relax about it all and enjoy the third trimester!!

i am sure you will be absolutely fine and wonder why you worried about the injections @Anna2006 it’s a worry nonetheless but i’m sure once you’re in the swing of it, it’ll be 2nd nature. i have inspiration for my injections in that my 11yo niece is type 1 diabetic and has been since 16 months old so whenever i get apprehensive about an injection or pissed odd with diabetes, i just think of her and how iv got an end in sight, she doesn’t unfortunately. helps me keep perspective xx how long will you have to do the injections postnatally? xx

@bellamoon 6 weeks postnatally as that’s the most dangerous time for a blood clot apparently. But yes your deffo right. Can always find some perspective from somewhere. It’s not forever!! And be worth it for little bubba growing away 😍

@bakingmad83 DS1s labour was over 48hrs. DS2 was recorded as 1hr 15! I was having pains for at least 12 hours before though.

@Anna2006 are they tinzaparin injections? I had them for 10 days after DS and they’re honestly not that bad! Although it is hard to inject yourself the first few times!

@ArchiesMamaBird so sorry to hear you’ve had some shitty news. Everything crossed you get your bfp soon

@BellaMoon @Anna2006 @Ohb0llocks thank you all so much, it really means a lot ☺️ and I can totally see it from your perspective, if I'd felt like someone had told me to do one then I wouldn't want to hang around!

Long story short (here I go with the oversharing lol) I found out that I have a blocked left Fallopian tube which I think is a result from my emergency c section that I had with DS. And our consultant was a bit of a Negative Norman and basically told us to stop trying and go for IVF. And a few weeks before all that DH lost his job and is still out of work (not through lack of trying, bless him) so things have been a little bit stressful.

BUT in keeping with the PMA, we are so bloody lucky to have our little Archie who is such a little angel and literally lights up our world ☺️ and I've done my research and so many people go on to get pregnant when they have a blocked tube, so I'm sure it will happen for us, it's just going to take that little bit longer xx

aw @Anna2006 that’s longer than i anticipated but i’m sure you will do just fine. it’s daunting but you’ll do whatever it takes. i think that’s lesson 1 in the “mummy manual” isn’t it? like you say, give yourself a few days and hopefully you’ll settle right into the routine xx

@ArchiesMamaBird that’s sooo PMA, i take my hat off to you chic. Oh we have no room in our lives for negative norman, he can do 1! do you feel now though that you know about the blockage that you can relax a little or has it heightened any anxieties? i only ask as i have a friend in a similar situation. she has gone into shut down mode, refusing to speak to any1 about it. if you don’t mind me asking of course, if you’d rather not say i totally get that. i’m a little worried for my friend as she has started drinking a lot lately and appears to be extremely upset but won’t even talk to her husband xx

@BellaMoon for the first few hours afterwards I was gutted and couldn't stop crying, but then put my practical head on and did some research. But I definitely feel like it's taken the pressure off a load now. I know that it's out of our hands and that there was a reason that it's taken so long. I think I was so scared to be told that there was nothing wrong and no medical reason why it wasn't happening, I'd be going crazy by now if that was the case! And I've started to relax a bit now too, so I'll have a drink when I want one, I'm not drinking 3 cups of raspberry leaf tea a day etc. So that's nice to just stop worrying and trust that it will happen when it's meant to ☺️

I'm so sorry about your friend, we all deal with things differently don't we. If you google it there's so many success stories out there, so fingers crossed it will happen for her soon xx

Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time ArchiesMamaBird, but sounds like you're keeping positive. Good luck on your journey!

They did say on our maternity unit tour that we were welcome to make use of the plugs in the rooms Rose :) Probs no bad thing I'll not have any technology there though, as want to minimise distractions during labour so I can stay focused. Haven't listened to my natal hypnotherapy CD this time round as much as I'd have liked to, but going to try to find time each day now till I go into labour.

I take back what I said then Ohb0llocks! Can't remember how long my actual labour was recorded as last time, probs way less than 36 hours though, as took me so long to get past 3cm, but then once I did things progressed fairly quickly or so it seemed, as think was still about 8hrs to birth once I'd got to 6cm, which is not quick at all!

Hope your appointment goes well tomorrow Anna

Hey @ArchiesMamaBird sorry to hear about the tube - I’m loving your positivity though! Hopefully u will get ur BFP soon!!!

I agree with @BellaMoon it was a bit strange it was all arranged hush hush and totally silence on the thread so I don’t think any of us girls would have commented. But as usual it’s appears to be the same person causing the hassle so we will leave it at that z

thanks @ArchiesMamaBird that’s so positive of you to have got your head around things quite quickly. i have a feeling my friend is more concerned due to her age, she’s 39 next year. i want to support her as much as i can but i’ll just have to be patient i reckon. she has a blocked tube and low egg reserves so IVF is still on the cards at the moment but they want to do more test before they commence anything. i feel for her so much, i’m sure she will open up in time but it’s hard to watch her struggle with things xx

PMA all the way chic, you’re doing a fab job there xxx

Hope your DH finds something soon Archie’s, my DH is also out of work at the mo, although it was out of choice, so kinda positive thing to start with. I’m sure I read something about the best quality eggs tend to come from the right side, so most women ovulate more from the right than the left. Glad your still keeping the PMA, it can just take a long while but that’d be easier to accept if someone wud just let you know the ruddy date you’d get lucky so you knew what you were aiming for!. I’m lucky that although I was 2 years plus ttc I did have a very relaxed see what happens approach to begin with. As the 6+ months I did all the tracking really started to mess with my head.

I keep falling asleep with my cd baking I’ve just started to listen to the labour prep one, before I was using just the relaxation one

Hope your appointment goes well Anna

@BellaMoon that must be so hard for you to not be able to console her and make her feel better. I'm lucky that I have time on my side and have at least another 10 years of good eggs so we're going to wait a while before entertaining the IVF idea. I truly hope that your friend gets some positive news (or even better a BFP) soon ☺️

@Roseandbee I'm going to follow your example and stop tracking everything and just relax and see what happens.

@AmandaP86x I can totally see how it looks like everything was done secretly and it does look a bit shitty tbf. But I don't think anyone meant for it to be like that. I'm still going to pop on here if any of you do happen to post here with news and pictures when you have your gorgeous babies ☺️ and FX I'll get to announce my own good news soon 🙊 xx

would be amazing to see you back with your BFP @archies , it will happen, you got this! xxx

come on @Moo31 we need deets on this little boy blue you’ve got. hoping you’re home and settling into family life already (but we still need an update pllleeeaaassseeeee) x

Hi everyone

I just wanted to clarify that the setting up of the TTC f/b group was not done with ‘shitty’ intentions and neither was suggesting two threads.

I do not wish to argue with anyone and I sincerely wish you all the very best.

I found this online and thought that you ladies may find it useful -

www.babynamewizard.com/voyager

All the best
xxx